takes2enjoy: We really love you blog!! It is so interesting to read all these questions about anal. Your answers helped us out with exploring anal a little more. This month we try as much anal we can handle and it’s really fun! Keep up this good work!

I’m glad to hear it, and I hope you stick with the anal fun!

Anonymous: Thank you so much for your support and advice about the anal play while Crohn’s disease is making my tummy uncomfortable. I like the hybrid idea you talked about and will give it a try. And thank you for reassuring me that I’m still feminine even if I can’t be a total fucktoy all the time. 🙂 *hug hug* That’s why I love your tumblr.

Good luck! I hope you’re able to find a system that works well for you.

kinkyflo: Hello again 🙂 Im getting annoying yet?? Since I’m really loving my plug and the feeling of having my ass full I wanna buy another one and since you are the expert I want to know if you could help me… I’ve seen the princess plugs all over tumblr and I do think they are beautiful but Im wondering which material is better stainless steel or glass? Specially for a long period of time. Thank you so much!

Questions and requests for advice are never, never annoying and always welcomed from everyone!

Both stainless steel and high quality glass can be good materials for plugs. Some people have a fear of glass breaking, but I haven’t ever heard of that being a problem with a properly constructed plug. Both are hard materials with no give to them, obviously, which is a different experience from something softer like silicone, but a lot of people love it. They’re both also quite slick and so can stay comfortable longer without needing to reapply lube as often, something other materials may not do as well.

The majority of jeweled plugs are going to be stainless steel, but there are some glass ones too. Due to their huge popularity, there are a lot of cheap and poorly made ones flooding the market lately, so shop around a bit. The cheaper ones may work fine, but be very careful to check for defects from the manufacturing process that may create a sharp edge or burr before wearing it.

Also consider that a jeweled plug may not be designed for long term comfort if you want to wear it for an extended period of time. That doesn’t mean they’re bad at all, and you can certainly wear them comfortably for quite a while, but you may want to consider a different and more ergonomic design if you’d like to start wearing plugs long term. If you enjoy plugs, no doubt you’ll end up with a collection of several different ones for different purposes!

This was originally posted on the anal only porn blog that accompanied this blog on Tumblr, so it refers to fantasy content that existed on there.

Anonymous: I read your tumblr during self play all the time. I love it! I love anal play, but I’ve just been diagnosed with Crohn’s disease, which means that (probably for the rest of my life) I have “tummy trouble” that makes my rectum sore- in a bad way! My doctor, who is queer and sex-positive, says to use common sense, lube, and not to do anal if it hurts. I like sex to be a part of every day, but I can’t do anal that often. But I know I HAVE TO have anal in order to be a real woman. What can I do?

Thank you for the kind words, I’m very glad you enjoy the blog.

First of all, despite the places of fantasy this blog sometimes goes, no one should feel they have to do any sort of sex act to be a “real woman” (or a “real man”, or a “real” anything). I imagine you are well aware of this fact and simply enjoy that fantasy as well as I do, but I don’t want anyone to actually feel pressured into doing anything based on other people’s expectations. A woman who prefers vaginal sex is a real woman, a woman who prefers anal sex is a real woman, a woman who prefers oral sex is a real woman, and a woman who doesn’t like sex at all is a real woman. This blog happens to be about women who prefer anal, but shouldn’t be seen as a criticism of those who don’t even if my captions may sometimes dip perhaps a little too close to that suggestion.

To get more into your actual question, however, this isn’t an area I have a great deal of experience with, unfortunately. I have read occasional accounts of people with both Crohn’s and Celiac disease who enjoy anal sex and talked about the challenges they faced. I would suggest searching for such subjects and seeing if you can find relevant discussions.

As Crohn’s disease is an inflammatory disorder, I suspect (but do not know, as I am not a doctor!) that it may be a bad idea to engage in things like long term butt plug wear, as this has the potential to increase irritation and inflammation. Other than that, I would highly suggest following your doctor’s advice and approaching it with caution but not giving up on it. If it does turn out that you cannot engage in anal sex or play as frequently as you would prefer, you will have to decide what is more important for you—being able to engage in daily sexual activity or being primarily or exclusively anal oriented. There’s also the option of a sort of hybrid approach where you may engage in edging through non-anal means regularly but only orgasm when you are able to do anal play.

