Anonymous: My boyfriend and I did anal only for three weeks and it was great, no pain or anything. However, I started to loose my ability to orgasm from it. We tried less lube, tried no plug before. He said I still felt tight but I haven’t been around to orgasm as easily as I was before from anal. Any help? I’m thinking it’s taking me longer, but my bf can’t last that long.

I’m sorry to hear that, and I’m even more sorry that I don’t have any particularly great advice to offer as this is not a situation I have any experience with. I doubt the plug use before or amount of lube would have anything to do with it, and I recommend continuing to use the plug if it’s necessary for warmup and as much lube as you need. Tightness shouldn’t be a factor either (and you’re not going to get loose just because you’ve started having a lot of anal sex—it doesn’t work that way).

It’s possible that your sensitivity has decreased somewhat as it’s become less of a new thing and you’ve gotten used to it, so to speak. I would suggest trying a few things.

1. Temporarily (for the purposes of experimentation) reduce how often you have sex so that you’re more aroused when you do have it. You could try coupling this with edging if you wanted to increase your arousal level between sex. You can also try adding edging without reducing the frequency of sex if it seems like that works better.
2. Spend some time experimenting, both on your own and with your boyfriend, to see what feels best. Try different angles and positions, try with and without different forms of clitoral stimulation (manual, vibrator), etc.
3. Along those lines, are you combining clitoral stimulation with the anal penetration, or had you been orgasming from anal alone? If the latter, there’s certainly nothing wrong with using your clit if you need it to orgasm.
4. Try to spend more time during foreplay getting your ass ready and getting turned on with fingers and toys during oral, etc., so that you’re already partway there by the time you begin anal intercourse.

I hope something there might be helpful, and that you’re able to get back into enjoying anal at the same level you had been. Good luck, and please feel free to follow up if you’re successful or have any further questions.

misslutification: The more I associate myself with anal and facefuck the more i forget I have a pussy.

More anal…

More facefuck.

I haven’t been able to keep my dildo out of my ass.
Every chance I get to shove something up my ass I go for it.

It feels so good

kinkyflo: My anal plug just came in the mail!!! Is my very first and I´m super excited and I wanted to share it with you since I´m taking notes from all your tips and getting all aroused with your post 🙂

I’m so glad! Good luck and enjoy, I’m sure you’ll have a lot of fun with it!

My ass is an erogenous zone for me. I never get so wet so fast as when Jake starts to kiss me there. I feel fortunate to be physically built to take my husband’s penis in my ass. Since you asked; yes, it fits very nicely and did so even the very first time we went “all the way”. That being said, my ass is very tight like everyone else’s is; it is made to stay closed the majority of the time, after all. Because of this, I am tight every time and my husband feels huge every time. I enjoy the sensation of a complete fill, even being stuffed, which makes my orgasms incredibly strong. Sex for me is now rarely complete if my ass is not involved to some degree.

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Anonymous: Since taking your advice on butt plugs, I haven’t even had my butt plug for three days and my ass is ready to take a very big and very thick cock. I’m ready to go anal only. 🙂

I’m glad to hear it. I would also suggest using a dildo in training, because while being able to fit a certain width plug is an important part of the process, you do also want to train for the in and out motion of sex. Keep it up, and take the anal only plunge.

jessicarabs2016: Me and Daddy started our AO August tonight (we haven’t seen each other in a few days…) and I must admit, it feels so good to only be anal. 🙂

Congratulations! You’ve made an excellent choice. Good luck, and have fun!

Anonymous: I was wondering, how many lesbians opt for an anal only lifestyle? My gf and I are considering this for both of us and we’d like to try Anal Only November.

I’ve definitely heard of lesbian couples doing so, but I don’t have any actual numbers. If you enjoy anal and like the idea of anal only, why not? Go for it!

Anonymous: How long is too long to wear a butt plug?like what if I fell asleep with a tail in?

As long as it’s comfortable. If it stays comfortable, it’s fine to keep in. The more you do it, the longer it will feel comfortable to keep it in.

Anonymous: Hiii please answer um I need advice for after anal relaxation ? For the being sore after ? And is training every day safe and what’s the best line option please

If you’re sore after, the best bet is to take a break until you aren’t sore. Sometimes it might be hard to avoid being sore when you first start out, but the goal should be to avoid being overly sore at all (beyond the general pleasant post-sex soreness that can be normal). Make sure you’re warming up enough and using enough lube throughout to reduce the risk of soreness. If it hurts at any point during, you aren’t quite warmed up enough yet, or you aren’t trained enough yet.

Daily training is fine as long as you aren’t overly sore and it doesn’t hurt. If it does, take as long as a break you need in between until the soreness goes away. You want to fully heal any minor injuries that may occur before they develop into bigger injuries.

From this article at YourTango:

Dr. Hilda Hutcherson loves sex toys, believes the world is much too pornophobic, and thinks more women should give anal sex a try. In other words, she’s the gynecologist every guy wants his girlfriend to meet.

Among the useful points she makes:

Can all women orgasm from anal sex? 
Every woman has the ability to orgasm, physiologically, because the space between her vagina and rectum is so thin that, in the doggie position, the penis is going to press up against her g-spot. Some women find it’s the easiest way to stimulate their g-spot.

How does a guy get a girl to let him in the back door when “open sesame” doesn’t work?
Well, the thing I can say to her as a doctor is, it’s not unsafe. She’s not going to be wearing a diaper, she’s not going to have fecal incontinence, she’s not going to be soiling herself or passing gas all day.

Now that we finally have doctors recommending anal sex to women, maybe we can finally put some of the more ridiculous claims about the ‘harmful’ side of anal sex to rest.