Anonymous: Asking fellow AO’s: My wife and I have been trying AO for a few months and I’ve noticed it seems to be making her more “subservient”. She cleans the house more, she like to cook for me more. I asked her about this and she said having her pussy ignored makes her feel like she wants to please me more. Has anyone else experienced this with their AO experimenting?

Anal orgasms tend to have less of a negative effect on arousal levels compared to other orgasms, so anal only women are often in a higher state of arousal without as big of a “reset” after orgasming. Thus, an anal only woman who tends to be submissive will find herself in a submissive state of mind more regularly if she only orgasms from anal.

Anonymous: I’ve recently started sleeping with this women who prefers anal and I love it. But what makes it enjoyable to women?

livid-lotus: lol idk why do any of us find things enjoyable?

Anal and vaginal both have their own sort of sensation, and different women prefer different sensations. Also, the clitoris, which has internal components far beyond the external bit most people are familiar with, comes in close contact and even wraps around the rectum, making a lot of interesting and pleasurable sensations that can be more easily triggered anally. Add those to the fact that anal penetration almost always leads to more powerful orgasms and in some cases can cause orgasm entirely on its own, and it’s not surprising that some women prefer anal.

depravedcumslut: I just realized that since starting anal training two fingers fit alot better in my ass than my cunt. Maybe Daddy wasn’t kidding when he said he would make me an anal only slut. uh oh??

Anonymous: I just wanted to tell u that you seem to be the “big daddy” of the whole anal/anal only tumblr community. You always seem to have an answer to all questions we got that relate to the topic of anal sex. I’m thankful for the existence of u and ur blog.

Thank you very much for your kind words. I started this blog, and its related blogs, because they filled an absence in other tumblr blogs at the time. There were certainly other anal porn blogs out there, but not really any that were anal only, and none that were anal only and talked about the concept. (There was at least one non-Tumblr anal only blog at the time.) That was the start, and as it took off it started to also become a place for other people who shared my preference to talk about it in a place where they wouldn’t be judged for preferring anal (and a place where people who don’t like anal can also talk about it without being judged), and I’m so happy to have helped provide that, as well as a resource for people to learn to better enjoy anal sex.

Anonymous: Your tired of the cunt too I see! How many girls will listen and be all anal? I wish more women would realize its better that way!

In my experience, most women end up liking it if they try it in a way that introduces them to it gently and without just shoving your cock in and expecting she’ll like it. It requires going about things the right way when starting out so that you don’t turn someone off it. But the reality is, not everyone is going to be interested, and you shouldn’t push someone to do something they don’t want to do. If you find that being anal only is something you need in a relationship and you’re with someone who isn’t interested in being anal only, you’ll have to decide whether your need outweighs how much you like that person for other reasons. Sex and sexual compatibility are very important but not the only part of a relationship.

Anonymous: Hi! I’m the girl who had trouble doing anal play because of tummy trouble. I’ve found tricks for enjoying anal when my tum is upset: I focus on rubbing rather than penetrating, and I use gloves so my hand is perfectly smooth and slippery. I do have an issue, though, and it’s with my new Dom. He says anal doesn’t feel like much- like “a rubber band, and then a void.” So we do anal with fingers, toys, and his mouth, but not his cock. Is that okay? I’m scared I’m doing something wrong.

I’m glad you’ve found a way to still enjoy yourself anally!

Regarding your new Dom, some people just don’t enjoy anal as much as others do. If he’s willing to keep trying, you can experiment with massaging his cock with your anal muscles and see if he enjoys that. However, it could also just be that you are very tight and so your anal sphincter is what he feels the most and gets overpowered by rather than being able to enjoy the entirety of your rectum. Increasing your anal play to be able to relax the muscles more might help with that.

If not, then a compromise like you describe where anal play is a regular part of your sex life but not necessarily an exclusive part and not necessarily involving anal intercourse may be your best bet.

Anonymous: Hii, what plug size would you recommend for someone who’s not a starter? I’ve masturbated anally for over 3yrs and I’ve had anal sex but I have never use a plug. Thanks!

That depends somewhat on what your goal is. Do you just want a plug you can comfortably wear for extended periods of time? Or do you want something on the larger end to help you accommodate larger objects and/or penises?

If you want a comfortable potentially long-term wear plug, aim for something with the widest diameter around or a little smaller than sizes you’re comfortable with already, and with a neck diameter a fair amount smaller than the widest diameter so that it stays in place well, and a sturdy but slim T-shaped base so it can rest between your cheeks comfortably. Something like the Tantus Ryder is often good for this purpose, with a max diameter of about 1.5″.

If you want more of a training plug for larger sizes beyond anal sex, you’ll want something with a thicker neck, but there’s such a wide range of sizes available here and it can be very much dependent on what your current maximum comfortable size is, so it’s hard to provide such advice in a generic sense.

Anonymous: Just hitting you up with a curious question as I fell on anal only porn blogs entirely by accident and I was wondering why only anal is a thing? Surely if something, like clitoral stimulation or vaginal, is pleasurable it doesn’t make sense to give it up even if anal is good. So I was wondering if the appeal of anal only is a control/dominance thing? What is the appeal? I’m just very confused and turned on by everything but I would like to know more.

If you like clitoral stimulation or vaginal and want to keep doing those things, by all means, do so. Far more people enjoy anal as one of many forms of sex vs. being anal only, and that’s just as legitimate if it’s what you want.

But not everyone does. Some people find vaginal and/or clitoral stimulation painful. Some people just vastly prefer the pleasure they get from anal vs. vaginal and since vaginal doesn’t do that much for them, they replace it with anal. Some people can only orgasm from anal. Some just find it more intimate and by excluding vaginal, it makes everything else so much better. Some feel it’s more submissive and enjoy that aspect of it. If you talk to 20 different people who are or have been in anal only relationships, you’ll probably get 20 different answers as to why it appeals to them.

Clitoral denial is for me appealing in a variety of different ways. There may be a little bit of a dominance/submission aspect for some, but that’s not all of it. A major factor for me is the appeal of a woman being able to orgasm from anal stimulation alone. There are women who can do this naturally, and there are others who have learned to do it by denying themselves other stimulation for a while in order to focus on developing that ability anally. There are additional reasons as well, which don’t apply to everyone, and which are discussed elsewhere on this blog and others. In the end, though, if someone relies on their clit for enjoyment of anal, I certainly have no problem with that. I do think it’s good to experiment with trying anal without it, though, because if you only view anal through the filter of clitoral stimulation you’re limiting your potential experiences.