Anonymous: Hello, here I found so many people like me, I do not know, I thought I was different, I just experiment anal sex once a month, for a week, when my wife is menstruating, are the best days of my life, I wish this for all other days. I’m working on it. My wife asked me, accepting only have anal sex with me, but I will have to allow her to have vaginal sex with whom she wants, I do not know what to do, what do you think? Sorry errors, I’m from Brazil, used Google translator

That’s a tough one, I’m afraid, and a very personal decision you’ll have to make. Perhaps instead of making the ultimatum that you only want anal sex from her, you should approach it more gradually and do everything you can to make anal incredibly enjoyable for her as well, and then slowly try to increase the frequency you have anal. If you’re only having it one week a month currently, see if you can get her to have anal some other times as well—not exclusively at this point, just mixed in. Or you could try to do as some do and start vaginally but end anally. There are a lot of options, and you should discuss them with her to find something mutually satisfying.

Anonymous: Hi, I love your blog. but I’ve actually never had anal sex. I like to stick the tip of my finger when I am masturbating, but it’s rare. I’ve been thinking about having anal for real, with my boyfriend. Before I talk to him about it, I wanted to find out as much as I can about the whole thing. So I know that we need to start slow and I think I know enough about that side of things, but my worry is cleanliness and prep. When it’s my first time, do I need to prep like you’ve mentioned on ur blog b4

First, I encourage you to explore anal play more regularly while masturbating or even together with your boyfriend. Work on making that a regular part of your sex life, starting small with just one lubricated finger and working up in size as you feel ready, before trying anal intercourse.

Second, there are a lot of different opinions on cleanliness. Some go for all out enemas any time they have sex, but this can end up causing more of a mess and thus be time consuming to resolve. Others use a small anal douche to just flush out the rectum itself, which tends to be mostly empty most of the time anyway, and is usually where anal sex fully takes place. Others just go to the bathroom half an hour or so before and perhaps insert a butt plug, removing it before sex to verify continued cleanliness. If you have a fairly balanced diet with a healthy amount of fiber, the rectum tends to remain fairly clean. But, of course, if you’re going to have anal sex you should always be prepared for the possibility of an accident. As long as you and your partner both approach it in a mature manner, it really isn’t a big deal.

Anonymous: I’m sure you can start to get your anal urges back with fingers and plugs and ignoring your pussy, just focusing on your asshole whenever you’re horny. The cock craving will soon follow.

misslutification: Thats the plan.
I havent had anything in my pussy in such a long time. So now im just going to forget it exist at this point. Juat focus on my ass as my only fuck hole.

Anonymous: Still playing with your butt lately, or has that stopped too?

misslutification: Im slowly going to start loosening up my asshole again. Now that my gf and i broke up. My cock craving is coming back. However since i havent had a cock in my pussy in so long im just going to go straight back to anal only and possibly never use my pussy again til time for breeding

Anonymous: I love anal, but I’m new to it, and have some trouble getting past the fear of awkward accidents. I’m a bit fecal-phobic, and the idea of him getting any sort of” residue” terrifies me. I’d like to be able to do ATM sometimes. Any advice on prep?

First, accidents can happen and if you and a partner are engaging in anal play you should both be mature enough to accept that “risk” and recognize that it isn’t really that big of a deal in the event it does.

There are things you can do to mitigate the risk, however. Eating a balanced diet with a healthy amount of fiber does wonders to keep you fairly well cleaned out on its own. In general, the rectum does not hold any solid fecal matter except for when you feel the urge to use the restroom, and since most anal sex takes place entirely within the rectum, you’re mostly in the clear just from that. If you wanted to make sure even more, a quick anal douche shortly before you have sex just to rinse out the rectum would be fine. What you want to avoid when doing that is to have the water go too deep beyond the rectum where it can end up making more of a mess.

