Anonymous: Any ways to get a girl who won’t do anal to become an anal only slut?

You don’t just “get” someone to do anal, or to magically love it so much they immediately want to go anal only. If she won’t do anal at all, that’s a pretty big obstacle to overcome, don’t you think?

Talk with her. Make it clear that you’d really like to explore anal pleasure with her, but that you want her to enjoy it and not just do it because it’s something that you want or feels good to you. Let her know that if she agrees to try it, you’re committed to going at a pace she’s comfortable with and doing what it takes for her to enjoy it.

If she agrees, start just with rimming for a while, start eating her ass as a regular part of your sexual activity and making her orgasm while stimulating her asshole externally without penetration. From there, move on to penetration but start small. Use a lubricated finger during other stimulation. Combine anal stimulation with other things she enjoys so it gets associated with those known pleasures. Give her lots of orgasms during anything anal-related. As she gets comfortable with one finger, add a second one, and so on. After she can regularly and comfortably fit 3+ fingers, consider getting her a butt plug and/or a dildo to use anally, with the goal of continuing to gradually work her up in size to your penis.

The process is the same, just slow increases, with lube, and stopping/pausing if something starts to hurt. Focus on gradual relaxation/stretching and her pleasure/enjoyment of it, and you’ll get to the point where she can comfortably have anal sex before you know it.

But she has to want it and be willing to at least try.

It’s been a few weeks and I don’t know if you want to know how we are getting on but here it is.

What you’ve been saying here in your advice and answers to your followers is true: it gets better and it gets easier. Anal is becoming more and more of our thing so I’m starting to think that anal only can be real goal for us now. It isn’t a fantasy any more which if you’d told me even a few months ago I wouldn’t of believed.

Anal is becoming something we can get down to with minimal prep now as she’s become super relaxed with the whole thing. We did over do it a while back, so we eased off. But I take that as I good sign as she must have been loving it just as I was. So I’m finding that if I don’t push for it, she’s much more likely to initiate anal for herself. I’m still clear about what I prefer and pay lots of attention to her ass during foreplay etc. Better results are through not setting out with anything in mind but letting things happen more naturally. If I look like I’m expecting anal then she feels under pressure and then it’s not as easy for her I’ve found.

It’s a good feeling to see her so satisfied after!

Glad to hear it’s working out so well for the two of you! It sounds like you’re doing it the right way and letting it evolve somewhat naturally, with just a bit of guidance and conversation to make it clear how much you’re enjoying it this way. Like you say, anal only will likely be a very legitimate goal for the two of you in the future. Keep gradually moving things in that direction and see where it goes!

Anonymous: Hi! I’m the “no vaginal sex before marriage” girl from May 27. Me and my boyfriend started having anal sex just four days after my message here, and it’s been great. Days before we started, I took the habit of cleaning up with small enemas and fingering my ass, to get past the “it feels weird” stage and get sure our first time isn’t messy, and things were perfect from the first time. Since the only sex we had before were handjobs and blowjobs, to me it felt like making love for the first time.

Wonderful! I’m glad to hear that you had a great first experience and have been enjoying anal sex together. A little bit of research and preparation before trying it the first time can make all the difference, and is something I highly encourage everyone who wants to try anal.

Despite how some view it, anal sex can be the most pleasurable and intimate way to have sex, so it should come as no surprise how well it works (and is better suited than vaginal, in my opinion) for making love.

Congratulations, and enjoy your new connection and outlet to share yourselves with each other.

Anonymous: Why is it I always hear that most men want anal, when for me the majority have turned it down. Those I persuaded to try really liked it but most the time they don’t want to know. Anal is very important to me and obviously I’ve fingered both my holes so I can tell which must be better from a man’s point of view. Why the lack of interest? Could I be meeting the wrong guys?

Different men are different, and societal/cultural norms can vary in different regions. In some places, most men really do want anal, and men who have experienced good anal almost always want more of it, but in some regions where anal is less common, less men have experienced it or been exposed to it and may still view it through the lens of stigmas/taboos and want nothing to do with it.

Keep doing what you’re doing. It sounds like you want to focus on anal (and anal only?), so keep that up, and keep showing guys why anal is so much better. If someone isn’t interested, move on to someone who is.

