Anonymous: I just came from anal for the first time. All I can say is .. holy shit!! That was infinitely better than any orgasm I ever had from my pussy. I feel amazing
Congratulations, that’s wonderful! Now you can see why so many people are going anal only—why waste time with something that’s nowhere near as comparably pleasurable?
In recent times, I have on these blogs, and other people on other blogs have as well, been making more of a focus on clitoral denial in conjunction with anal only and the advantages and increased pleasure that can stem from it. While I stand by that, and encourage people to explore it alongside anal only, if it doesn’t interest you or you need or simply like clitoral stimulation along with your anal sex—that doesn’t make you any less anal only, and I certainly don’t want to make anyone feel like they aren’t “truly” anal only unless they give up their clit.
I’m going to keep sharing what I like and what I think works well, including the things I prefer and fantasize about—especially in porn captions—and not everything will necessarily always appeal or apply to every follower, but that doesn’t mean that my way is the only way. I may not always effectively differentiate between my fantasy voice and my real, sincere voice, but do know that wherever my fantasy voice my head down different and sometimes somewhat extreme paths, my real position is always this:
Do what you want and what works for you. Do it because you love it and because it’s thrilling and fun. Try new things with it, but don’t feel like there’s only one way to be anal only just because other people may be doing things differently. Experiment with new things, but if they aren’t working for you or aren’t fun in some way, don’t feel obligated to continue them. And don’t feel obligated to be anal only if you aren’t enjoying it anymore, either. Sex is supposed to be consensual and fun, and anal only should be no different.
Anonymous: you are patriarchy at its finest
Women choosing to have exclusively anal sex because it gives them better pleasure and satisfaction and they enjoy it far more than vaginal is patriarchy?
mlu2p: Thank your so much for documenting your journey to a anal-only lifestyle. Do you manage to orgasm when you get ass fucked ?
cute-submissive-nyc-universe: Thank you for following me! I’ve not achieved orgasm thru anal yet, but I am hoping that with more experience, I will be able to.
pleasecomeformedaddy: Day 1
I can’t think of anything except the fact that I am an anal/oral only whore now. It turns me on so much, and that makes me want to touch myself, which reminds me I’m not allowed to, which turns me on more…and on and on. It’s a horrible positive feedback loop.
Before my partner wakes up, I need to train my ass with my fingers for 10 minutes.
I don’t know how I’m going to survive this. I’ve just started and I already feel like a braindead cockwhore
cutelittlefuckpig: Okay, starting tomorrow any and all masturbating must involve ass fucking for the next week?
Anonymous: I’ve been interested in anal masturbation for a couple of months, and have only gotten back into it a couple of days ago. I was wondering if you had recommendations for household lubricants that could be used anally? I understand actual lubes are better and holds less risk, and will probably invest in some when I can, but for now would want to try to experiment first. Thanks in advance!
Coconut oil is becoming a popular lube and many homes already have some in their kitchen. Certain lotions can work, though the simpler the better, likely, and you’d usually want to avoid scented lotions as they can sometimes cause a burning sensation. Shampoo should be avoided as it usually burns, though some have been known to use conditioner. I can’t say how safe that is. Vaseline may work, though it is quite thick. Saliva is potentially usable for some purposes, and easy to obtain.
Anonymous: Last night I got my S.O. to agree to a week of anal only! I’m so excited, but I’m worried running off to clean myself every time he puts the moves on me is going to ruin the mood! I need some advice.
Congratulations!
If you have a fairly consistent time during which you often have sex (e.g. evenings) you can clean yourself in advance just to be prepared.
If you have and use a butt plug, you can put it in before possible sex time, both to warm you up and prepare you, and to help clean you out. Having a plug in can move things along, as it were, as well as provide you an opportunity to check how clean you are.
Not everyone is comfortable with just this, but if you have a balanced diet with a good amount of fiber, you’re generally going to be pretty clean anyway and can usually get away with just going to the bathroom in advance. But if you want to be totally confident that you’re clean, then you may want to do more.
Enjoy!
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meandnooneelse138: Understand that sometimes things can happen. And so what? My wife gives me anal almost anytime I want it. We are not into fecal play at all, but sometimes she does not have a chance to “empty” first. And you know what, it doesn’t matter. It’s still hot. It still feels good. And on the end there was very little mess. We just jumped in the shower and washed off. Of course we have a very comfortable relationship, so that makes a difference.
slutprogrammer: Don’t overdo the fiber, though. It can make things worse.
Anonymous: Hey there! Im pretty new to this whole thing and I would like to know if it hurts (first time) Also is there going to be shit on my dick or something cuz thats kind of gross. But i would love to try Anal but find a way to make it fun and not disgusting 😛
The anus is a very sensitive area with muscles that are naturally quite tight when in their relaxed state. If you just try to shove it in, then yeah, it would cause pain to the recipient. In addition to using lubricant, you have to warm up and relax the anal muscles by opening it up gradually—start small, with something like a single finger, and slowly increase the size, two fingers, then three, etc., until ready for the size of your penis. Use of toys like butt plugs and dildos can also be useful when preparing for anal sex.
As for cleanliness, you should first accept that if you’re going to be playing with anal sex, encountering a bit of fecal matter from time to time can happen. Accept that, don’t make a big deal out of it or shame your partner for it, and move on. But that can be mitigated through multiple means—a balanced diet with a healthy amount of dietary fiber, going to the bathroom an hour or so before having sex, and if so inclined, using a small enema/douche to just lightly flush out the rectum prior to sex.
bellegirl: I convinced my husband to go anal only. It’s just for the month of January, but it’s a start. I am absolutely loving it. I only hope he’ll learn to love it as much as I do.
Congratulations, that’s wonderful! I’m glad you’re enjoying it, and I hope he’ll see how much you love it and want to keep going with it too. If he doesn’t, though, you can always try for another month of it at a later time, and keep slowly working towards doing it more often.