Anonymous: Why is it that some people are so angry at others for liking anal? Why does it bother them that other people enjoy it? Not only that, but they go out of their way to discourage anal by spreading all kinds of lies about it.

Probably because they were also told those lies and they made them afraid to try it, so they continue spreading them in the hopes that it doesn’t become more popular. If it continues to get more popular they’ll likely encounter more people who want or need anal and they want to discourage that from happening as much as possible out of fear.

They may have also simply had bad experiences with people who didn’t know what they were doing and think that their experience is true for everyone and anyone with a differing opinion on how great it can be is wrong or lying.

An anonymous user at girlsaskguys.com says:

Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now. In the past 10 or so months our sex has been mostly anal. I had a period for like 3 weeks straight because of this new birth control my doctor put me on and that’s when we started trying anal sex and it got to be really easy. I love it now and prefer it over regular sex. I use a dildo while he gives me anal and its been the best combination ever. We occasionally have vaginal intercourse but its been about 3 months since we did last. Are any other girls or couples like this?

It appears the evidence is building how more people are turning to anal only as a normal and valid sexual lifestyle.

Another fan here, who also wishes to say “keep up the good work”. You’re an inspiration!

I find it astounding that there are still so many people afraid of change (for the better!) and so persist in depriving themselves (and their partner!) of the very best kind of pleasure.

Still, I remain optimistic that with the right kind of encouragement and education we will eventually get through to people and transform their lives.

Now, back to my blog…

Anonymous: Could you tell me why anal sex is the best sex and natural too, whilst the vagina is useless, outdated, and stupid?

First, that’s a subjective viewpoint of someone who prefers anal (which is what makes up most of this blog’s audience). Not everyone does prefer anal, and for them it may not be true (but if they haven’t tried anal they might not know enough to actually say one way or the other, either).

In our opinion, anal is the best because for people who love it it feels better regardless of gender. For men penetrating it’s tighter/grippier and more textured than a vagina. For women being penetrated it makes them feel fuller and in many cases is able to better stimulate clitoral and g-spot connected nerves than vaginal penetration and they can orgasm from anal penetration alone, or have a much more amplified orgasm when cumming from clitoral stimulation while receiving anal sex.

It’s more natural because the shape of an anus better fits around a penis than a vagina, and there’s more of a primal sexual feeling during anal sex that you don’t get with the vagina. Furthermore, many of us who prefer anal were naturally more attracted to it from the start and always desired female anuses and anal penetration far more than vaginas and vaginal penetration. So for us it is more natural.

Saying the vagina is outdated is a reference to the growing popularity of anal sex and the increase in the number of couples who have gone anal only and given up vaginal sex completely. For someone who gets far more pleasure from anal than vaginal sex, the vagina is useless (or has much reduced usefulness) to them. But it’s not so much a degradation of the vagina as a lack of interest in it.

Recently my GF has some chat with her friends who got married and having anal some times. And one of them is only doing anal(as she said whether it is true or not). So with those things she is craving anal which we both never done before. I’m bit nervers and have less confidence how to do this and especialy not want to disapoint her..She is recently using small plugs and she is loving that so much..but I’m still nervers about it??? (Also I’m a huge fan of anal porn too 😛 just not sure to try it)

Don’t be foolish, try it. You want it. Your girlfriend wants it. This is your shot. Read up on it together, learn proper technique, start slowly just playing with her ass without having sex yet, and go from there as she’s comfortable with it.

thenakedwon: My wife, a few years ago, would do anal about once a month. For some reason, she won’t even try it anymore. Is there anything I can do to get her to do it again? I absoluty love it !!!! It’s much tighter than her vagina, and she would have mind blowing orgasms. I just don’t understand why she won’t try it any more. Do you have any tips or advice I can try? I don’t pressure her into trying it again, butt I miss it.

Talk to her about it. Ask her why she doesn’t want to try it anymore when she used to enjoy it and have great anal orgasms. If it’s health concerns, there is a lot of material out there about how anal sex doesn’t cause any problems to an already healthy anus (and can actually help with some problems). If it’s cleanliness, more fiber in the diet naturally leads to a cleaner rectum. If it’s pain, you can work with her to gradually build up to where she can fit your penis completely painlessly by warming up with fingers and toys. You want to make it as comfortable and pleasurable for her as you can and make her love it as well.

If she’s up for trying it, try rubbing the outside of her anus during vaginal sex, and fingering her anally during vaginal and oral. The idea here is to start getting her to associate anal penetration with pleasure and orgasms.

But you need to talk to her about it and see what her opposition is and if she’s open to some lower level anal play to start with again.

If nothing else, you could always see if there’s anything she wants you to try and both compromise.

Anonymous: Hi there. I’m a recent convert to anal sex, and wow i can see now why you talk about anal only. Its incredible. Like all the advice says we use a lot of lube and my girlfriend has no problems at all. If i try to get her to switch full time, is it best to just be honest or be gradual about it? Even though shes enjoying it (twice weekly for now) can you do too much starting out?

It’s definitely possible to overdo it at the beginning and get sore. But if you take things relatively slowly and build up to being able to handle a week of anal only, warming up properly each time and using lot of lube, chances are that longer periods of anal only are feasible as well.

It depends on how much she likes it initially, somewhat. If she loves it, bringing up that you want to try doing, say, a week of nothing but anal has a shot of working. Otherwise, just work anal in more regularly and build up to where you’re doing it half or more than half of the time and then bring up going fully anal for a while.

Just wanted to say keep up the good work of educating and encouraging people (particularly women) to try anal and maybe even give up pussy altogether. If more women knew what it felt like to cum with a cock up their ass, I’m sure they’d never go back;)

That seems to be the trend!

dumbandpretty: I’m a big fan of your blog. Although I adore anal, I don’t think I could ever give up vaginal. Any advice as to how I could, umm, tip the balance of preference in favor of anal? Thanks!

If you adore anal then you are already more than halfway there. Secondly, the fact that you are asking how to tip the balance indicates you have the positive blend of curiosity, interest and openness required to make the step in this direction. Perhaps you even already have the subconscious desire?

Saying that “I don’t think I could ever give up vaginal” is simply allowing a primitive biological programming for reproduction to hijack your higher cognitive functions. Or a fear that you are flouting social norms. This is about your pleasure, not caving in to convention or a ticking body clock.

If you really want to tip the balance, begin by making anal intercourse the default. Have it as often as possible, and make sure you provide clitoral stimulation, either manually or with a vibrator. Your body will naturally associate pleasure with anal sex, and with increased frequency it not only becomes easier but more enjoyable as well. Your body and brain just need a little help to learn.

Give it a try for a few weeks. What do you have to lose? If you aren’t ready to make the commitment yet, then make sure that anal play, caresses or analingus are part of every sexual encounter. There are thousands of nerves concentrated in that very small area, and you’ll soon find that once you’ve accepted that it is normal to receive pleasure in this way you’ll only want more of it.