Anonymous: Isn’t it unhealthy to practice ass-to-mouth? My girlfriend and I have been doing anal for a long time, and I wanna try ATM, but she says that there are a lot of bacteria and she could get sick. I think she’s totally right about that. What can we do?

If it’s visibly clean, and it’s her own ass, she’s probably going to be fine. Plenty of people do it without ever getting sick, but everyone and their immune system is different and it’s up to each person to decide the risk for themselves. There is a much greater risk of getting sick from another person’s ass than from your own.

You can also further minimize risk by doing an enema first. This is what’s what’s done in porn before any anal, ass to mouth included or otherwise.

petitelittlepet: Daddy said he will make me do anal only and I’m petrified and turned on all at once. ?

NPNWife: Still going strong. Husband woke me this morning with his lubed cock pressing into my ass. I told him Saturday, at the party where he fucked my ass in our friends’ bathroom, twice, that he could take me however/whenever he wanted. I woke feeling the head of his cock pushing into me. He kept telling me how much he loves fucking my ass. I made him tell me how much better than my pussy it is. Hotter. Tighter. Feels so much better. Told me he was so glad to give up my pussy for my ass.

I’ve been showing him my favorite anal only and pussy abandonment tumblrs, so he knows what to do/say to really push my buttons. He had his cock buried inside of me, telling me that he never wants to go back to the way it was, that even after this month he won’t be fucking my pussy more than he fucks my ass. And how much he loved me avoiding my clit, like I was giving up my orgasms for him. Told him how much I loved not cumming for him, to focus on him and his pleasure this month.

And when he was about to cum, I begged him to pull out and fuck my mouth. The ATM really blows him away. I sucked him both times at the party. He made me lick his cock entirely clean the 2nd time. The naughtiness of doing that drove me insane. He made me go around the rest of the party without cleaning my mouth out. Every time I talked to someone I wondered if he could tell I had just tasted cock from my ass. I was literally dripping wet. My ass is sore, but I’m still loving this.

Sounds amazing, and should inspire any other couples still considering taking part in No Pussy November themselves to stop considering and start doing, lest they miss out on the sort of fun the two of you are having.

The way things are going so far, by the end of the month he might not want to go back to your pussy at all—and you might not either!

something-to-drink: How comes you prefer being fucked up your ass rather than your pussy?

skankpride: Because it feels better, and it’s more taboo and makes me feel dirtier.

Anonymous: Do you have any advice for keeping butt plugs in longer?

As with most things anal, practice with gradual increases—in this case, increasing time rather than, say, size. Each time you have the plug in, try to see if you can keep it in a little longer than the time before. Sometimes it might get uncomfortable sooner, but on average try to keep pushing your limits a little bit. Masturbate with your plug in regularly. And also try sleeping with it in. That can be a good way to passively get used to it while you’re asleep. You may not make it through the night with it in at first and might have to remove it, but after a few times you should be able to keep it in.

Anonymous: Looking for a girl who likes anal but am having trouble with penetration with girlfriends.. any ideas or tricks on how to keep from being so painful. It’s difficult to find women who actually enjoy anal.

Read up on anal sex, anal play and anal training. Start small and slow. Try just rimming her for a while at first, then try fingering her with some lube while eating her pussy or rubbing her clit if she’s willing to try. Use a butt plug on her. Gradually work up in size and comfort until she’s ready to try your cock. Anal shouldn’t hurt. If it does, you’re going too fast or too big too soon. She or you should be playing with her clit through all through this, especially at first when she’s first getting used to anal.

Anonymous: Are you doing anything special for No Pussy November this year? I know last year you made it permanent, any additional challenges this year? Total clit denial for the month? Double anal training?

dumbandpretty: Oooh, I hadn’t thought of upping the ante. What would you suggest?

Anonymous: ï can’t convince my girlfriend to do anal .. what can i do ?

Talk to her. Ask her why she doesn’t want to try. See if you can work through her concerns together and get to a point where she’d be comfortable with the idea. Read lots of articles about anal sex and anal pleasure, and how to ensure the recipient enjoys it. Ask if she’d be willing to try something else anal related, either rimming or fingering or just external stimulation for now like rubbing her asshole with a lubricated finger during vaginal sex.

Anonymous: My girlfriend loves anal as much as I do. But we have a problem. There are some positions that make her feel pain. What can we do? Above all, I want her to enjoy while I’m fucking her. Her pleasure is so important to me.

Stick to the positions that you can both enjoy? With more practice, she may be able to enjoy it more in other positions as well. Certain positions are better than others for straightening out the rectum/colon and making it more comfortable to get fucked, but everyone’s a little different too. Which positions does she have trouble with?

Anonymous: I understand that an ass gape is too exciting. But don’t you worry if your girlfriend gets a permanent ass gape that doesn’t let her retain the poop anymore?

There’s not really any such thing as a permanent ass gape, except in extremely rare cases of severe injury/damage. Assholes gape as part of a combination of increased muscle control (so the muscles are actually stronger than normal, and can be consciously controlled more precisely) and relaxation. Having sex or using toys can help to open up and relax them, then the gape can be held open more consciously. But once you stop using it and trying to hold it open, it’ll start tightening back up naturally. With practice and use, an ass can gape and open up for sex more easily, but that doesn’t mean it’s loose all the time, just that it can be controlled, relaxed and opened with less preparation. Incontinence from anal sex is a debunked myth.

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whyuaskinme: Thank you, I’ve actually been worried about that also. Maybe now I’ll be able to relax moreand just enjoy it!