ilickpussycum: Hi, How can I convince my wife to try anal? I love taking things up my arse, but can’t get her try it. I’ve slipped just one little finger in while licking her out, and it’s an instant NO.

If she refuses to try at any level, there isn’t much you can do, and repeatedly attempting to try will just seem like pestering and lead to resentment.

You can try starting with something less invasive like rimming and see if she enjoys that and if that leads to her opening up more to the idea of anal penetration, but if she’s had such a negative reaction to anything anal thus far, she may have the same with rimming.

You can try talking with her more about it, not in an “I want anal from you” sort of tone, but that you’d like to introduce her to how amazing it can feel when done right. Put the focus entirely on her enjoyment of it, her pleasure, and her pace and comfort, and see if there’s any interest then.

Anonymous: Hi. It took about five years, but my girlfriend and I finally managed to get full anal only: it’s now been nine months (what a symbol) since her vagina or clit received any sort of stimulation, which is a feat I’m proud of since she’s never done anal before she met me. And now, I realize that this simple fact turns me on even more than actual anal sex. It’s like on your blog: I love watching the empty, ignored pussies as much as I love watching the cock-filled asses.

Congratulations, the two of you must be thrilled! It can be a longer journey for some than for others, but it’s so wonderfully worth it once you are able to achieve and sustain it, as you’ve no doubt discovered.

I can definitely understand where you’re coming from—the physical act of anal sex is incredible, but the overall experience as a whole is what really makes it stand out. Not only does it feel so much better, it’s so much more intimate and emotionally satisfying, looks incredible, and that visual contrast of a full asshole beside an empty and ignored pussy is just perfect.

Thanks for sharing. Nine months is a great milestone to celebrate!

The original poster responded:

Hi, the nine months guy again. What’s weird is that I never told my girl: I enjoy that my she’s thinking I have no interest in her pussy and that I focus 100% on her ass, when I secretly enjoy watching her cunt get wet, drip, squirt or open and close like a fish gasping for water while I finger or lick or fuck her asshole. It’s mesmerizing and incredibly hot to me, but I’ll never admit it to her, I love that I apparently managed to make her 100% forget about her vagina and clit. Great blog!

Anonymous: I want to thank you for your blog, I like anal so much more than vaginal but I got discouraged by some guys who acted like it was weird for me to want anal all the time and made me feel like I shouldn’t want it so much, but your blog and all the stories and comments on it made me realize it isn’t weird and lots of other girls like it better too. I wasn’t anal only before but I really think I will be now, so thank you for that too.

I’m sorry to hear that people made you feel like you were weird for preferring anal. The reality is that for the vast majority of people, anal sex feels better than vaginal when done correctly. But there are still a lot of pervasive myths and stigmas keeping it from being embraced as the superior sex act and source of pleasure that it truly is, and so there are those who find it weird that a woman would want or prefer it. Don’t ever let that discourage you, though. You know it’s better, you know it’s what you want, and you deserve partners who understand that too. Embrace your love for anal and be proud of it. If a guy can’t understand it, don’t take it personally—he’s just not the right guy for you. There are plenty more out there who love women that love anal.

enberash: Holy fuck, my ass keeps feeling better and better. Why does anyone ever use anything else?? It’s a fount of vibrant neverending pleasure, and the others are greyscale dead-ends of bad emotion.

Most of the time I find myself thinking “this can’t be real” because I can’t believe how good it feels. Anal Only isn’t even a choice anymore, it’s the only thing that makes sense.

I’m just glad I escaped the mass delusion / ignorance.

enberash: Going anal only is the best decision I ever made. Now I actually know what pleasure is and I don’t have to lie to myself. I don’t know why people bother with dull and joyless wastes of time when there’s an actual sex and pleasure organ right there- soft and warm and pulsating~

Anonymous: Heya! Quick question, what are the best things to use to when masturbating anal only? Dildos? Butt plugs? Beads? Any help would be amazing 🙂

If all you have is your fingers, that can work. A butt plug is great for warmup or as something to wear passively when you aren’t masturbating to keep your thoughts and focus on your asshole (and just because it feels good to have your ass filled and stretched open). Beads are sort of a hybrid, they can be more passive, or they can be used actively as you push them in and pull them out. A dildo is the ultimate anal masturbation tool for a lot of people, and one with a good suction cup can let you really go at it hands-free.

Some manage to repurpose other objects for anal masturbation—vegetables, fruit, bottles, etc. With a bit of care, it can be done safely, but make sure to avoid using something with a risk of slipping inside and getting lost. Anal toys and dildos often have a base of some sort that makes this more difficult.

Enjoy your anal only masturbation!

enberash: If you haven’t tried going anal only, you’re missing out. Eventually the world will catch up. Anal is the best feeling that exists.

Anonymous: Your blog makes my pussy so wet, but it feels wrong to touch it when I’m looking at your pictures telling me to stop using it, so I started fingering my butt instead and it’s making me feel so sexy and slutty. At first I thought this was just a sexy fantasy but now I’m seriously thinking about trying to go anal only.

analonlytrainer: Ah, got you hooked with a sexy idea that’s quickly turning into a real desire, did I? You were right, it would be hypocritical to touch your pussy and clit while getting off to this blog. Fingering your ass instead was the right choice, well done.

Now that you’re getting hooked, let’s keep it that way. Whenever you feel the urge to rub your clit or play with your pussy, redirect and focus that energy on your ass instead. Rub it, finger it, plug it, dildo it. Make masturbation all about anal, and if you have sex with a partner, tell them to fuck your ass instead of your pussy.

Enjoy. Being anal only makes everything better.

Anonymous: I’m anal only but I still find it soo hard to stop touching my clit even though I can cum from anal without it, I just can’t break the habit!! What should I do to try and stop? I really want to stop!

First, I just want to reaffirm to everyone that if you enjoy playing with your clit and it works for you, or if you need it in order to enjoy anal, you don’t have to give that up in order to consider yourself anal only as long as you aren’t engaging in vaginal intercourse. With or without clitoral stimulation, you can be anal only. That said, I know a lot of women enjoy the idea of being strictly anal only with no vaginal or clitoral stimulation at all, and if that’s an idea that appeals to you, by all means pursue it. Especially if you can already orgasm from just anal, it makes a lot of sense.

To answer your question more specifically, there are multiple things you can try.

• When you feel the urge to rub your clit, rub and finger your asshole instead, or if you have a plug in your ass, squeeze down on it when you feel that urge.
• Give yourself a challenge to go without your clit for a full day. At the end of the day, if you made it, try going another day. If you didn’t, try again for a single day. If you make it multiple days before rubbing your clit again, set that as your new baseline to try and beat the next time. Repeat until you’ve established the self control to go without it and focus just on anal stimulation.
• Get orajel or a similar sort of numbing gel/cream and apply it to your clit to temporarily remove the sensation during scenarios where you would be prone to rubbing it. Then, if you do touch it, you won’t feel anything and the act of touching it will have no reward and you’ll slowly start to break the habit.
• Wear a chastity belt. This may be more complicated and expensive and cumbersome than you want to deal with, but it is an option.
• Get a clit shield with piercings to keep it in place. This may be more extreme than you want to deal with, but it is an option.

Anonymous: It’s a glorious day. My GF just accepted to do anal as main fuck and barely want to do vaginal. Just a matter of time to turn her into my anal only slut. My goal is make her asshole loose for good.

Congratulations! Keep the focus on her ass and pure anal pleasure and she’ll lose interest in her pussy entirely before you know it.