Anonymous: I know you don’t like pussies but can you name one good thing about the vagina?

pussysucks: It’s great at making babies. That’s kind of what it’s for. But assholes are better at everything else. Pleasure. Intimacy. Attractiveness. Not getting pregnant for the 99.99% of the times you have sex and have no interest in making babies.

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Hello once again. Thanks for answering my post from 17th April about my experiences during and after my second pregnancy.

At this point it’s kind of hard to say what it is I really want. I feel more than a little confused. I think my mood is lower than after my first child. Here’s the thing though: When I was pregnant I loved all the anal, it felt very good and it felt like the right thing to do at the time. I’m a big believer in listening to what your body tells you. And I really had a verging on unhealthy craving for it for the duration.

I’m biased in favor of the anal only lifestyle, naturally, so my responses and encouragement are going to share that bias, but I’m also biased in favor of mutual consent and desire to take part in this lifestyle.

Because you’re still adjusting post-pregnancy, and because both you and your husband loved being anal only until recently, I would suggest continuing to maintain your anal only routine together when you feel up to it even if your arousal hasn’t fully recovered yet, and seeing where things go from there. Your arousal will return, and I’m pretty confident your love for anal will as well. It’s a little bit of the “fake it until you make it” approach, but that can actually work quite well. And along the way, you’ll probably figure out whether continuing being anal only is what you really want or if you really do want to go back to vaginal.

Although I was getting gradually larger I also never felt sexier (which my husband commented on) while now the reverse is true. It all feels like a very unfair piece of bad timing that my husband is very affectionate, turned on and making very frequent advances while I’m not feeling the same. I admit to feeling some guilt over this. Is that bad?

It’s not at all uncommon or unusual in this situation. Be sure to keep talking with him about it and explain how you feel, and listen to him as well. Make sure to try not to make him feel bad for being affectionate and aroused while you aren’t. Try to work through it together and come up with compromises that work while you continue to adjust post-pregnancy. Try to identify what does make you feel more aroused and when and take advantage of that when you can. Otherwise, just keep moving forward and be patient.

I’m not sure if it’s just the lack of interest in any sex rather than not wanting anal. My husband is being very gentle and considerate and even more enthusiastic with foreplay etc than ever before.

Any tips for getting my drive back? And if we are making love 3 or 4 times a week is that too much anal to have safely?

For getting your sex drive back, just be patient and keep sticking with it, and you’ll get there eventually. It just takes time in most cases. Your body goes through a lot during a pregnancy, and everything doesn’t just go back to “normal” immediately after. It’s a process.

As for having anal sex 3 to 4 times a week, there’s nothing at all wrong with that so long as that’s a frequency that isn’t uncomfortable or painful for you. Listen to your body, and if it makes you sore or painful after or during to do it that often, try it a little less often, but if it’s working well for you, keep it up. Having frequent anal sex doesn’t have negative long term effects if you’re doing it safely and it doesn’t hurt and isn’t injuring you. Maintaining a frequent routine like that is in fact quite positive both for having anal sex and for your anal health in general.

I’m not sure if much of what I said was very helpful, but I hope it helped at least a little. Good luck!

Anonymous: My Dom wants me to go anal only for a while so I can learn to cum from anal… but idk how to cum from anal. Any suggestions?

He has the right idea. Focusing just on anal for a while and avoiding other means of orgasm like vaginal sex and clitoral stimulation will not only increase your arousal and make you more sensitive, it also forces you and your body to learn to orgasm from different means, and if you’re concentrating on a lot of anal during that time, it can help to start unlock that ability. Just explore anal and start to pay attention to what feels particularly good with it and while seems like it might lead to an orgasm if you keep doing that, and let it build. Don’t be too frustrated with it if it doesn’t always happen every time or if it starts to build but doesn’t go anywhere at first. Just keep trying and enjoy the process. You’ll get there.

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alwaysanalblog: I second that advice, with would add: don’t ‘try’ too hard. Enjoy the moment and the feelings. Since you are a sub, you should be stimulating the mental side as much as you can. Think about your doms enjoyment and pleasure and how it makes you feel to give yourself so completely to him.

Far too often people underestimate the power of their imagination and fantasies.

daddysprincessdiana: My husband and I used to have anal be our main kind of sex that we had. I would wear a butt plug every day, and we would only have vaginal sex if we forgot what it felt like. Then in March last year it started to hurt. Really badly. And we had to stop. Since then we’ve tried every couple of months, but it’s gotten to the point where even my smallest plug hurts. Do you know what could have caused this or what I could do to make it stop hurting? I miss anal

I’m sorry to hear that, that’s terrible. What sort of pain is it that you’re experiencing? Is it a sharp, stinging pain, a burning pain, or something else?

