anal sex is better sex. It is much more intense, as you have discovered, and just feels a whole lot better when both people involved are open to it. I suggest you suggest your friend only have anal sex for one month. I’ll bet she comes back and thanks you.
The husband goes on to say:
She told me that “normal” sex is painful, and I can tell she is in pain. She enjoys oral but will only allow me to penetrate her anally.
My question is that we are intimate 2-3 times a week (usually), and I worry that we may be doing damage to her rectum? Even if we use a lot of lube can damage be done?
The doctor starts off well in her reply:
I do know that with proper lubrication and relaxing technique, anal sex isn’t harmful.
However, she then becomes sidetracked by this obsession that this signifies that there must be something wrong with the relationship; that the wife is bored, lacks sexual desire or is somehow repressed.
It never occurs to her once that maybe the wife chooses to only have anal sex because she enjoys and prefers it to vaginal.
Read the whole story here.
Anonymous: Totally astonished! My wife has taken up the “National Anal Sex Month” challenge for the final week! In celebratory mood but got no one else to share the news with except you guys 🙂
Congratulations! I hope you have a great week.
This young 20 year old woman explains:
I have a problem that is beginning to drive me crazy, and I have already lost one boyfriend because of it.
I can only orgasm when my anus is being stimulated, that is not to say I don’t need my clitoris to orgasm, of course I do, it’s just that I can’t really reach a peak without my bottom being touched or better still something in it.
Ever since starting to touch myself I liked to touch my bottom, can’t really remember what it was that started me out I just always have, I also can’t remember exactly when this started, but it wasn’t always the way.
She goes on to say that she didn’t see this as a problem until her boyfriend left her – it seems to be the case that he felt he hadn’t been responsible for her pleasure somehow because her vagina was not involved. You’re right, that doesn’t make any sense. Nevertheless, she still worries about his hurt feelings.
Everyone is built slightly differently, and for some it can take some years before their sexual response matures and settles down. She is very fortunate as the orgasms caused by anal stimulation are much stronger, but she only began to question herself after her inexperienced boyfriend left her.
A more understanding partner would help her to explore and develop her anal needs, for as she herself says:
it’s true that it was uncomfortable to start with but after a couple of times I began to absolutely love it. So much in fact that every sex session would end with anal.
A 37 year old woman and her boyfriend have started to have anal sex. This is what she has to say about it:
I’d always wanted to try anal as something we could do occasionaly as a bit of variety and 4 months ago my boyfriend and I did it for the first time. It felt absolutely fantastic and didn’t hurt at all. We did it for hours and I had my strongest orgasms ever. Ever since that night we’ve only done anal, we never have ‘normal’ sex anymore because we both love anal so much more.
She’s happy until she speaks to a friend:
The other day I told my friend about it and she said there must be something wrong with me if I like it that much and that it can’t be good for me. Is she right? Is there something wrong with me for prefering anal to vaginal? And are there any health issues with doing it so much?
Read about it and the many encouraging responses here.
I guess Ive played in back for a long time by myself, and have a couple guy friends (kinda like boy friends i guess!) and we only play that way together… solves the pregnancy issue too (with a little care, I know). And it feels hotter to be naughty anyway! Since it doesnt matter to me Id rather be loved backwards until I get married and am trying to have kids (since there’s kinda no other way to do it hehe).
That will be special too, but only because its for having babies, very different from getting properly loved, which obviously requires a big boy in back to really feel it!
Anonymous: Something else I wanted to ask, but not enough space: I hear all the time about the proper way to do anal is to prepare, and you can’t just dive in there else you hurt her, and obviously sometimes it can’t be done because she has something up there already. Given all that, how do you make it work with anal only, and also kind of spur of the moment sex?
The need to prepare and take things super slowly is more important when starting out. As a woman becomes more experienced with receiving anal penetration, whether it be from penises, fingers or toys, she gains more muscle control over the area (contrary to the ridiculous popular myth that anal sex results in loss of muscle tone) and can relax her sphincter muscles at will to allow easy entry. You still generally need some sort of lube, but with an anally experienced couple you can just drop a little bit on and slowly slide right in, pain-free. It’s good to always err on the cautious side, and you can use a finger or toy up her ass during cunnilingus to help loosen her up before switching to full anal. Lots of women love butt plugs, worn either during foreplay or during the day to stay horny and a bit looser, making impromptu anal more feasible.
Most people can tell if they need to go to the bathroom, and notice it even more as they explore that area sexually. It’s generally not a big deal to go to the bathroom shortly before having anal sex. If you have a good diet, it’s fairly clean inside the rectum unless you need to go to the bathroom right then.
If you haven’t already visited luvmywifesass anal-only blog, make the time now. Although not updated so much recently, the blog was I believe the first of its kind to cover this subject exclusively.
I’ve picked out this post, as it lists a few of the many benefits of anal sex, something that you may wish to use as a starting point when discussing going anal only with your partner.
The post is has been updated by contributions discussing the recent scientific research (as reported extensively in the media) about the ‘alleged health benefits from semen for women’.
Follow the links in the post for more details about this particular claim. This reinforces the fact that as well as being greatly more enjoyable, anal sex has other positive benefits!
I love anal, my first boyfriend introduced me to it and while it hurt the first few times, I absolutely love it after. 9 years later I greatly prefer anal to vaginal sex.
i used to be like you – i would give anal to my boyfriend (now husband) only once in a while, as a treat. eventually, after several years i learned how to do it right and began to really enjoy it. now i like it as much or more than vaginal sex!
From here.