Anonymous: I’ve never had my pussy fucked, and my boyfriend has no interest in anything but anal, I take his fingers daily, but I’m nervous about the size of his cock hurting me. Is it really the most natural way?

It’s definitely the best way—once you get used to it, it’s far more pleasurable and intimate, it’s a lot sexier, and it has other benefits like natural birth control. Keep your pussy virgin and focus on maximizing anal pleasure and skill. You won’t regret it.

Just keep practicing and training and work up to being ready for his cock with more fingers, and add some other toys into the mix too. Butt plugs, dildos, etc. If you’re comfortable with the number of fingers you can fit currently, keep pushing that limit of what size you’re comfortable with on a regular basis and with a gradual increase in size like that, you’ll be able to get to the size of his cock before very long. Once you can fit a toy similar in size to him, you should be ready to try it with him.

That’s the safe way to do it and avoid pain or discomfort. Not everyone needs to go through quite such a gradual process, and a lot of people will just warm up the best they can and go slowly with their partner until they adjust, with a few moments of discomfort at first, which often fades quickly and turns into pleasure. Whatever approach you do take, just be sure to stop or pause if anything becomes particularly painful. Done right, it shouldn’t hurt, and if it does, you probably need to warm up more first.

Let us know how it goes once you do try it, and ask any other questions if you have any!

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alwaysanalblog: The above young lady has a great future ahead of her with a mature and sensible boyfriend to show her the way. Naturally he has no interest in anything but anal, but more than that, he cares for his girlfriend so much that he wants her to enjoy all the benefits that anal will bring.

littlegirl1222: So. The thought of going permanently anal only is very appealing. I really enjoyed doing it for the month of April, the ache was exquisite and unique and there were times when I was literally dripping!

However, I looove having my clit teased until I can’t talk straight and there’s still so much I want to try in orgasm denial involving my clit! I can’t give it up just yet….

I’m thinking about doing a rotation thing, where one month I’m anal only and not allowed to touch my clit and the next month I can edge my clit as much as I want (or am allowed, or forced, etc.) possibly slowly making the time I’m allowed to touch my clit shorter and shorter until I’m not allowed at all….. or something of the sort…. I find this an interesting idea anyway and would like to give it thought….

That sounds like a totally reasonable compromise to keep anal only fun going but still explore and experiment with other things too. Would you stay anal only in terms of penetration all the time, and just alternate between using your clit and not? Or resume vaginal penetration at other times as well? A lot of people find anal only very appealing in terms of penetration but also need (or want) to continue using their clit at least some of the time and there’s no reason not to do that if it’s what works for you and lets you enjoy anal only fun and pleasure otherwise.

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littlegirl1222: We already mostly do anal, I enjoy it more and I’m pretty sure my husband does too, the only reason we really ever go vaginal is because we can’t find the lube. So the rotation would been one month strictly anal stimulation only and one month where I touch my clit and maybe vaginal if that’s what my husband wants at the time. I do kegal exercises semi regularly so I don’t really need Kegal balls, but I would LOVE a set and I would use them on the month I can touch my clit.

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Anonymous: Hi. A friend of mine directed me here. I only got to try anal sex recently at a girls insistence. For years I avoided it as I heard so many negative things about it and if i’m honest I assumed it must be over-rated. I was wrong and the experience was amazing. If this is a lifestyle then you can sign me up!

Thanks for sharing! A lot of people, men especially, avoid trying it or say that it’s overrated and that nothing could compare to pussy, but those people generally either haven’t tried it or have only done it a few times or with a partner who doesn’t enjoy it much or know what she’s doing. Doing it with a partner who wants it, enjoys it, and is experienced can make a huge difference and it sounds like you had a fantastic first experience with anal that will bring you back for lots more going forward.

It is a lifestyle, and it continues to grow all the time, with more and more people both discovering anal and falling in love with it, and also realizing they greatly prefer it to vaginal and choosing to go all in on anal only. It’s a great thing.

