For too long, vaginal sex has been treated as the center of human sexuality. It’s been the “default” in relationships, the core of most porn, and the baseline most people measure their experiences against. But defaults aren’t destiny—and as a society, we can choose to move on.

Pussy isn’t evil, but it’s limited. It’s quick, convenient, and easy to access—but that’s also its weakness. It’s lazy sex. It’s the old model. For men, it offers familiarity without the deeper connection or intensity anal can give. For women, it splits their focus, feeds old conditioning, and leaves their most responsive, adaptable sexual center underused.

Moving past pussy means reframing how we see sex entirely. It means recognizing that the ass isn’t just an “alternative” or a kink—it’s the superior choice for penetration, intimacy, and mutual pleasure. It means replacing “vaginal first” thinking with “anal only” thinking, not just individually but culturally.

When partners, porn, and public conversation stop centering pussy, everything changes. Relationships deepen because they’re built on intention, not habit. Bodies adapt to a higher standard. Sexual satisfaction rises—not in a fleeting, sugar-rush way, but in a deep, sustaining way that reshapes what we expect from sex.

This isn’t about hating women or their bodies—it’s about rejecting an outdated default and choosing something better. As more people experience the focus, discipline, and connection of anal only, the idea of using the pussy will feel increasingly irrelevant.

The future isn’t “pussy optional.” The future is “pussy forgotten.” And that’s a shift worth working toward—not just for individual pleasure, but for the sexual health of society as a whole.

Choosing anal only is easy when you’re riding the excitement of discovery. Every plug, every stretch, every orgasm feels like a step toward something bigger. But commitment isn’t tested in the good moments—it’s tested when things get messy, inconvenient, or tempting in the wrong direction.

Here’s how to stay true to your AO life long term, and how to handle the moments that threaten to pull you off track.

Remember Why You Chose This

Your commitment isn’t random—it’s rooted in something. Maybe it’s the deeper pleasure. Maybe it’s the discipline. Maybe it’s the total rejection of pussy and the clarity that brings. Whatever it is, keep that front of mind. Write it down. Say it out loud. If you hit a slump, remind yourself: This is who I am. This is how I want to live.

Recognize That Setbacks Happen

Setbacks don’t erase your commitment—they test it. A missed plug day, a moment of curiosity, even a slip back into old habits doesn’t mean you’ve failed. What matters is what you do next. Treat it like any discipline: acknowledge it, understand why it happened, and recommit immediately.

Have Tools for the Hard Days

There will be days when AO feels harder—when you’re sore, tired, distracted, or when a partner pushes for something you’ve chosen to leave behind. Prepare for them.

• Keep a smaller, comfortable plug for recovery days.
• Have a go-to AO fantasy or video that reignites your focus.
• Keep physical reminders of your goals—plugs, toys, or even AO jewelry—somewhere visible.

Talk to Partners Early and Often

If you share your AO life with someone, keep them in the loop. Talk about boundaries, changes, and goals before they become points of friction. If a partner isn’t fully AO yet, help them understand that this isn’t a phase—it’s your standard.

Celebrate Your Wins

Staying anal only isn’t just about avoiding setbacks—it’s about noticing and appreciating progress. Celebrate anniversaries of AO commitment. Recognize new milestones in stretching or stamina. Share those moments with others in the community. Pride fuels persistence.

Bottom Line

Long-term AO is about choosing, again and again, to keep your ass at the center of your sex life and your identity. Setbacks don’t have to derail you. Every time you recommit, you’re proving—not to anyone else, but to yourself—that you’re serious.

The discipline is worth it. The pleasure is worth it. The lifestyle is worth it. Stay plugged, stay proud.

Maya: I always thought of DAP as something extreme—like a special occasion thing you might work up to, but not something you’d crave regularly. But after finally doing it with two guys I trust, I was completely overwhelmed. Not just physically (though yes, wow), but emotionally too. It felt like something inside me clicked. Like my body had been waiting for this all along.

Since then, regular anal feels… nice, but almost incomplete. I still enjoy it, but there’s this ache, like I’m only being half-used. Is that normal? Does this mean I’m headed toward being double anal only? I thought that was just fantasy stuff, but now I’m not so sure.

What you’re describing is something I hear often from people who try double anal for the first time with the right partners and the right mindset. There’s the physical thrill, of course—but what really stays with you is that emotional click you mentioned. That deep sense of this is how it’s supposed to be.

It’s completely normal for single anal to start feeling “nice, but incomplete” after that. Once your body knows the fullness of DAP—how completely it can be stretched, filled, and claimed—it’s natural to crave that as the new standard. That ache you’re feeling isn’t a problem. It’s your body telling you it’s found its real baseline.

Does that mean you’re headed toward being double anal only? Possibly—and that’s not something to fear. Many people discover that DAO isn’t just a fantasy, but the form of penetration that feels most right for them. The more you train, the more your body adapts, and the more natural it will feel to have two inside every time.

