allstrawberry: i’ve gotten obsessed with riding a pillow recently. not so much for the clit action, but because i can brace a toy against it to ride, and it fucks my ass really nicely. if i push the pillow down in front and lean back, i can get my ass fucked good while my sloppy cunt and needy clit are totally exposed and ignored. it feels so good to have my ass opened up while the rest gets ignored, not even the soft pressure of the pillow, and it’s just enough to make me come.

the goal is 12 orgasms this weekend, all gotten this way. any others don’t count starting 5pm today (friday), ending midnight sunday. i think that seems reasonable, don’t you?

Anonymous: What is an anal orgasm? For as long as i’ve had anal, sometimes just anal stimulation, other times DP or clitoral stimulation, I don’t think I’ve ever orgasmed from just anal. Maybe I have and didn’t know it. I squirt from just anal if he hits the right spot, and it feels really good, but I stay horny and want to fuck more. I suppose I’m not sure what an anal only orgasm looks like. Has any of the ladies doing this ever explained it? I would really like to know. or maybe you know?

It’s an orgasm triggered by anal rather than external clitoral stimulation. It comes naturally to some, less so to others. Some (most?) are able to develop the ability with practice.

I imagine they can be a bit different to different people. An explosive episode of squirting where it feels really good but you stay horny after sounds like it fits the criteria for a lot of women. Perhaps some who experience anal orgasms on a regular basis can share what they’re like for them.

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analfeelsgood: “I stay horny and want to fuck more” is one of my favorite things about anal orgasms. I’d say for me, they’re a little more intense than what they seemed to describe, but overall, yeah. It feels really good, like a wave of pleasure, and has a similar kind of… shudder-y hot clenching feeling in my body as a clit orgasm. But a clit orgasm is like… a wave crashing on the beach, while an anal orgasm is more like a wave breaking in the ocean. If that makes sense.

Anonymous: How do you reconcile anal only with the threat of poo?

Don’t have sex when you need to poop.

Anonymous: Hey ladies getting all high and mighty about this being anti feminist, you couldn’t be more hypocritical. Feminism isn’t about not doing certain things in the bedroom because it’s perceived as something men want. It’s about doing what makes you and your body happy. I for one am a woman who much prefers anal to vaginal, so instead of preaching about something you don’t have a full grasp on, go do what makes your body happy, and let us do what makes ours happy!

This is always the right answer—do what works for you. This blog is sharing one perspective, and it’s biased heavily in favor of anal and anal only, but I recognize that this will not appeal to or interest everyone. That’s fine. If you know what you want, do it. If you want to explore new things, maybe try anal if you haven’t already, or going anal only for a while if you already know you love anal.

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naughtyman1966: Thats how sex should be no pressure, consensual and enjoy yourselves

a1bosshogg: You have such a great blog. I love that it’s not vulgar twards women and how respectful you are to people that disagree with your (our) views. It makes it something you can show your wife or girlfriend. Great job!!!

Thank you. My intent has always been to focus on the female perspective of anal pleasure and show anal positivity rather than the crude, degrading or hateful tones some take when talking about anal. Anal is pleasure and intimacy and can feel better than anything else for women when done right, and focusing on that rather than myths and hate is the way to encourage more people to try it for themselves.

Anonymous: What’s your stance on female orgasms and orgasm denial? With my girlfriend (who should be my future wife), it took some time and work, but we’ve successfully moved from occasional anal to anal only, then to clitoral denial. Now, we’re thinking about another step by denying her orgasms, meaning she’ll have them when she has them, but we would have (anal) sex without trying to get her there. So far it works pretty well, she’s always hot and our intercourses are shorter but more frequent and rough.

If it works well for the both of you, then it’s certainly worth exploring or adopting. It can be fun, sometimes short term, sometimes long term, and it can have its advantages for some people—as you’ve noticed, she’ll have increased arousal and be more eager for sex more often, because she won’t have the arousal crash of an orgasm. It isn’t necessarily for everyone, but people who enjoy denial will likely enjoy at least trying it for a while.

If someone needs orgasms, though, and is able to orgasm from anal only, I think that is an excellent arrangement as well—anal orgasms don’t have nearly as many of the negative side effects of clit orgasms for most people. They don’t generally have as much of an effect on lowering arousal, for one.

So, in short, experiment with orgasm denial for a while. See how both of you feel about it after a few months. If you’re still enjoying it, stick with it.

Anonymous: I’m the girl who said I hate your blog. Thank you for the response, I’m sorry if I was too mean, I didn’t think you’d answer and I’m just frustrated because so many guys only want anal from me now and I started searching around and found your blog encouraging that behavior. I actually do anal and I like it, but that doesn’t mean I want to ignore my pussy and clit! They’re the core part of my sexuality, even if I like how anal feels a lot. So why insist on anal ONLY?

There are a lot of reasons for anal only over just including it along with other things. A lot of people just don’t enjoy vaginal or aren’t attracted to it in the same way as anal, and find anal sex far more pleasurable and sexy, more intimate, more satisfying, more raw and passionate, etc. I enjoy anal so much more I don’t want to waste any more time on vaginal when I could be having sex that I enjoy instead. I also find it more exciting to be anally exclusive, like a dirty little secret, and to know that I haven’t had vaginal sex in over seven years and have no interest in changing that.

I disagree with the assertion that a woman’s vagina and clit are the core part of her sexuality in a general sense. Each person is different and it might be for some, but it isn’t inherently. Some women might be more vaginal-centric, some clit-centric, and some anal-centric. Since you do enjoy anal, why not just try being anal only for a while? Don’t think of it as something degrading or something you’re doing for others, just explore the idea for your own curiosity and see what it’s like. You might find you actually enjoy it. Use your clit if you need it to enjoy anal, but only do anal with guys and when you masturbate. Take a few months to try being anal only, and see how you feel about it after that time. I can almost guarantee you’ll see it in a different light.

Instead of resenting guys who want anal, try being the assertive one and tell them up front that you’re anal only and you only want anal. You’ll be in control, they’ll love it, and you’ll both have a good time.

The reason I’m suggesting this is because you say you do love anal, and despite your claim that you don’t want to be anal only, you seem curious enough to engage in conversation about it here. If I’ve misread, and you really have no interest, then be assertive in a different way—tell guys you want more than anal, and if that’s a dealbreaker for them, then fine.

Anonymous: What’s so bad about vaginal?

onlyoneentry: It’s gross. Never want mine fucked tbh ?