Anonymous: I just wanted to add in response to that last ask that I’ve found that to be true for me as well. Since I went anal only and stopped masturbating with my clit, I crave sex with my boyfriend all the time and can basically go on for as long as he wants, whenever he wants. He loves it, and I love it too. Being up to getting fucked all the time is a lot more fun than waiting around until I’m in the mood.

Agreed! Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous: Im a guy and i love anal sex for both myself and my female partner. I do have some issue when she uses a strapon on me. I get alot of discomfort when using bigger toys but in practice (aka masturbation) they are the easiest thing for me to do. Im not sure what to do. She loves using the bigger toys but i hate quitting on her after 5 minutes cause im struggling. We use lots of lube and i always stretch with the same toy before she fucks me with it.

It could be the angle she’s using, or it could just be that you’re used to it being inside you or moving at a slower pace but not at the pace she’s using. Try some different positions and angles, and try having her use other toys/strapons. Also don’t necessarily quit after 5 minutes, but ask her to slow down or pause just a moment for you before trying again.

Anonymous: You claim that anal feels better for men, hand down. If true, why do a lot of men offer a different opinion?

It’s a generalization for dramatic effect which is predominantly true but not universally true. Most men who have experience with it prefer anal, that’s a simple fact. Not everyone does, but most of those who have tried it and don’t like it either have some sort of mental hangup preventing them from enjoying the superior physical sensation or they haven’t had a good anal experience yet. If a woman is too tight or doesn’t know how to open up and relax her ass, the excess tightness and and difficulty in penetrating deeply, it may not be as enjoyable. But give a man an experience with a well-trained ass experienced at giving pleasure, and most will agree that it’s much better.

An asshole is more versatile, deeper, more visual, more responsive, grippier, tight but able to open up to tremendous sizes when needed, more raw and passionate and sexual. A pussy is a dull, boring dead end. Sure, you might get a little pleasure and physical enjoyment from a vagina still, but it’s nothing compared to an ass and it lacks the passion, beauty and delight of anal for many men.

Anonymous: I absolutely love it when my boyfriend uses my asshole for deep and intense fucking. I get the strongest orgasms from the extreme anal pleasure that it gives me. Your blog has inspired me to become an anal only slut and continue to allow him to fuck my ass As much as he pleases?

That’s wonderful, I’m glad to have helped inspire you to make that decision. I’m sure both you and he will be very pleased and satisfied with going anal only. As you give up your pussy, you’ll likely find your enjoyment of anal only grows further. Have fun!

angelamourxxx: I’m getting kinda buzzed and I’m feeling like I want my pussy clamped shut with clothespins, with my ankles pressed over my shoulders and a huge cock mercilessly pounding my asshole.

Anonymous: Hi, I see that in your advices you seldom talk about enemas. I used to take enemas just before sex (I’m anal only), but a few years ago I started to use them when I’m at home every single time after I empty myself in the bathroom, with a simple anal douche. It’s much more quick, pleasant and efficient to clean up than way than with toilet paper, you always keep a flat stomach, and of course you’re always ready for anal fun, including ass to mouth. To me it’s inseparable from anal sex.

That’s an interesting way of doing it, and it sounds like it’s quite effective for you. Probably a good approach for the anal only woman who wants to always be ready for sex and ensure cleanliness. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous: My boyfriend has a huge anal fetish and wants to try t so badly but every time I think of trying I get scared. I love the idea of anal too but I’m so scared it will hurt too much . I want so so badly to make his fantasy come true and become his anal whore but I’m too scared to even get started 🙁 please help. I see the girls taking dick up their butts and wish it were me, looks like it feels so good

Take your finger, put some lube on it, and slowly massage your finger into your butt while you rub your clit. Masturbate to orgasm that way. The next time, try two fingers, then three. If it starts to hurt when you go up in size, stay a little bit longer with something smaller before trying again. Make anal play like this while you masturbate a standard thing—make sure to have something up your ass whenever you masturbate.

Once you can regularly and comfortably fit a few fingers in your ass, get yourself a nice buttplug or two. Something around 1.5″ diameter at the widest, like a Tantus Ryder or similar size, is a good starting plug once you’ve already done some pre-plug preparation with a few fingers. Use this plug during masturbation or even some sexual activities with your boyfriend.

Once you feel ready to try it with your boyfriend, wear the plug for a while beforehand to help warmup, then lube up his cock and your ass, have him lie on his back, and lower yourself onto him so you can control how fast and what angle and depth for the initial penetration. Push out as if going to the bathroom to help relax your anal muscles and let him in more easily. If it starts to hurt, pause and hold in place and wait for it to fade before you continue. Once he’s all the way in, pause again a moment and get used to having him inside you, then start moving. After you’re used to it for a few minutes, you can try changing positions and letting him take more control, but make sure he’ll listen to you if it starts to hurt and stop or give you a break.

The key takeaways are: use lube, introduce anal sensations to yourself at your own pace first and alongside pleasure sources you already enjoy and associate with pleasure like clit stimulation, work up in size gradually, and stop and relax before continuing if something starts to hurt—pain means you aren’t warmed up enough or aren’t quite ready for that size yet, but if you do things right, it shouldn’t hurt!

It’s been some time since original content has been posted here, but I’d like to see it starting up again and this blog becoming more than just a place to reblog asks and text AO-related topics. Do followers have any particular topics related to anal and the anal only lifestyle that they would like to see discussed or address more in-depth? Make your suggestions either in a response to this or an ask or private message, and you may see a longer form post on that topic appearing in the future.

Let’s keep promoting and advocating the anal only lifestyle and making it more mainstream, until it’s a common part of not only porn, but everyday life and conversation. Be open with friends that you prefer anal sex and that you’re anal only. Encourage others to try it for themselves to see what they think. Let’s change it from something people are ashamed and scared of admitting they like to something to be proud of and openly excited about.

The above image is porn actress Adriana Chechik wearing a self-made “Anal Only” bikini top, illustrating the continuing normalization of the anal only lifestyle.

Anonymous: Hi, this is the girl who hated your blog again. I came back and read your response and have been going through your blog for a while. I thought about it and you’re right that I can enjoy anal on its own, so maybe it isn’t right to think of my pussy and clit as the core of female sexuality, that’s just how I’ve always thought of them and I think most women do. But maybe that’s too limiting? Anyway, I’m going to try only having anal for a week and see what I think when it’s my choice. Thanks.

I’m surprised, most people who attack my blog disappear and don’t come back when I respond. I’m glad that you decided to take a closer look and consider it from a different perspective. I’m also glad that my interpretation seems to have been correct and anal only might actually be something you like trying if you look at it from a different perspective instead of seeing it as something you’ve been forced into doing. Since you say you really enjoy anal, you’ll probably have a good time if you consider it a personal challenge, a fun experiment, a sexy secret about yourself. Good luck. I hope you end up changing your mind on anal only and maybe even embrace it for yourself.