acuntdenied: I swear nothing feels better than that delicious stretch of putting a plug in. I love to hold it at the widest point and feel my muscles try and clench pointlessly at it. Knowing that they will soon give up. I slide it all the way in my body reacts instantly. My cunt feels empty and starts to drool.

It is as if my cun knows it isn’t supposed to have anything in it, only my superior ass hole is. The whole process makes me super horny and submissive. The plug as a constant reminder of my worthless, denied cunt.

Anonymous: I’m an anal virgin, I use plugs and use the biggest one in my set, but I am really worried about my first time with my partner. I’m worried that he either won’t fit or that it will hurt because ass immediately starts tightening up as soon as I remove my plug. Any advice?

Plugs are a fantastic element of anal training, but you can and should try using a dildo as well, and work to getting up to around the size of, or a little larger than, your partner’s penis. Use the plug in between the dildo masturbation to further supplement it.

It’s normal for your ass to tighten back up after use. The upper extent of your anal elasticity is what’s more important.

28 male, i enjoy more anal stimulation rather than focusing on my dick. Initially used to finger, later graduated to dildos. Its been almost 10 years and am loving my ass more than my dick.

Cant finish until 3-4 anal orgasms, tho been able to cum handsfree with dildo working up the ass but thats rare.

Definitely there’s big difference between anal orgasm and regular orgasm, and believe me anal orgasm is the best ever.

Never tried with other guy tho….

Thanks for sharing your experiences. The anal only lifestyle has appeal and is suitable for all people with a wide range of preferences, and lately I’ve been seeing a growing number of men who have embraced it in a receptive manner.

daddysfuckingpsycho: What’s you fascination with anal and not using the vagina

It began as personal preference—I was more attracted to a woman’s ass and anus than to her vagina. I think vaginas are pretty, but I’m not at all attracted to vaginal sex or penetration. A woman’s anus and the idea of anal sex appealed far more. After getting a chance to try both, I found that the reality for me corresponded with my attraction and I greatly preferred the act of anal sex as well, and found the combination of having anal sex and seeing her pussy empty and unused the most visually stimulating for me.

After discovering, years later, that there were women who shared the same preference for anal, and preferred not to have vaginal sex or who excluded it entirely, as well as couples who had been anal only for years or even decades, by mutual choice and preference, I decided this was the right path for me as well, because vaginal sex just didn’t interest me and when I had it, it really did nothing for me and was boring.

Anal sex, in contrast, has never gotten boring, and remains a thrill. It’s more pleasurable for me and for partners, it gives women far more intense orgasms, it’s far more intimate, it’s a mood booster, and more. Because of my personal experiences and the positive reactions from partners and others, I started advocating it to others and encouraging them to try it for themselves. And here we are.

I think it’s best. Others may not. I encourage people to experiment with it and see if it’s something that works for them and which they would like to do as well. If not, fair enough, and more power to you for trying something new.

acuntdenied: After a week of not being plugged I am again. I can’t believe how right this feels. I forgot how much i love the weight, heft and the way it keeps me stretched and how wet and empty my cunt is in comparison.

I am also pleased how it went in without any problems. My tight little hole isn’t as tight and little as it was.

buttholedestroyer: Congrats on your AO streak! I’m an AO male and I’ve gone three years now. Three whole years. It kind of blows my own mind when I type it out – three years and my dick hasn’t touched a pussy. Best decision I’ve ever made. My sex life is so much more fulfilling, despite the intermittence of partners that are amenable. It helps that I love sucking on clit so there’s been no lack of orgasms before I put myself where I belong. Anyhow, just some friendly encouragement. Keep it up!

ilikeitintheass: Thank you. i appreciate it. thanks for sharing 🙂

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Anonymous: So my bf is really into anal stuff, weve tried fingers so far just to ease me into it but its just really not enjoyable for me. It didnt hurt at all but i felt the urge to start pushing his fingers back out. It wasnt sore or uncomfortable it was just really not enjoyable. Is there anyway that we can make it more enjoyable? I really want to like it for him.

So, this isn’t that uncommon for people with no anal experience, because up to this point your only experience with something in your ass is the urge to go to the bathroom, so inserting something with the intent of pleasure can still trigger that “get it out” reaction in you and not feel pleasurable in a sexual way because that other reaction is overpowering it.

What usually works for a lot of people is to combine a bit of anal stimulation with something else that feels really good for you, to start “rewiring” your brain to interpret anal stimulation as something pleasurable and not just think about it in its functional sense. So, if you really enjoy clitoral stimulation, do a lot of that while gently rubbing and lightly fingering your ass (with a well-lubricated finger). Try having him rub or finger your ass while he eats your pussy or rubbing his thumb against the outside during vaginal sex, etc. Have him rim you (lick your ass). That not only feels amazing, it helps relax you for further play. The more relaxed you are, the easier you open up, and the more pleasurable things feel. Try working up to giving yourself an orgasm with your clit while you have a finger in your ass at the same time. This can often be a more intense orgasm due to the anal penetration at the same time. Once it starts feeling good, keep doing it regularly and keep exploring different aspects of what feels good. If something you try feels good, keep doing that and see where that feeling takes you.

Try doing it yourself, at your own pace, where you control everything yourself rather than with him—just at first, while you are first figuring out how to enjoy it.

Good luck! Anal is amazing, but it can take a little bit of work to get to that point and isn’t always amazing right off the bat when you first try it. It sounds like you’re motivated to get there, which is the most important thing, and it’s well-worth the effort.

captaincosmos54: What would you say is the key to enjoying anal as a woman? I LOVE anal, but can hardly ever find women willing to try it because they’re afraid they won’t enjoy it.

showmehowyouneedit: While I can’t speak for all women, I’d be happy to share what makes it enjoyable for me.

I was lucky enough to start my anal journey with a very patient, caring man. He took his time ensuring I was prepared and started small. He let me feel completely in control of the experience and I liked it because I never felt pressured but, at the same time, I liked pushing myself in order to do something that was enjoyable for him.

I think it’s important to let her know that she can stop if she doesn’t like it. Start with licking and fingers as long as she’s okay with it. You can eventually move to small plugs to use during sex.

Personally, I’d say the key is patience.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following responses.

racercpl: I have to tell the story. My piece of Candy and I had been doing anal quite a bit, when we decided to try enemas. Well she then was relaxed and wasn’t worried about being dirty that she had an anal orgasm. It was a really intense orgasm that blew her mind!! Now it’s not me asking if I can fuck her ass, it’s her telling me to!!

iamthegirlwhodreams: I love anal as well. I think the key for me is for a man to enter slowly. Once he’s in, I can take a pounding as hard as my pussy. It feels amazing!!

Anonymous: What’s your typical pre-anal prep routine?

ilikeitintheass: I’m very anal about my prep :p pun intended.. When I first got into anal, I used to do a full cleaning, an enema of some sorts.. Now I just do a quick cleaning before play, nothing too deep. Maybe it’s the fact I have anal regularly, but sometimes just going to the toilet half an hour before having anal, I am clean enough and don’t need to push any water in to clean. I think this depends also on how regular you are. I’m pretty regular and I rarely worry about this..