Anonymous: Butt plugs have the tendency to slip right out of me. They don’t stay in place and pop right out especially while walking. It’s not that I have a stretched asshole cause I only do anal occasionally and don’t use dildos in it. Maybe I just need a bigger, rounder plug? Maybe mine is just naturally more stretchable? Any advice?

This is pretty common with smaller plugs and with plugs that don’t have a big enough difference in size between the widest and narrowest parts, or if the neck is too short. Try looking for something a bit bigger or with more of a size difference in that regard.

Also, just in a general sense, assholes don’t really get stretched, despite the common use of that terminology, it’s more that with use and practice you can gain increased elasticity and relax more easily, which might make it seem as if one is “looser”, but that’s not really the case, and having more frequent anal sex/play/butt plug wear often actually helps to strengthen anal muscles.

Anonymous: I got myself a couple of plugs & tried them out, & HOLY SHIT, I never thought I’d like having my ass plugged this much! My boyfriend put the smaller one in my ass while he fucked me a few days ago, he fucked me in the ass for the 1st time last night (had to end it halfway through cuz I wasn’t super used to it & felt like I needed to use the bathroom) & when I drove him to the bus station last night I put in the larger of the two plugs & ? I was a dripping mess. Suggestions for things to try?

Yay! Isn’t it great?

I’d suggest continuing to use the plugs regularly, start putting them any time you masturbate or do anything non-anal to further develop that association between anal stimulation and other known pleasure sources, which will have the double benefit of making anal keep feeling better and better, and training your ass with the plug so anal sex keeps getting easier. Outside of masturbation, keep slowly pushing your limits with them, wearing one for as long as it’s comfortable to do so, then taking it out and trying again another day to go even longer. Keep repeating that process and you’ll keep getting increasingly comfortable with it and want more.

I’d also suggest continuing to try anal sex and other more active forms of anal masturbation more often. If it was only a bit uncomfortable and felt like you needed to go to the bathroom rather than outright being painful, you’re in a great place for your first time having anal, and with more practice you’ll be able to really enjoy it.

Hope that gives you some ideas. Feel free to update or ask any other questions you might have.

Anonymous: So I want to go over into either exclusive or mostly anal, but my fiance is reluctant to, because he doesn’t want it to lose the “specialness” or the leverage he has (as a punishment/reward, depending on the day). What are some ways I can convince him?

Anal is inherently a special act, and becoming anal only doesn’t change that. Speaking personally, I found vaginal sex to get boring and bland quite quickly, but after many years of being anal only I’ve never gotten tired of or bored with it. If it’s what you prefer and enjoy much more, it doesn’t stop being special.

Since it sounds like anal is what you prefer and want exclusively, anal as a punishment doesn’t make too much sense for you. Perhaps the threat of vaginal would be a better form of leverage. It doesn’t necessarily ever need to be followed through with, but since you don’t want any vaginal, it can be an effective means of leverage to avoid getting fucked vaginally.

As far as actual punishment, there are all sorts of options that don’t need to involve vaginal sex. Spanking, or pussy slapping for increased sensitivity, clit denial (if your plan to be anal only doesn’t already include this as a default), clit numbing, temporarily going oral only, etc. are all viable options.

Rather than making a permanent commitment to anal only right now, why not try it out together for a month or two and then decide from there once you’ve seen how it is in practice? Anal Only April is coming up soon, it can be a good opportunity to participate in an anal only challenge along with a lot of other people, and to show him how much fun being anal only can be.

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alwaysanalblog: I’ve never understood this attitude that more of a good thing somehow diminishes it. I hope it is not too late for her as this is a huge incompatibility if they are to be married. Plenty more fish in the sea and most wouldn’t be so foolish as to turn down anal only.

keentimemachinekitty: I just wanted to say that I love your outlook on sex. Vaginal sex just doesn’t feel particularly good to me, and I have zero self confidence about requesting anal instead. I wish guys could be more like you. Please please please leave my vagina alone and just appreciate it as a pretty decoration.

ass-the-new-vagina: We admire your attitude, and wish you luck finding a guy who’ll help you live your dream.

Anonymous: I really like the idea of Anal Only April and we’re going to try it! I’ve wanted to go anal only before but this was a really good excuse to ask my boyfriend if we could try it as a challenge and he agreed! We’re going to try it with no pussy or clit for the entire month (I can cum from anal pretty easily) and my goal anyway is to stay with just anal after too if all goes well but we’ll see what he thinks at the end of the month. Wish me luck!

Fantastic to hear, and exactly what the anal only challenge months like Anal Only April and No Pussy November are intended for—something to inspire people to actually go ahead and try committing to anal only for a month and see how it really is for themselves. It can also be an opportunity for someone who already knows or thinks it’s what they want to explore it together with their partner and see if they want to get on board with the idea as well.

Of course, any month can (and should) be an anal only month, and someone need not wait for one of these events if they and/or their partner is eager to try it, but it can be fun and drive a lot of enthusiasm and participation when lots of people are taking the same challenge together.

Good luck, have fun, and show your partner just how great being anal only can be!