Anonymous: I wish I had found this blog sooner. I’ve been anal only since I lost my virginity at 17 (I’m 22 now) but all of my friends thought I was weird when I told them about it. I’d been a bit insecure about my sexual preferences, worried that I was broken, etc. But the AO community is so cool and strong. I’m so glad to find a group of people who love anal as much as I do!

You’re definitely not at all weird, you’re awesome! Being anal only is a fantastic choice, as is keeping your pussy virgin by choice. It’s something that’s really growing in popularity, and I suspect it’s going to take off as a highly desirable thing to do in the coming years.

Welcome to the community!

Anonymous: Hello!! I’m an anal virgin and my bf loves anal. He’s planning to come over and I wanna be ready. What are some ways I can do some anal training so it won’t hurt as much?

Using a lubricated finger, massage around the outside of your anus, then slip a finger inside gently as you feel yourself relax, and continue adding fingers as you feel comfortable. Once you have several fingers inside, you can also try spreading them while inside your ass to help stretch/relax further before the next finger.

Beyond using fingers, butt plugs and dildos are very helpful for anal training. Take your time, stop/pause/back off if something hurts, and try combining it with clitoral stimulation at least at first if it’s uncomfortable or feels weird.

insatiablebabygirlsworld: Now this is a first for me…Anal Only!!! Its only been a couple of weeks since i started my journey. My master asked me to create a poll asking my followers for votes to go Anal Only. As I expected it came down to alot of people voting Yes, So here I am!! Few weeks in I have never been more wet in my life. My pussy has always be given attention now she is denied. Would love to hear from you guys who are Anal Only about your thoughts mmp ?

Going anal only is a great decision, and it’s no surprise that people voted overwhelmingly in favor of it, it’s rapidly growing in popularity and it’s a strong preference of a lot of men (and women!) so support of someone asking whether they should go anal only is highly likely.

Being wet and horny is a common benefit of going anal only—anal sex in general really makes women horny and wet, and going anal only just ramps up that arousal. Embrace and enjoy it!

It sounds like you’re having a good time with it already, and as you continue to get more experience with being anal only long-term, it will keep getting better and more fun. A month or two is often the threshold for a lot of people, and if they get past that point, it’s easy to fall into an anal only routine that works really well.

Anonymous: I’m pleased to have found anal only lifestyle. It’s such a great concept and now I know I’m not alone. I’ve never been able to get excited about pussy and when I first had sex with a girl was left thinking “is this it?” Anal always appealed to me as long as I can remember, and in contrast the first time having a girls ass I knew it was what I always wanted. It can make relationships complicated at first but I’ve learned you have to go slow and bring them around in their own time.

You’re definitely not alone, that mirrors my own experiences and those I’ve heard from many men with similar frustrations with sex before discovering anal. Vaginal just doesn’t do much for a lot of men, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s a big part of why we’re anal only.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.

alwaysanalblog: Another here who will say you are not alone. There are a large number of men like you, but don’t forget this is true for women as well. Vaginal sex has been sold as the ultimate for every couple, but when reality hits then of course there is huge disappointment. Most people are wanting more – they want pleasure and intimacy and a real way to connect.

Anonymous: I like what you do here. You highlight all the positives for both sexes that anal brings. Anal is so much better I can’t understand why everyone doesn’t do it. So far I don’t see much about the lifestyle outside of tumblr unless I’m missing something. What we need is other media getting serious about how good it can be.

That’s the goal, showing the positives, and the reasons to do it and try it. Once someone tries it and has a good experience, it speaks for itself and they will want to keep doing it.

We’re still in the early days of the anal only lifestyle becoming more widespread, and it has a long way to go, but it’s definitely showing up elsewhere. I completely agree that continuing to spread it more broadly and openly would be great.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.

alwaysanalblog: Because anal sex is intrinsically better, the positives soon become self evident. For that reason the number of people preferring anal or going anal only will only increase – rare do you hear of people claiming the are giving up anal and going back to vaginal only!

No, this is a one way street and we are soon reaching the point when it cannot be ignored and it’ll get the wider coverage it deserves.

Anonymous: Whenever I do any type of anal it makes me extremely wet like dripping. Vaginal just doesn’t get me quite as wet. I’ve always wondered why this is, what do you think? Could it just be a mental thing like oh it’s taboo so I like it more?

That’s quite common for a lot of women. I don’t think it has to do with it being taboo, necessarily, just that it’s more exciting and arousing than vaginal for many women. I take it as another sign of anal’s superiority and a sign that anal should be the default.