It could be a hemorrhoid or fissure that hasn’t fully healed or keeps getting irritated again.

It could be a sensitivity to the sort of lube you’re using or one of its ingredients, which can cause a lot of pain for some people. If you’ve tried multiple lubricants and it even hurts with natural lubrication as well, that may not be the case.

It could be a combination of factors with one primary trigger initially as well combined with falling out of the routine and things that were once easy because you were more relaxed and in the habit of doing something are hard to get back into now even if the original issue has healed.

Ultimately, I would suggest visiting a doctor about the issue to get a better understanding of what the cause is and see how you can proceed forward from there.

Anonymous: At the weekend I introduced my boyfriend to the joys of anal sex and he went wild! He even woke me up in the middle of the night to do it again as he couldn’t wait! He kept telling me how it was the best sex he’d ever had! Kristy if you are reading this (you know who you are!) thanks for showing me this blog! It’s awesome! 😉 xxx

Congratulations! Sounds like a great thing for the both of you if he now knows exactly how much better anal is than vaginal. What’s next—maybe trying anal only for a while?

It is actually a hot and woderfull and it could once highest sexual pleasure only if you do it right. Im not anal only but most of the sex i have only ass. I cum by viginal but only squirt by anal. I cant say when i first had my anal sex but since then it was the number one sexual pleasure for and the longest term my anal only was 4 months until some one said that if i do not use my pussy my clitories nerves may stop working something like that dont know even that is true or lies. Do you know anything about that because i was looking forward to go anal only since i was 18 but now this thing makes me concern.

That’s a complete myth that not using your vagina or clitoris will make their nerves stop working. You may find after a long time of being anal only that you don’t enjoy vaginal or clitoral stimulation as much because anal pleasure is superior for you, but it won’t change anything physically, it’s just a change of preferences, and there’s nothing at all wrong with that. After all, if you prefer anal and it’s all you end up wanting, then you wouldn’t want vaginal anyway.

Don’t let misinformation like that get in the way of your anal only dreams. Go for it, dive back in, go back to being anal only, and work towards breaking your 4 month record from before!

Anonymous: I’ve been following your blog almost from the beginning and love it, but this is my first time communicating with you. My situation is a little different, but I wanted to share it anyhow. About 4 years ago I was in a relationship with this great girl and we enjoyed anal only together. All was great until we broke up. I’ve dated a few girls since but none want anal. It’s about impossible to go back to vaginal after AO. If only these women knew what they were missing. It sucks but I live in hope.

Thanks for sharing. Sorry to hear you’ve had trouble finding a partner who wants anal, let alone to go anal only, but don’t give up hope. As you mentioned, you can’t go back to vaginal after you’ve been anal only. Keep trying and you’ll find someone who likes and wants it as much as you or even more.

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alwaysanalblog: That is a sad story. Like going from eating like a king to having to search through the trash every day for something to eat.

However, it is getting better all the time for those who’ve discovered how much better anal is. Mostly because women know that is only fair or expected that they at least try anal. I think the man above has been unlucky in his dating and should not become disheartened.

When he finds the right girl he’ll make a wonderful lover for her who will have the experience needed to introduce her to a life of anal only. He may be down now but most women are very grateful to men who show them that there are many pleasures beyond the limited capabilities of her reproductive system.

Anonymous: This blog is amazing. All about anal.What makes it even better is the anti vaginal angle to it as well. It makes it way more erotic. Not just preferring the ass, but completely being against putting it in the pussy takes it to a whole new level and it’s great. Is there another place that also has chat, stories, or anything like that revolving more around the anti-vaginal side of the anal only kink?

Thank you. We do tend to take more of an anal-positive approach rather than vaginal-negative, but I suppose it’s somewhat inherent in the anal only lifestyle that we’re anti-vaginal at some level.

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k-azile: Would it be good training to leave a plug in while you sleep?

Absolutely, so long as it’s a comfortable plug and has a safe design with a base wide enough to not slip in. If you’ve never had that issue before, it should be fine. It might take multiple nights before wearing it all night is comfortable enough to do, or it may work right away.

k-azile: What is a good way to clean your anus before having anal sex? I’d like to be semi clean before my fiance enters. I know it’s impossible to be 100% and I’m okay with that. I’d just like to know a routine or product. Thank you.

A balanced diet, daily play, knowing your daily digestive routine, and going to the bathroom before having sex are good places to start. If you want to achieve more than just that can provide, try a small warm water flush with an enema bulb after going to the bathroom—not much water, just a small squirt or two.