Along those lines, deeper enemas can be a possibility, but some people suggest they shouldn’t be done too often as they can over time lead to an imbalance in digestive bacteria, and they take a lot more time and effort to really get clean deeper. It’s also just generally unnecessary for most anal sex, but if you were wanting to engage in more extreme deep anal play then it would be a necessary preparation for most people.

You can always verify your cleanliness a little before you have sex by inserting a dildo, or even to a certain extent wearing a butt plug for 15 to 30 minutes prior to having sex.

pinkbeatzz: Sweeties,

on request of a visitor, I’ve decided to talk about the beginning of my anal-only life. Before I met my daddy I never really had anything to do with dt-BJs, anal sex etc. So, as you can guess, I was initially “shocked” and “frightened”.

At the beginning I was quite afraid to not fulfill his demands, since I had no experience. Thus also my fear of butt sex was pretty big. And yes, I must admit that – at first – I made it just for my daddy.

I don’t like the feeling of lubes and I often felt a kind of stinning at the beginning during penetration. Looking back, I suppose that was because of my fear of anal sex. So until recently, the butt sex-thingy was rather difficult and complicated for me until the day we only used my saliva – and yes, it has given me very much indeed. Since then I cannot get enough of feeling something in my ass – whether it’s his dick or my / his fingers. That is why I am also looking forward to get my three new plugs in 9 days.

Unfortunately I cannot say anything about how I managed to be able to get anal orgasms. I believe that it was there from the very beginning – as I can’t in any case remember not having had an anal orgasm. And just in case – no, I’m not kidding or faking and I know, that this might be kind of very rare. I’m afraid I can’t give any hints to others on this part – besides: repeatedly try it. Just get away from the thoughts, that your pussy is given you by birth as “the” only correct way. Maybe alter your masturbation-routine and involve your ass in any way. To get some kind of binding in your head between anal stimulation and orgasms. Just get your head used to be aroused by any kind of anal stimulation and then slowly reduce your clit-stimulation (or whatever you do 😉 ) or just end your clitoral stimulation right when the orgasm starts – so that your body links the feeling of your ass getting played with and orgasms. That might help – might. :-*

More opinions and questions are welcome.

XOXO
Daddysgirl

Anonymous: A while ago I messaged you for some advice, and I wanted to give you a happy update. Because of your blog I finally was brave enough to take the plunge…. I never thought anal would feel so good. I let my boyfriend fuck me up the bum at least once a week now, and we’re both starting to like it more than vaginal! For all the girls out there struggling with anal training, once you finally feel his cock in your bottom it’s all worth it!

Congratulations! I’m glad to hear it! Stick with it, and it will continue to be very rewarding.

Anonymous: I just wanted to say thank you. My GF and I tried no pussy november, wow did she like it. Anal was always her “favorite” thing, and one month of only anal has spoiled her so much she doesn’t want to go back. She’s just legitimately confused why her anal orgasms are so much more intense and satisfying after she gave up the idea of vaginal. Needless to say she is sold, we’re not going back to pussy ever.

Congratulations! It sounds like anal only is what was always best for her, she just needed to come to that realization, and after doing so and knowing she doesn’t need to keep doing something she finds less enjoyable and satisfying, she’s able to enjoy the anal even more and finds it more physically satisfying as a result. In a more general sense, though, it’s extremely common for women to find anal orgasms far more powerful than vaginal.

Anonymous: I’m I huge fan of you and your blog :)) I admire the determination and the honestly you show in every hate message you receive from the crowd! I respect that :)) me and my GF do ENJOY anal sex (and vaginal too, sorry XD, I know you are tolerant) I just want to encourage you to keep going and if some folks try to discourage you than tell them to go fuck some butt hole before talking about it 🙂 I mean if they did they will send you flowers instead of hate messages 🙂 so keep up with ANAL! Cheers.

Honestly, hate messages are exceedingly uncommon. Most people who contact me either enjoy anal or recognize that others do even if they don’t personally, and don’t act like trolls about it. Both recent angry messages undoubtedly came from the same source, and they don’t seem to be interested in further communication.