alwaysanalblog: “Your anal tissue stimulates your parasympathetic nervous system, which helps your body relax. You have 2 major nervous systems – one which helps you “feed and breed”, known as the sympathetic nervous system, and one to help you “rest and digest.” Anal play can actually help you calm down – so as stressed out as you might be going into anal play, your body – by pure nature – is going to be calmer afterward.”
Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been doing anal for a couple years and we’re mostly anal only now, vaginal is just something we do once or twice a year now and I think we’re at the point where we can stop doing that too. Something I really want to start doing though is ass to mouth. How do I bring up that I want to suck his cock after he’s been fucking my ass?
Congratulations on getting most of the way to anal only. I’d suggest just deciding that the two of you are done with vaginal and that you really are anal only now, it sounds like neither of you would actually miss vaginal, you’re just still holding on to it a tiny bit to see if it’s something you still want. Since you aren’t doing it more than once or twice a year, it obviously doesn’t do much for you. So I think you’re ready to let it go for good.
As for ass to mouth, it sounds like you have a pretty positive and communicative relationship if you’ve gotten this far with anal only already, so why not just tell him? I’m sure he’d love the idea and be turned on by it. Or if you want to, just grab his cock after he’s fucked your ass the next time and start sucking on it, then talk after and tell him you want to do more of that.
abundanciadeporno: I woke up horny this morning. I haven’t got a Dom or anyone to really help take care of this problem, so I started to masturbate a bit in the shower when it occurred to me… this isn’t a problem. If I deny myself and stay horny, I can do orgasm denial on my own. I could use an orgasm as a prize for myself for something far off in the future, like getting a scientific paper published or… passing my dissertation proposal. I can use my horny sexual energy and channel it into other things. Positive reinforcement, right? I can make it… let’s say 30 days to start. I’ll work my way up to 100.
So instead of finishing myself off in the shower, I put my buttplug in instead. It’s about 4 inches long, not very wide, but shaped for all-day wear. And I’ve done all-day wear on this one before, so no big deal right? It’s been a while, but… what the hell. Let’s give it a shot. It’ll keep me soaking wet all day.
So I get to work. I’m a graduate student, and it’s summer, so the lab is a little bit deserted right now. I’m the only one in all day, and I’m working from a personal computer that’s not hooked up to the university wifi… so of course the first thing I do is pull up tumblr. And I’m looking at all the anal-only porn I follow, all the orgasm denial porn, all the bondage and kinky shit… and I can feel my panties soaking through already. It’s 9am.
Around 11am, I’ve taken a break from looking at porn to writing it instead. I’ve got a little smut I’m writing for myself, and it’s making me ridiculously horny. I decide something needs to be done. I text my fuckbuddy who works on campus too. He’s cute and pretty well hung but doesn’t really do D/s so not a candidate for long-term companionship.
“Hey, do you want to come down to my lab and fuck my ass? Don’t let me cum, no matter how much I beg”
“Uh, fuck yeah. Be right there.”
Five minutes later, I’m on my knees taking his cock down my throat in my office. I love sucking cock- I could do it for hours, but that’s not what he’s here for. When I decide I’m done sucking him off, I give him a good coat of lube then bend over my desk. He shoves his thick cock in my ass and wraps his hand around my throat. I’m immediately fighting not to cum, riding the edge with all I’ve got, letting him pound my ass as hard as he can. After about 20 minutes, his hand tightens around my throat when he cums. I almost lose it. I can feel his cock throbbing in my ass, filling me up with his load, and then he pulls out. I pop the buttplug back in and show him to the bathroom so he can clean off, and then he’s gone.
I spend the rest of the afternoon dripping cum from my ass and feeling my pussy just getting wetter and wetter.
When I finally get home, a friend has stopped by to say hi and let themselves into my house. I’m dying to masturbate, but I know this is for the best. I’d just let myself cum, and I don’t want that. I haven’t decided what my punishment will be if I let myself cum before 30 days, but I know it won’t be good.
Finally, at midnight, my friend has left, and I’ve got the house to myself. The moment the door shuts behind them, I’m running to my bedroom to masturbate. I pull out clothes pins, my favorite 9in dildo, some oral anesthetic cream, my magic wand, and lube. Clothes pins firmly on my nipples (and pinching nicely against my piercings), I start to run the oral anesthetic cream on my clit. I’ve never really used it for this before, so I use just a little bit and rub it in really well. Within seconds, I can’t feel my finger on my clit anymore. I give it a good flick, and nothing. A hard smack? Still nothing. AWESOME.
I lay on my back and plunge the lubed-up dildo into my ass. It’s SO much bigger than the plug, but it feels like heaven as it stretches me out. I start working away, fucking myself HARD when I decide it’s time to up the ante. I switch the magic wand on and press it against my numb clit. I can feel it vibrate around my clit and on my labia, but it’s like someone is holding a pillow up against it. I crank it up to full blast (this can normally make me cum in SECONDS) and still feel nothing. Laughing, I keep fucking my ass with the dildo and pressing the wand up against me. I know if I hadn’t numbed my clit I’d be cumming like a freight train right now. I can feel the edge building up, but it just can’t go any farther. I fuck harder, I rub the magic wand against my clit in the way I know would normally set me over the edge… and I back off.