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You were right!! You said she would want more and more anal and we’ve just had 4 days of anal! I’m now worried I’m going to wake up. We never had as much sex when we were just doing vaginal. And no soreness just pleasure for us both. She likes a vibe on and around her clit and cums hard. She likes it if I thrust deep and hold while she cums and I can feel her ring squeeze down hard several times. My mind is blown and I’m very happy with how things are working out. I had no idea it could be like this or that things might change so quickly.

Until next time………..

That’s fantastic. Keep it up, keep her cumming, and keep communicating to make sure you both stay balanced and aren’t overdoing it or causing anything that might end up slowing things back down or requiring you to back off, and there’s a good chance she’ll want to keep going with just anal.

Make sure she knows how happy you are, too.

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alwaysanalblog: It sounds like she’s discovered what anal can do for her. People have long said it’s all about the man but if anything it’s women who are the real ones who become addicted to this form of pleasure.

littlegirl1222: Finishing off April was a bit harder than I thought it would be after having an orgasm… I had to really immerse myself with other things to ignore the want to touch my clit, but I managed!

I’m pretty proud of myself! Now that I CAN touch my clit I’m a bit hesitant…. I’m not sure why…..

Maybe because going anal only for the month unlocked something that felt right inside of you and you feel the need for more of the same?

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Anonymous: How do you get a metal plug with a round jeweled base to be comfortable? Just lots of practice? The plug itself feels great but the base really hurts my skin.

Those plugs, while great for shorter term use, aren’t as ideal for longer term wear because the wide, round base with an often sharper edge can dig into your skin and start to become uncomfortable or hurt over time. I’d suggest looking for something with a T-shaped base that’s a bit more ergonomic to wear for longer periods of time and use the jeweled plugs when you want to dress up and use it as part of a sexy outfit or show off to a partner.

Everyone’s built a little differently, so finding a plug that’s perfect for you can take a little time sometimes, unfortunately.

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Anonymous: so i have question: how to make sure i have no poo in my ass before i do anal sex??

For the most part, especially if you have a pretty balanced diet, unless you are doing it right before you need to go to the bathroom, you won’t. The rectum stays pretty empty most of the time. So, start by going to the bathroom. If you want to clean further than that, get a small enema bulb/douche and squirt a little bit of warm water into your rectum, hold it a moment, and release into a toilet, repeated several times until the water consistently comes out clean, and you should be pretty good to go. It does not take much water, and you do not want to overdo it and go deeper than the rectum generally for most anal play/sex.

Anonymous: How do I get over the feeling of having to go to the bathroom? We go very slow and there isn’t any pain. I know I don’t actually have to go to the bathroom and won’t during sex, but being penetrated and feeling full feels exactly the same as having to go. This is very distracting and makes it extremely unenjoyable.

How long have you been doing anal? When you first start out, this isn’t uncommon for some people, because the same parts of your body are being stimulated as when you get the urge to go to the bathroom. But with time and practice and a bit of a mental shift about it, you will start to separate the sensation of sexual anal penetration from the feeling of needing to go to the bathroom.

I would suggest incorporating more frequent anal play that focuses on the parts of it that are pleasurable to you currently, and from there you can expand that pleasure into the other aspects of anal. Lots of rimming, lots of gentle external anal massage with a lubricated finger or two rubbing/massaging around your anus until it opens up naturally and then gently slipping inside and focusing on sensations that feel good. The more you focus on the pleasure of anal, the more the rest of it will feel good too. Do it more than just with a partner as well—explore anal play and pleasure on your own time. Starting to think of it as a way to pleasure yourself and masturbate can help shift you towards seeing it as more pleasurable.

If you aren’t already, you might also try combining it with clitoral stimulation. I often suggest clitoral denial on this blog, but for some people that’s something that should come a bit later in the process, and combining anal penetration with clitoral stimulation at first can go a long way in accelerating one’s enjoyment of anal by combining a known pleasure with a new form of stimulation and building up that association between anal and pleasure.