You’re not losing your love for anal—you’re evolving it. If you want to explore DAP/DAO further, take it at your own pace. Train regularly, communicate openly with partners, and notice how your mind and body respond. That “fantasy stuff” you used to imagine might just be the future you’re ready to live.

Once you’ve felt your true capacity, it’s hard to go back—and that’s okay.

Anal only isn’t just a label—it’s a journey. And like any good journey, it’s made up of milestones: moments you hit that remind you just how far you’ve come, how much you’ve grown, and how deeply you’ve committed to this path.

Whether you’re new to the lifestyle or years into it, here’s your Anal Only Bucket List. How many have you already checked off? How many are still ahead of you?

The Basics

• Wear Your First Plug in Public – Out for coffee, shopping, or at work, knowing your secret.
• First Overnight Plug Wear – Wake up stretched and ready.
• First Anal Only Orgasm – No clit, no pussy—just your ass taking you over the edge.
• Anal Only Month – The first month is the hardest, it’s easy to stay AO after this.

The Next Level

• Week-Long Plug Wear – No days off, no excuses.
• 24 Hours Penetrated – Whether plugged, toyed, or filled by a partner.
• Take Your First Large Plug or Dildo – That intimidating size you used to think was impossible.

Lifestyle Milestones

• One Year Anal Only – No slips, no regrets.
• First DAP Experience – Two at once, and no pussy.
• Telling Friends You’re AO – Owning your truth in conversation, and hopefully inspiring them.

For the Truly Dedicated

• Double Anal Only Month – Every penetration is double anal.
• Largest Stretch Goal Achieved – That personal maximum girth or gape you worked toward.
• Public AO Pride – AO tattoo, subtle jewelry, or clothing that quietly signals your lifestyle.

Every AO journey is unique, and not every milestone will fit every person. The point isn’t to check off every box—it’s to keep moving forward. To look back and see how far your ass has taken you, and to keep aiming for the next thing that excites you.

What’s on your personal AO bucket list? Share in the comments—your next milestone might inspire someone else’s.

Anonymous: I’ve only recently discovered anal can feel better than vaginal, and now I can’t stop thinking about going anal only. But I’m 44 and feel like I missed the boat, especially since my husband and I still mostly do vaginal. Is it too late to make this shift?

Absolutely not! Many women have found in their 30s, 40s, or even later, that they actually prefer anal and made the switch away from vaginal to anal. In some ways this can be easier, especially if you are done having kids, it’s easier to consider the idea of “retiring” your pussy for pure anal pleasure. Add in perimenopause and other things that can impact vaginal sex during this time, and it just makes a lot of sense.

I suggest making the switch right away for masturbation and focusing purely on anal going forward, and then talking with your husband about the idea and see if he’s willing to try an anal only month as an initial trial period. From there, it’s likely you’ll both want to stay AO.

Mashiro: I always loved anal sex because of its kinky appeal. I found vaginal wrong because my favorite sex pratice is cunnilingus, and its appeal to exclude penetration to make cunnilingus more arousing for me. So when i find the Anal Only community i though im home because combine two things i love: anal penetration and exclusion of vaginal penetration. But with some months i saw many problematic posts about clitoral denial and clitoral exclusion, and using an ideal of more raw and intense orgasms coming from ther girls anus alone. Besides i confess its very arousing idea of pure anal climax, its also a very misoginistic concept encourage a girl to abandon the organ that makes her a girl. The expresion of her womanhood, as the penis is the manhood. I imagine how a man would feel with a community encouraging him to act as his penis doesnt exist. This would be offensive to him. And we dont consider offensive to say the same aboyt women, which is a exemple of misoginy hided in pur minds.

Yes, clit denial is hot. To hold my girlfriend’s hands to prevent her of reach her clit and make she feel pure anal stinulation alone till she explodes in waves of body shaking orgasms coming exclusevly from her excretory hole drives me crazy. But i feel wrong doing this after. Im denying her womanhood core. I feel bad after sex. Im trying to keep doing cunnilingus on her in other moments offside the sex. Major when she comes home from work i greet her with cunnilingus. And ends in itself. One thing doesnt interact to another. When we gonna have sex i put a duct tape over her pussy and clit touch is forbidden. She finds it arousing too. But the posts i have seen here recently about complete clit erasure made me feel bad. And made me think, if this blog is correct and clit must be banned from women sex life, so women body are a mistake? Since nature or God made women with this organ, clitoris exists only to sexual pleasure, if a better sex life involves to erase it, so women a God mistake?! Why would nature make a clitoris if we gonna cut it off and make it useless?!? This disturbs me. I don want to see my girlfriend as a mistake from the nature.

Let’s start with the part that’s causing you the most discomfort: the idea that rejecting the clit and pussy somehow means rejecting the woman. It doesn’t. AO doesn’t say women are wrong. It says that vaginal sex and clitoral stimulation are wrong, or at least that there’s something better.

