Announcing a brand new Anal Only Challenge month! To balance out No Pussy November, we’re adding Anal Only April as another opportunity to introduce yourself or your partner to the anal only lifestyle.

The best way to see what anal only is all about is to dive right into it for at least a month and stay committed to no vaginal sex during that time. This provides you with a clear focus on anal pleasure and gives you time to work out the kinks and develop a routine that works for you. Many people find by the end of a month or two that they really enjoy being anal only and want to stay that way.

Sound like a fun thing to try? In advance of April, start talking with your partner if you have one and get them on board with the idea, then start to prepare your (or your partner’s) ass so it’s ready and eagerly awaiting its use as a complete substitute for vaginal sex. If you don’t have a partner but would like to participate, you can challenge yourself to change your solo play habits to be anal only or to work on developing or improving your ability to orgasm from just anal.

For those who are already anal only, of course, every month is an anal only month. Anal Only April and No Pussy November, however, offer an opportunity to revisit the idea, celebrate how much you enjoy being anal only, and consider if there is anything new you’d like to add to your anal only routine. If you regularly engage in clitoral stimulation, for example, you could challenge yourself to stop that and focus on pure anal pleasure and orgasms instead. If ass to mouth isn’t something you do but would like to try, you could start incorporating that regularly. Starting to wear a butt plug regularly is an option if you don’t already do so. Larger toys, fisting, depth play, double anal… the possibilities are endless.

If you’re planning on participating, we’d love to hear from you what your plans are, and we’d love to receive updates as you go through Anal Only April to see how it’s going. And you can always stop by the Anal Only Lifestyle forum and chat to talk with other anal only people, share your experiences, get ideas, ask questions, and get advice.

canuks77: Hi bb what do you like better having your pussy eating out or your asshole getting lick .

bb-puta: asshole licked 10,000%

Anonymous: While I agree with anal sex and all, I find it unsettling how biased you can get. If someone likes vaginal, fine. If someone likes anal, fine. But diminishing either of them is kinda dumb. Everyone likes different stuff, and some people weren’t build for anal, just as some people weren’t build for vaginal

This message was sent to the former counterpart of this blog on Tumblr, which illustrated anal only-themed captions with anal images and gifs.

This blog advocates the anal only lifestyle. Its bias is quite clear and not even remotely hidden. I’ll repeat it here: I’m very strongly biased in favor of anal sex over vaginal. This comes originally from my personal preferences, then from my experiences with partners and conversations with other people—men and women—who have similar preferences or experiences.

My experience is that anyone can enjoy anal sex and pleasure, but it takes different amounts of time and different approaches for different people. Most of all, however, it generally takes an interest in trying it and learning to enjoy it. If someone’s willing to do that, then they can probably enjoy it quite a lot with practice.

This blog is sometimes more fantastical than other times, and it’s also known to dip into the ridiculous and whimsical, in an attempt to not take itself too seriously. Some of the scenarios presented in captions strike a very positive and pro-anal tone, others are more from an anti-vaginal perspective. Different followers of the blog enjoy different things, so I try to strike a balance between a range of content.

Here’s my actual stance: people should do what they enjoy, but also try things if they sound interesting or appealing to them in some way to see if that’s something they would enjoy as well. I think anal is the best way to have sex and promote it as such, because it’s not only my preference but because I’ve seen hundreds—maybe thousands—of other people who have come to the same conclusion over the course of this blog and the greater anal only community and I think other people should give it a chance as well to see if it’s for them. If you try it sincerely and it’s not—great, you gave it a shot. If you do love it, even better—you found something new you really enjoy.

In my experience, though, most people who try anal with proper technique and preparation without rushing into it unprepared do enjoy it, and those who decide to try going anal only for a month or two and stay committed to it during that time usually find by the end that they really enjoy being anal only and want to keep going with it. There might be some self-selection and bias going on there as well, but the end result is more people finding that they enjoy anal or being anal only. In the end that’s what it’s all about.

I’m not forcing anyone to do anything, I’m just presenting an argument and encouraging people to try it for themselves and come to their own conclusions from there.

Anonymous: Another anal only virgin (for lack of a better term lol) proudly raising her hand. I’m 25 and I’ve been doing anal pretty regularly since I was 14 but my pussy is totally virgin except for a dildo when I was younger just to try it (I didn’t like it). I started because I really wanted to have sex but didn’t want to get pregnant (like a lot of girls) but then I just kept doing it anal. I love it, and after a while it turned me on to keep my pussy virgin, I really don’t want to lose that now. ?

Coming out of my more neutral and impersonal persona for a moment, that’s really incredibly sexy and appealing to me and I think it’s absolutely fantastic that you’ve decided to do this and that it makes you happy and turned on to keep your pussy completely unused. You have my absolute encouragement to do so and I hope a lot more women get inspired to do the same.

