Message: Can’t Relate to Dom/Sub, But Excited About Anal Only
Anonymous: My wife and I follow your blog but so much we can’t relate to such as all the dom/sub submissions or women calling themselves sluts or whores. It’s like another world to us. Nevertheless we talk about your lifestyle often and do get excited by the idea of it. Anal is a big part of our sex life, perhaps more so for me as I get more pleasure from it. I know you are always balanced so is there anything we would likely miss if we consider ending vaginal?
There is a very wide variety of people who are interested in anal and the anal only lifestyle, and the dom/sub dynamic is only one aspect of that. Anal only pairs quite well with that lifestyle, thus the popularity of the combination, but it does not have to at all and there are plenty of other couples out there who are very much anal only but who don’t do any power exchange, they just both really love anal sex and the intimacy and excitement being anal only gives them.
It’s definitely a point worth bringing up—people not interested in power exchange or some of the other aspects that sometimes pop up with people in conversation about the anal only lifestyle shouldn’t be deterred from the lifestyle as a whole even if those things don’t interest them. Fundamentally, the anal only lifestyle is about preferring anal sex and choosing to replace vaginal with anal, and that’s all that it has to be.
If the two of you are interested in it, I would really suggest just trying it. Give yourselves a month or two to start and just dive in with just anal only. In my experience, most people find they don’t miss vaginal much if at all by a few weeks to a month in and it’s really easy to just keep going anal only and not return to vaginal. I’ve seen it happen many times throughout the various anal only challenge months we’ve had around here over the years, where people try it out for a month because it seem like an interesting challenge but there’s no way they would stick with it, because they would miss vaginal too much, then the end of the month rolls around and they follow up with “actually… I kind of don’t miss my pussy anymore, I think we’re just going to stay anal only now”.
Give it a try, have fun with it, and see where it takes you.
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