Anonymous: You never mention the fact that most people find anal to be more emotionally and psychologically rewarding than vaginal, as well as the physical aspect. The overall experience is simply more fulfilling in some way. Personally, I think everyone would be much better off making anal the primary way of having intercourse and leaving vaginal for reproduction. I know there are some conservatives who will always want to stick with the traditional method though. Your thoughts?

Most couples who mutually enter an anal only relationship have confirmed this—their relationship in general becomes much closer, and they often both report their sex life being both more active and more fulfilling—physically and emotionally.

I don’t think you’re going to get much resistance from anyone on here when you suggest that everyone should be exclusively having anal sex for non-reproductive sex—but I’ll play devil’s advocate and remind everyone that everyone’s bodies and preferences are different and not every woman gets pleasure from anal sex or likes how it feels, and not every man is attracted to the anus or to anal sex. And that’s fine, and everyone should respect that rather than trying to push a partner into doing something they really don’t want to do.

Anonymous: I have recently started trying to masturbate anally (using fingers). Some tips on what to do in order to make it more pleasurable, and also how to widen the anus?

When many people start experimenting with anal play, they encounter the problem of having anything inserted into their anus making them feel like they need to go to the bathroom. This is a problem solved by two things, primarily: practice, and association of anal stimulation with other pleasurable things to make your body realize that things in your butt can be there for pleasure too.

While there are many people who masturbate or have sex anally with no other stimulation and get pleasure from that, it’s important to build up that association with other forms of pleasure, so you should masturbate in a manner known to bring yourself to orgasm (whether it be manually or with a vibrator) while also masturbating anally with your fingers or a toy. Experiment with different ways of doing this—some people get increased pleasure during orgasm just with the presence of something in their ass while others prefer to have it moving around or in and out in their ass during orgasm. The key is to regularly try to give yourself orgasms while masturbating anally at the same time. You should do this as much as possible.

To increase the size you can fit, you should insert whatever size you can currently comfortably fit and masturbate with that for a few minutes before carefully trying to insert something a little bit larger. If you can fit one finger, increase to two. If it hurts, don’t just push it in anyway—push it to the point where it hurts and then back off and push again, repeating until the pain at that point isn’t there any more and you can insert further. Pain tells you you’re stretching things too quickly and need to warm it up more first before continuing.

Consider also getting a butt plug which you can wear for extended periods of time during the day, while masturbating, or during other forms of sex. This helps train your anal muscles to have more control over tightness and looseness, helps get you used to the feeling of something inside, and just feels good.

Anonymous: I live in an open relationship with my husband but I only have anal sex with my lovers which I meet about once a week. I started doing it like that because I felt bad for my husband when they made me cum (I don’t believe in rubbing my pussy during sex). My husband doesn’t like anal. But since I have more often sex with my lovers than my husband I’ve grown to almost prefer anal sex. What should I do?

Ask your husband for anal at least some of the time? Or does he flat out refuse ever doing it? Incorporate anal toys like butt plugs or anal beads into your sex life with your husband so that you still receive anal stimulation? Or you could just be honest and admit that you prefer anal sex and need it to be sexually satisfied—but you’ll of course have to deal with the repercussions of that.

It’s a common result of having anal sex more often that you come to not only enjoy it, but to greatly prefer it to vaginal sex. Especially since you don’t rub your pussy, anal can give far more pleasure on its own than your vagina can, since vaginal sex requires clitoral stimulation for most women to enjoy it.

I would suggest the honesty route and ask him to try doing anal with you more often and show him just how amazing it really is to fuck your ass, and over time shift towards more and more anal until you don’t use your pussy at all anymore and are anal only with everyone.

Anonymous: I honestly only like anal and AO Lifestyle is the way to go! I’ll be heading back to the pussy when it’s time to make some babies till then it’s the sweetest rawest anal pleasure I can achieve with my gurl.

That’s great! There’s just honestly no reason to have vaginal sex at all unless you’re trying to get pregnant, and to an enthusiast of the anal only lifestyle, reproduction is the only valid time for vaginal. Otherwise, enjoy all anal all the time!

Anonymous: Is it safe for my boyfriend to cum inside my ass when he’s fucking me? I don’t mind swallowing it but I would love for him to fill me up.

Generally, yes. There’s a very slight chance of semen leaking out and entering your vagina, but as long as you are careful this is largely a non-issue.