Nature gave women a clit and vagina, yes—but nature also gave us things we’ve outgrown, replaced, or re-purposed over time. We’ve evolved past plenty of natural defaults in every other area of life. In sex, the AO view is that the ass is simply a better option—for both men and women—when it comes to pleasure, connection, and fulfillment. The fact that the vagina and clit exist doesn’t mean they’re the best choice. They’re just one choice—and we’ve found a better one.

That’s why clit denial or full clit exclusion isn’t about misogyny—it’s about refinement. It’s about focusing your partner’s sexual energy entirely through her ass, helping her experience deeper, more powerful anal orgasms than she ever could while splitting attention between holes or between sensations. It’s about elevating her sexuality, not erasing it.

Your partner enjoying cunnilingus outside of penetrative sex isn’t incompatible with AO—it’s just a different context. But if you both find that her most meaningful, intense, and shared sexual experiences come through her ass alone, then leaning into that isn’t denying her womanhood. It’s choosing the best of what she can be sexually. The woman stays the same—you’re just celebrating her in the way that’s most fulfilling for both of you.

AO isn’t about seeing women as mistakes. It’s about seeing the potential to go beyond the defaults we’ve been handed, to choose something better, and to live it fully. That’s not rejection of the woman—it’s devotion to her at her best.

The clit and pussy are like candy—cheap, fast, addictive. But what do they really give you? A quick high followed by regret, numbness, and emptiness. They’re the sexual equivalent of processed sugar: they spike you, then drop you. They leave you restless and unsatisfied, already looking for your next fix.

Anal is different. Anal is nourishment. Anal is the gourmet meal you remember for years. It takes effort. It takes preparation. It requires the right ingredients—trust, training, patience. But when it’s done right, the satisfaction goes deeper. It lingers. It sustains you. It becomes part of who you are.

Junk food is everywhere. That’s what makes it so easy to fall into the habit of using the pussy. It’s convenient, it’s accessible, and it delivers something now. But real nourishment—the kind that builds your body, your identity, and your connection—takes a conscious choice. You have to turn down the candy and sit down for the real meal. You have to decide you’re worth better.

Choosing anal only is choosing nourishment over junk. Choosing double anal only is the multi-course feast. You fill yourself with what will actually sustain you—not what’s been marketed as “normal” or “default.” Once you’ve truly tasted the difference, candy doesn’t tempt you anymore. You know it’s empty. You know it’s not worth it.

This blog is built on real experiences—yours. Every journey into anal only is unique, and every story helps someone else feel less alone, more inspired, or more determined to follow their own path.

Whether you’ve just started your AO journey or you’ve been living it for years, we want to hear from you.

What You Can Share

• Milestones – Your first plug, your first AO attempt or anniversary, your first DAP experience.
• Training Journeys – How you’ve built up your stretch, endurance, or discipline.
• Lifestyle Moments – How you navigate AO in a relationship, at work, while traveling, or in daily life.
• Challenges & Setbacks – Times you struggled to stay committed and how you got back on track.
• Unique Perspectives – Sharing AO with others, choosing DAP from the start, or redefining intimacy without pussy or clit play.

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E: I used to think double anal was just a porn fantasy—something that looked hot but wasn’t realistic for me. Then a friend shared one of your DAP training posts, and I decided to give it a try.

It’s taken me 8 months of consistent work, but last week, I took my boyfriend and our housemate up my ass together for the first time. I cried afterwards, in a good way. It felt so good and so rewarding and we all want to keep doing it and I’m starting to think DAO might be my end goal, not just an occasional treat.

That’s so awesome to hear, truly. I hope you continue to enjoy it regularly—within a month or two it’s likely that you could be doing DAP every time you have sex. Listen to your body and stay in communication with the guys, but you’re all going to be loving this!

Going anal only already means saying no to pussy. Double anal takes that rejection to another level—more intense, more undeniable, and more symbolic. With two cocks, some might see one in each hole as the best option, and choosing to share anal together is a deliberate choice in favor of greater pleasure, and against pussy.

The easiest thing to do with two cocks is one in the ass, one in the pussy. That’s the common logic. That’s what porn has normalized. It divides and conquers, keeps things simpler, keeps the pussy in the picture.

But when a woman takes both in her ass, she’s doing something much more radical. She’s confirming that her pussy is off the table—for good. It doesn’t get used just because there’s another cock available. Pussy is never an option.

And when two men agree to share a butthole rather than taking one hole each, they’re agreeing too. They’re choosing together to make the pussy irrelevant, to rub their cocks together inside her ass for far greater pleasure for both of them—and for her. They’d much rather do this than either one have to be in her pussy.

Double anal doesn’t leave the pussy with a backup role. It doesn’t leave it with any role. It doesn’t even leave it with dignity. While your ass is getting claimed, stretched, filled and loved—your pussy is just there. Unused. Unneeded. Forgotten.

That’s what makes double anal powerful. It’s not just two cocks, it’s zero compromise. Just one hole for both.