Anonymous: I’m looking into getting a butt plug for long term wear. What material would you recommend? I read one of your posts that suggested that it have a wider bulb and a narrow neck to the base, but that ones with jeweled bases (the most popular ones and the only ones I can seem to find online) aren’t particularly comfortable for long term use. What type of base would you recommend? Thanks for in advance, I can’t wait to train my ass for my boyfriend.

In many ways it can come down to a bit of personal preference and anatomical differences that vary from person to person, so it’s hard to give an answer that’s going to be suitable for everyone. Avoid materials other than silicone, steel and glass, though. A lot of lower grade materials can cause irritation or have toxic ingredients.

Silicone is softer and pliable and so some find it comfortable in that regard compared to having something totally rigid, but it can have a bit more friction so you notice it as lube dries out a bit more, depending on the surface finish of the silicone. Silicone toys can sometimes have issues with silicone lube, so are often limited to water-based and oil-based.

Steel and glass are rigid and smooth and often require less lube or can manage to stay comfortable longer as lube dries/gets absorbed. Some prefer the firmness of these materials, too.

Some possible options to consider are the Implicit Creations Core Plug (silicone, shaped for comfortable long term wear, multiple sizes), the Tantus Ryder (silicone, comfortably shaped, 1.5″ max diameter), and the nJoy line of plugs. T-shaped or loop bases are often going to be the most comfortable, and you want to avoid things with sharp edges. If you have a local sex toy store, I’d suggest going in and looking at some in person to get an idea of shape and size.

Finally, jeweled plugs can be very sexy and a lot of people like seeing them and wearing them, and even if they aren’t necessarily the best design for comfortable long term wear, they can be well worth having anyway to use in appropriate situations. And some do wear them fairly long term anyway.

Hope that helps some, and good luck and have fun with your anal training!

Lately, a number of women who are vaginal virgins have shared their stories, experiences or desires maintaining their vaginal virginity while being actively anal only. You can view those posts via the #vaginal virgin tag. However, more recently, there was a post on the Anal Only Lifestyle forum wherein a member has a new girlfriend who is a vaginal virgin but who would like to lose her virginity and try vaginal, while he prefers her staying an anal only vaginal virgin.

So I’ve been seeing this girl for about s month and three days after meeting she told me she was a techniqual virgin. I like this and we’ve only had anal sex since. She wants to have a go at vaginal and part of me didn’t want to let her but to get haveing anal.

Follow the conversation from there to see other people’s responses, more details, and to share your own perspective.

buttslutfan: I have a question. My lovely lady and i occasionally used to engage in the joys of anal sex. But she would never really prepare for it and not very often which, althought never seemed to bother her during. In which she usually got off a few times with great orgasms. The thing is she used to complain a bit for the next few days about stomach aches and abnormal poo regularity. And has since completely dried up any anal play what so ever. Even a sneaky finger during normal sex is gone. Any advice

Talk with her and say you miss sex and anal play with her and ask if she’d be willing to start trying it again. Ease into it gradually, not just straight to anal sex, and try to keep it a more regular practice. Abrupt and unexpected anal can cause more of a digestive impact. If she eases into the routine, it can cause less impact. But everyone’s different in that regard and different things affect different people differently as well, so it can be hard to give specific advice for that.

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xsovietx: As a note, how long would the discomfort last? When I’ve had anal, it would usually be a day. I suggest relaxing it first before playing. I found that the more foreplay done, the less pain and discomfort I get at the end, including stomach aches. Poo irregularity always happens if you cum in her ass, but maybe try not cumming in it the first couple of times so she can ease into it and be more comfortable with the idea. Hope that helps!

Anonymous: OMG I love the idea of anal only so much and after seeing how much you encourage virgin girls to go anal only I really want to do it too! I guess I already am but before I always thought I’d use my pussy eventually. Now I just want to stay with anal and keep my pussy special and virgin.

Yay! It’s becoming a trend! And anal only vaginal virgins are the best trend there could be, so of course you have my encouragement to do so as long as it’s what you want.

Anonymous: Hi! I’m an 18 yr old virgin submissive cunt who’s going to lose her virginity to her Master very soon .. But lately I’m not so sure anymore and I’m thinking about asking Him to fuck my ass first and keep going like that for a few months. Basically turning into a oral and anal only whore long before my cunt gets fucked for the first time. It makes me incredibly horny but it’s also kind of scary… what do you recommend, Sir?

I highly recommend it. You have nothing to lose by doing so, and it doesn’t need to be scary at all. Make sure to ease into anal and train your ass in advance so you’re ready for it and you’re confident in moving forward to anal sex.

Starting with anal is a great way to go, and I usually recommend staying anal only long term rather than jumping to vaginal. There’s a lot to be said about anal only girls with virgin pussies, and I think the world needs a lot more of them.

But you don’t need to make any sort of permanent commitment up front—try it for 3 to 6 months at first and then decide from there if you want to stay anal only and preserve your vaginal virginity long-term.

Good luck, and enjoy! I think you’re going to love being an anal and oral only girl. Please keep us updated with what you decide and how it goes. Feel free to ask any more specific questions you might have as well!