Stepping back into my neutral persona, I of course recognize that this isn’t necessarily for everyone and that some people want to try multiple things before settling on what they like, and while you and I may know that anal sex is where it’s at and vaginal just can’t really compare, some people want to see for themselves. And it sounds like you did the same with a dildo. If someone feels they need to try it all first, great. Go for it.

But I think there’s merit in starting with anal first and staying anal only for a while and only trying vaginal at a later time, in order to allow anal skills and pleasure to develop first without the influence of vaginal to compare it to. Because while anal has by far the most payoff for pleasure, it can take a little more effort up front to get into. Vaginal is easy but not nearly as rewarding. If someone starts with vaginal, they’re often much more likely to stay with it even if it’s not as pleasurable as anal, because it’s easy to do so. If someone puts in the effort with anal first, learns to love it, develops all the pleasure and orgasm pathways associated with it, and has a good bit of anal experience first, vaginal will have much less of an influencing factor on their sexuality going forward and they’ll be more prone to remaining anal centric or returning to anal only. Which is not to say that someone who starts with vaginal can’t recognize the benefits of anal or going anal only either—most anal only women had a lot of vaginal sex before going anal only—it just can take more effort in some cases.

I’ve hinted at this above and in other posts on the subject, but as someone who’s been anal only for 11 years without ever using your vagina, I suspect that if you were to ever try it at any point in the future, you’d find it immensely disappointing. And I’m not saying that in an attempt to discourage you from trying it, just that everything about your sexuality is anal centric, and vaginal is far more bland and simplistic a sort of stimulation compared to anal, so if the high of anal is your normal, vaginal simply isn’t going to compare positively. So I do sincerely think there’s really no point in trying—not that you’ve indicated any desire to do so.

Thanks for sharing your experiences. Those are some of my thoughts on the subject. I’d love to see more women making the same choice as you, personally, but I’m always happy to see more anal only women whether they have experienced vaginal sex or not.

allidoisjerkoff: so you are strict about being only anal? i suppose you haven’t used your pussy hole in ages? its true, your asshole should just be considered your main hole

analonlygirl: I am strict about it and I’ve been anal only for a few years now. I haven’t had anyone complain about it yet

odieballer: Do you have problems with hemorrhoids and stuff and painful shitting after wrecking your asshole the way you do? I always wonder about that with you or top stars like HKJ and proxy and others

bb-puta: no, i personally have never had hemorrhoids, painful bathrooms or any other problems with my ass!

The idea that anal, even larger/rougher anal sex and play, causes injury or hemorrhoids is more or less a myth. It can if you don’t listen to your body and take care of it, but if you use lube, warm up, and don’t do anything that hurts, you can do all sorts of things like double anal fisting and be totally fine. Gradual progress and increase of size is healthy and safe. Forcing things in and ignoring the pain is what gets someone injured. This applies whether you’re just getting started with anal or are an expert doing expert-level play.

analonlylesbian: I was talking to a real life friend about anal, and what I got is that they weren’t denying the pleasure aspect, but they were grossed out by the poop aspect. It didn’t seem like anything I said could really counter that, although I guess I could’ve pushed harder, but although I’m an advocate, I don’t like pushing people. Anyway, can you think of anything I could say to them to allay those concerns? I want to help people discover the joys of anal if I can~! ^_^

A few key talking points about anal cleanliness:

• Diet is a big part of cleanliness, so having a balanced high fiber diet and avoiding excessive fatty/greasy foods will generally keep things clean.
• The rectum, which is where sex takes place, is generally empty and quite clean with a healthy diet except for right before one needs to go to the bathroom. Feces is in the colon and only enters the rectum when it’s time to be expelled.
• Knowing your daily digestive cycle and going to the bathroom before having sex is going to avoid the majority of any cleanliness issues.
• If concerned about it beyond that, use a small amount of warm water in an enema bulb to flush just the rectum a few times. From here, you should be good to go.
• Finally, it is your butt and while you can play in a clean manner most of the time, understand that sometimes it can just get a little dirty. Be prepared for that, have something to clean your toy/partner handy, and don’t be too worried about it. Laugh it off, clean up, and resume having fun.

fuckmedaddyxxxxxxx: My boyfriend wants to do anal for the first time. He never has with anyone, I have a couple times with a much smaller dick. How can I be sure that I will be clean internally when we do this and how can I adjust to his size in my ass the night that we do this?

To make sure you’re clean, avoid any overly greasy/fatty foods in the day or so before you plan to have anal sex, go to the bathroom well in advance, and if you’re particularly concerned, get a douche/enema bulb and use a small amount of warm water to just flush out your rectum a few times. Avoid using too much water, as you don’t want it to go deeper than the rectum where it can end up causing more of a mess and taking a longer time to get clean. Just a little bit goes a long way, and you can do it multiple times instead until you’re sure you’re clean. Try doing this a different time before you plan to have anal sex so you can understand what’s involved and how long it might take. You can use a dildo after to confirm that you’re clean.