I breathe for a few minutes, let my heart rate get back to normal… then another coat of lube on the dildo and I’m back in the saddle. I edge again, and again, each time more painfully aware of how close the orgasm feels and how impossible it is to reach it.
As I’m catching my breath from my last edge, my phone buzzes. It’s 12:30, but there’s a text from my fuckbuddy. He’s near my apartment complex and wants to know if I want another round?
Fuck yes I do. I’m exhausted and sore but my pussy is still dripping wet. I rinse off real quick and reapply the oral anesthetic. Right as I’m laying back down in bed to wait for him, he walks into my bedroom. Immediately I’m ass-up and face-down, enticing him into my bed. Like a flash, his pants are off, he’s lubed up, and his hard dick is plunging into me again. His hands are all over me, squeezing my nipples hard and pulling on the piercings there. Then one is on my throat again while one rubs my clit. Feeling another edge and knowing I can’t cum, I gasp out that I used numbing cream. He pinches my clit hard. When I feel nothing, he flips me over from doggy into a sort of modified missionary, slapping my clit hard while he fucks my ass. He pulls on the piercing, flicks it, but I don’t feel anything. Usually any of these things would make me cum immediately, but right now they’re just making the edge hold longer and longer while he fucks my ass even harder. He plunges his fingers into my sopping wet pussy and then puts them in my mouth, telling me to suck it off. As I wrap my lips around his fingers and taste my desperation on them, he groans and fills my ass with his hot cum for the second time today.
He pulls out and I feel his cum dripping out of me. Roughly flipping me over onto my belly and lifting my ass, he grabs the plug from the nightstand, lubes it up, and sticks it back in my ass for me.
“Whatever you’re doing with this anal and anesthetic cream, it’s making you an insatiable sex-fiend… Let me know if you want to go again tomorrow.”
Writing this, I can feel my wet swollen pussy throb with need even as my clit is on fire from the abuse it took… My ass feels so well-used and sore, but I know it’ll be taking a beating again tomorrow one way or another.
Here’s to Day 1 of my personal Orgasm Denial Challenge.
debaucherycat: So I’ve been toying with the idea of giving up my pussy and clit for good. I’m anal only for some time already. I don’t remember when exactly was the last time I had vaginal sex, but I’m sure it was spring still. So I’m counting from the start of this summer, which makes almost three months now. But I do edge and the only way I’m able to is by clit stimulation.
The basic rules for me now are quite simple. I cum only with my man and only on Saturdays. To be allowed an orgasm I have to collect points during the week. I get them for giving pleasure to him, edging and keeping myself pretty. It’s not hard actually and we both love it. So, what’s this all about?
The thing is, ever since I told him about my kink and he took control of my orgasms, my mind keeps reaching further. I just can’t stop fantasizing about all the ways I could be denied even more.
So, I’m asking for a bit of help here. I will not touch my greedy clit for this week. (I started on Monday, so I suppose I might have to skip my weekly orgasm on Saturday also). This is a big deal for me. And I could use all the encouragement I can possibly get. Even a simple like will make it easier. But please send me messages and asks. Tell me I’m doing right. Tell me it’s for my own good. Tell me how long should I go without touching. And tease me about it. Pretty please.
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fuckaliciousnes: Pussy and clit don’t give anything close to the amount of pleasure your ass can. Give them up ?
Anonymous: I don’t have lube but I wanna practice anal play
Try using saliva, coconut oil, cocoa or shea butter, natural vaginal lubrication, etc.
alwaysanalblog: “I use to wonder the same thing about men inquiring (at some point) if a female has done anal, liked it or will let them in the rear!? I was an absolutely NOT type gal, and starting telling men that’d ask/beg for me to try it that if I could stick a dildo in theirs first I would let them….. never any takers. LOL. Then, a friend of mine said it’s the best orgasm you’ll ever have via anal. Naturally I said she’s nuts, cuz how’s that possible an ass has nothing to do with your vagina. Needless to say, one day I agreed to try it….and WOW! It is such an intense orgasm”
Hi, it’s the girl you tagged 20180705 again, I didn’t answer for two weeks because my boyfriend and I were on vacation. I thought a lot during those vacations (and we fucked a lot, too), and I realized my main issue right now is less about my pleasure (which I was worried about first) than about pleasing my boyfriend. Learning that he spent four years taking care about my vagina and clitoris even though he hated them shocked me even more than I thought it did initially (and that was a LOT).
Both to regain my pride as a woman and to reward his dedication, I realize I sort of feel like I must repay him with at least four years of anal sex only, to make him feel good, and to simply see if it works for me. In fact, to me, it’s like I let him down, and I’m looking to seduce him again. I know it may seems like I’m submitting to him (but hey, he did submit to me all those years), but to me, it’s the opposite, learning how to turn him on and make him crazy with lust for me is empowerment.