Anonymous: My wife and I have a lot of anal and one day I hope we can go fully anal only. But that’s another story. My problem is that when we have anal she still wants to play with her pussy but I would prefer she left it alone as I think we should both focus on the anal so we enjoy it completely without other distractions. I think anal is better this way and how its meant to be. Any advice on getting her to keep her hands off so her thoughts are just on my cock in her ass?

That really should be up to her. Not everyone can feel the same level of pleasure just from anal on its own, and some women need to combine anal with clitoral stimulation in order to enjoy it. That’s perfectly fine if that’s what they need, even if the idea of pure anal only with no other stimulation may be appealing. Your partner’s enjoyment should probably come first, though.

You can always talk to her about the idea of experimenting with sex a few times where she just focuses on the anal without touching to see if she can get a different sort of pleasure that way or learn to orgasm just from anal. She might be interested to give it a try, or mix it in occasionally. But if not, you should respect that. Ultimately, it doesn’t actually affect you in any sort of negative way, and if it’s what she needs in order to want to have anal sex, it’s certainly not worth trying to stop if you want to continue having anal.

jessicarabs2016: We went 4 days for AO. In 12 days I’ll be going over again for another 4 days of AO….when he wasn’t using my ass, he was killing my pussy with fisting me so that we forget and stretch it and make me remember the pain 4-ever. AO for life!!

Congratulations. Are you staying anal only in your solo play between seeing him?

The original poster responded:

Not really as I don’t have anything to do it with…nor has he said he wants me to do anything between…otherwise I totally would.

Does that mean you aren’t masturbating at all between seeing him or masturbating clitorally/vaginally in between and doing anal only when with him? No judgement either way, I’m just curious! Also either way, you might enjoy getting a butt plug to wear when you aren’t together to remind yourself of him and keep your attention focused on your ass.

misslutification: Sorry that’s my fault

erased-nights: Hahahaha. I forgive you.

misslutification: Thank you.
My pussy is on restriction.
So the more anal I post I hope I forget i have a pussy.

Anonymous: My girlfriend and I had anal sex for the first time ever last night! She LOVED it! I just wanted to tell you, because I’m so excited.

Congratulations! Make sure it’s always an incredibly enjoyable experience for her and there’s a good chance she’ll want to have it regularly.

Anonymous: Thanks so much for the encouragement <3 For me the biggest problem is it feels -too- good, especially when he used a finger. If we’re having sex and he puts a finger in my bum I feel like I have to cum right away. My ass is so sensitive and always has been. I have way stronger orgasms when I cum with a finger up there, so I can’t imagine how good it’ll feel with a cock! If we practice every day how long before I can take the whole thing? Or even half, I’m dying to get creampied lol

That doesn’t necessarily sound like a problem, unless you become too sensitive to continued stimulation after orgasm, or lose interest in continuing. Rapid orgasms can be quite fun if you can experience multiple orgasms. If not, however, you’ll just need to continue experimenting and learn what type of anal stimulation makes you more likely to cum quickly, then avoid that until you’re ready.

I would suggest not rushing things too much, even as excited as you are to get fucked. You want to make sure you’re really ready and won’t injure yourself (which would then put a damper on future play for a little while). Because of that, I can’t really say how long it might take. Once you’re able to relax yourself to the point that he can comfortably fit inside you and it doesn’t rapidly become uncomfortable, then you’re probably ready to try more.

Anonymous: I’m being anal trained and I look at your blog every day for inspiration. I can’t wait to be like the girls on here with a big cock stuffed all the way up my bum! So far we’ve only got the head in, but I’m determined to take the whole thing soon. Encourage me?

Congratulations on deciding to take the step to be anally trained! For a lot of people, that can be the hardest part—wanting to and having the courage to start trying. The fact that you do want it and are excited to get there is a big positive, and as long as you stick with it you will get there.

Keep training, gradually increasing the thickness and depth you can comfortably fit, don’t push too far to the point that it’s actively painful, and just as importantly, make sure you always have a good time with it. Everybody’s different, and it’ll take as long as it takes, but if you’re enjoying the process it’ll seem to go by in no time before you’re ready to get fucked up the ass.