As far as preparing yourself for his size, it’s a gradual process. Start by fingering your ass to get back into anal penetration, working up to three or four fingers, and then find a dildo or something similar closer to your boyfriend’s size and start practicing on that. A butt plug can also be a great tool to warm up and relax your ass, but dildos are good for preparing yourself more fully. If you use a butt plug as well, try wearing it between training sessions as well as before having sex.

Anonymous: Reality check! As a woman, let me put some things straight. No sane woman on this earth actually enjoys anal. Some simply learn to ignore or like the pain. Anal is mentally fun, physically it isn’t. Because that orifice was just not made for penetration. Even gay men only enjoy it because they sniff poppers (muscle relaxant) and because they have a prostate. Women are built differently and need at least internal stimulation of the clitoris to cum, which is impossible through the anus. Face it.

Yeah… not a single thing you said is true. I’m sorry you’ve had such bad experiences with it. I hope someday you’ll have an opportunity to experience what anal can really be.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following responses.

fwcouple98023: Internal clitoral stimulation? Pretty sure the clit is external and g spot is internal. If you know what you’re doing, you can hot g spot while doing anal. Just have to be good at fucking!! @hornywife84

hungandhands10me: I love that a woman told another woman that she’s lying to herself about something feeling good

lilobinx: What a fucking idiot.? She clearly knows absolutely nothing about this subject or the female anatomy/erogenous zones. Sounds like she’s desperately trying to convince herself all of this. What Anal-Loving man hurt her????

1.) Anal is fucking amazing.

2.) Not all women cum from clitoral stimulation.

3.) Not all women cum from penetration .

4.) Some women have extra sensitive anus’ which is why those types of women love anal. (??‍♀️)

5.) Shut the fuck up, you dense fruitcake…?

iridescent-sweethart: Anal is so great?

pinklioness7: Seriously? She just decided she spoke for a large chuck of the population based on her own experiences? Even going so far as to say gay meet have to sniff something to enjoy it? Guess what sweetie, you are wrong. Period. Many of us women enjoy anal, and I’ve never used any substance (besides lube) to enjoy it. Get your facts straight or maybe try voicing your statement as a personal one instead of speaking for people you know nothing about.

awesomegromm: Well count me as one of those people who only does anal for the pleasure aspect, has never used poppers, and actually knows what he’s doing when he fucks a lady in the ass.

bbcsnatcha: i want to be an anal slut. i’m really getting into dp too. so far i’ve had a butt plug in (the hooks used to keep it in place are uncomfortable) i want to give my ass to my big daddy but i don’t know where to start 25/f/tx

Is your goal to become anal only, or just to incorporate anal sex into your life? As an advocate of the anal only lifestyle, I’m obviously going to strongly encourage you to pursue a transition to anal only, but if anal sex is still something you’re working towards at this point, the first stage should generally be learning to enjoy it and make it a regular part of your sex life before working to replace vaginal fully with anal, unless you’re interested in and committed to making a rapid transition.

Keep using your butt plug regularly. Perhaps start with a process of only rubbing your clit or orgasming when masturbating if you have your plug or another toy in your ass at the same time, to further develop an association between anal stimulation and pleasure, arousal, and orgasms.

Start using dildos to masturbate anally. Start on the smaller end, with something you’re easily comfortable with, and work up gradually from there until reaching around the size of your partner. Take as little or as much time as you need to get to where you can comfortably fit it. If something starts to hurt in the process, take things slow, back off if necessary, spend a little more time with something smaller, then try again. With gradual easing up in size, you shouldn’t experience pain. It might feel a little unusual or briefly uncomfortable until you adjust to it, but it shouldn’t be painful. As you start out, combining clit stimulation with anal penetration can help you learn to relax as well as transforming what might feel a little uncomfortable into pleasure instead. Long term, I encourage people to experiment with transitioning to pure anal pleasure without clitoral stimulation, but your clit can be helpful when first training.

Once you feel confident you’re ready to try it with your partner, go through a warmup either yourself beforehand or together, working up in the sizes to relax and prepare your ass, then lube him up and gently ease him in. Take the control for the initial penetration and slowly slide your ass onto his cock, stopping or slowing or backing off as necessary. When he’s fully penetrated, just stay there a moment while you adjust to his size, and then slowly start moving. Once you’re comfortable with a pace, let him take over more. If it gets to be too much, make sure he knows to slow or stop when you say. You likely won’t need to stop altogether, but a brief pause with him still inside you but just resting a moment, or pulling out partway, can give you the adjustment you need before resuming.

It’s a learning process the first few times, and it can take some back and forth and starting and stopping, but if you stick with it you’ll get there, and you’ll love it.