trialsandtribs: Before actually starting on your journey of anal sex, had you assgasmed from anal fingering? How long did it take you to have your first assgasm from butt sex? Would you mind describing your assgasms and how they’re different from orgasms for you, please? Do you have a preference for one type? Thanks for the wonderful blog. 🙂

ilikeitintheass: I only had true anal only orgasms when I started experimenting with AO. Before that orgasms while having anal sex or anal masturbation were combined with clit or pussy stimulation. I’ve never had an orgasm just using my fingers.
I don’t know how to explain it. It’s like getting goosebumps all over your body, but 100 times more intense. I think I talked about this in my previous asks.
My preference is anal only orgasms.

sexyfitmblr: her clit, her pussy: her problema.

If you do anal right, they’re nobody’s problem, because anal can give all the pleasure she’d want, on its own.

agraciousguest1: About how much % of the time do u think u have anal sex compared to vaginal sex? & do u love anal sex so much that you’d be fine never having vaginal again?

niemacreamm: 9/10 I’m in my ass and if I never had sex in my pussy again I wouldn’t mind

Anonymous: Any ideas or tips How to persuade or convince one’s girl to try anal sex. ( She is completely convinced that We shouldnt and wont ever try it)

There’s no real trick to it, you just have to communicate. Instead of making her feel pushed to do something she doesn’t want to do, ask her about it and listen to her, understand why she doesn’t want to try it, what her concerns are about it, and why she thinks it’s bad or wrong.

Most people who oppose it either think it’s painful, dirty or somehow morally wrong. The first two can be true but don’t have to be and can be avoided easily with bit of knowledge. The last is just outright false but you might have the hardest time changing someone’s mind if they think this is true.

If she has any willingness to try, you may be able to move forward slowly by introducing some mild anal play into your routine together, starting by rimming her. But she has to be on board to at least try, and if she isn’t, there’s not much you can do.

Anonymous: We want to go anal only for April but anal is something we only do a few times a month. We really love it and want to do it more but it’s always been hard to do it more often without me getting sore or it starting to hurt the next time. Any advice?

Great question! I think this is something that a lot of people struggle with—they enjoy anal a lot and want to do it more often, or even try going anal only as in your case, but they find it hard to do often enough to establish a routine.

If you’re sore or in pain after or during anal, you probably didn’t warm up enough before and did too much before you were ready. Try to really focus on making anal play and masturbation part of your regular routine, starting with smaller things like fingers or small toys and then working up with bigger toys closer in size to your partner’s penis. Start wearing a butt plug regularly—not necessarily all day, every day, but at least for a period of time most days as you’re able to, as well as in advance of having anal sex. This can really help relax, train and warm up your ass for sex.

In addition to keeping up a routine of anal training in periods between having sex and warmup before sex, the other thing that obviously helps is to start doing anal more often. Find a starting frequency that works for you, maintain it for a week, then try to add another day into the frequency the following week, and repeat from there. If you find it easy, you can increase the frequency faster, if you find it hard, go a little slower, but see how it goes for you and adjust as needed.

I would suggest going ahead with Anal Only April, starting with anal sex one or two times a week and focusing on oral and other non-vaginal sex in between, as well as having anal play sessions even at times you aren’t ready for anal sex again but are ready for some other anal play. For your first time, I’d suggest not having anal the very first day of the challenge but building up to it over the next week with lots of anal play and training so you’re much more relaxed and warmed up for it, then the following week you might be ready for sex two or three times throughout the week, and continuing to build up from there as you listen to your body and figure out what you’re ready for as the month progresses.

By the end of the month, you should be enjoying frequent anal without discomfort.

Anonymous: Hey I’ve been following you for a while and I can’t help but agree with you about your views on anal sex. When my GF was into it I absolutely loved giving it to her and I’ve always loved anal porn. Today I had the house to myself and decided it was time to try her butt plug as I edged and it was AMAZING. I can see why it’s addictive now. I nearly exploded when I could take it with ease (didn’t take long). Why have I waited so long?! Question is, do I tell her? I’m a (straight) guy btw…

Anal pleasure can be a lot of fun for women and men both. I’m not one to say that every man needs to receive anal stimulation if he wants to have anal sex with women, but I encourage anyone to try it if they’re interested.

As for telling her, that really depends on your relationship and how you think she’ll react. I always lean towards being honest and open, and if it’s something you enjoy and want to pursue further, you should share it with her.

You also mentioned that you used to have anal sex with your girlfriend when she was “into it”, which suggests that she isn’t anymore and you no longer have anal together? Why not? What changed?

Anonymous: I love this idea of Anal Only April! My wife and I have been doing anal since before we were married and it’s been a really regular stable that we both love more than vaginal, but though we’ve gone without vaginal for a while before it hasn’t really been deliberate. We talked about it last night and we decided we’re going to try Anal Only April and then probably keep going after too. We both really like the idea of choosing to be anal only and stop using her pussy.

I think a lot of anal only couples start out through a natural process of preferring anal and shifting towards primarily doing it, before realizing that it’s how they want to be and choosing deliberately to be anal only, and that can be a really effective way of establishing a strong, lasting anal only relationship, because of that sort of natural evolution that made it obvious to the both of you that being anal only is what’s best.

I think you’re going to have a really fun month and I’m sure you’ll want to stay anal only indefinitely now that you’re consciously considering that you prefer it that way.

Anonymous: Which diet do u essentially recommend while doing the anal only month? Thx

Any well-balanced diet will do, try to have a healthy amount of dietary fiber and avoid too much fat and you should be fine. The most important thing is to try and get into a fairly consistent digestive routine and be able to listen to your body to know when you need to go to the bathroom, etc.

Anonymous: So I have a long distance relationship and I will see my boyfriend in April. Since I am currently not taking any birth control pills we decided that he should take my anal virginity (with a condom ofc, u never can be too careful). But here it comes folks: I am a vaginal virgin. And truth be told I am following this blog since one year or so. Maybe I can stay anal only if he likes the idea and I show him this! Just wanted to share this with u! Xoxo from Germany Liz

That sounds like a great idea, and something you clearly seem to want for yourself based on what you’ve said here and the fact you’ve been following this blog for so long. No doubt you’ll be staying anal only for quite a while at least if you’re going to begin with it, and there’s no need to commit to it immediately from the start (unless you want to!). You can give yourself the chance to give it a serious try for a while and then decide later in the future whether you want to continue anal only. (You probably will!)