I think people will get that sort of impression of submission to him at the expense of what you want, but ultimately it sounds like that’s not how you see it and in fact are enjoying this change. And even if it were a form of submission, there’s nothing wrong with submission so long as it’s your choice and gives you what you ultimately need. (And sometimes what some people need is denial of their own desires and a focus on pleasing their partner instead. There’s nothing wrong with that dynamic if it’s what works for you.)
Does this make sense to you? To that end, I’m still “exercising” my ass in secret with my “almost my boyfriend’s” dildo, wearing lingerie a lot more often, taking attitudes and poses during sex that STRONGLY suggest I’m craving anal sex, I’m more verbal during sex, I’m entirely ignoring my vagina and pussy (including in private while I “exercise”, like you and my gay friend suggested), and I even fingered my ass then licked my fingers in front of my boyfriend, which turned him crazy.
Sounds like you’ve gotten your routine down and pretty well figured out. Acting like you love and crave and need anal, both to him and to yourself, has the added benefit of ultimately making you love and crave and need it for yourself, so that’s really a good way to sort of “retrain” your own thinking about it too.
I also never fail to compliment him after sex, which isn’t very hard for me, because like my friend foretold, the more I do all those things, the better he gets as a lover: more passionate, tender, harder, hotter, more creative, etc. He’s also more assertive in general, even outside of sex, which is very rewarding to me. The only thing is, before, he always waited for me to have an orgasm before ending sex, and now, he basically stops after he cums, like my orgasms are irrelevant.
I’m not sure why exactly. In fact, since we’ve had “that talk” more than three months ago, I haven’t had a single orgasm, which started to weigh heavily on me. The last times we’ve had sex (lately it’s generally more than once per day, before “that talk” it was about three times a week) I felt really close to come, and I may have caused it by touching my clitoris, but I avoided it both because it felt wrong, and because I actually wanted my ass fucked harder instead, which felt weird.
Even weirder, even though I felt close to orgasm those last few times and our sex stopped abruptly because he suddenly came into my ass, it didn’t feel frustrating, rather, strangely rewarding. Also, it sort of felt hot and made me look forward our next intercourse, which was oddly satisfying. I think I sort of like the idea of my boyfriend not “bothering” with me: he faked pleasure for four years, so I enjoy when it’s obvious he’s just having his own fun and not making any sort of effort.
It can take some time for a lot of women to get to where anal orgasms are a regular thing for them, especially with a lifetime of vaginal/clitoral stimulation to overcome. It can get frustrating to not orgasm for that long, but that frustration and arousal can ultimately help to make sex a lot better, and over time further develop anal stimulation into your primary source of pleasure and ultimately an outlet for orgasm as well. It sounds like it’s become less of a priority for you to desperately seek orgasm, which helps as well—trying constantly for it rather than just enjoying anal for what it is can keep you from getting there, which seems kind of counterintuitive, but orgasms are weird that way. It sounds like you’re gradually getting to the point that some anal only women find themselves at, where in time they enjoy not orgasming and enjoy the constant pleasure and anal stimulation and denial more than an orgasm, and get satisfaction out of pleasing their partner more than their own release.
So long as you are happy with the arrangement, even with its challenges for you, and are willing to go forward with it, I see no problem with that. Just remember that even if you’re consenting to it now, if ultimately this dynamic doesn’t work for you and you need it to change, that’s absolutely your right.
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debaucherycat: This inspires me so much. I’m almost envious. And horrified at the same time.It took me ages to find courage and ask my man to take control of my orgasms. Our current arrangement is that I get to cum on Saturdays, if I collect my „cum points“ over a week. I get them by giving pleasure to him and edging mostly. And when the day comes, he grants me an orgasm. If I’ve earned it. And if he is in the mood. And sometimes he just isn’t. Which adds a lovely twist to it. Along with me being anal only. Basically, he gets to fuck my ass or my mouth whenever he likes. And I get to edge and hope for the best.But reading the story of that girl, who abandoned all of her pleasure for her boyfriend… Well, let’s just say, it gives me ideas. And that’s terrifying. Not so long ago orgasm denial was only an arousing idea. Something I liked to fantasize about. And now I’m living it.Abandoning my clit for good is an arousing idea too. Maybe even more so…I’m so fucked.
Anonymous: Hi I’m a virgin but I finger my own asshole in the shower since I was younger. It’s the only way I can feel any pleasure and I got so addicted to it I never want to have my pussy fucked. Like ever. This has become a huge kink for me. I’m an avid reader and because of your advice I now only watch anal porn and as soon I make out with a guy I tell him I’m anal only. Some of them don’t call me, but most of them love it. I think we are winning our space in the world and being open about it is everything
Thanks for sharing, it’s always good to hear from more anal only enthusiasts, especially from more vaginal virgins who strongly advocate for permanently avoiding vaginal sex. It’s something I’d definitely like to see more of!
I definitely agree with being open and up front about being anal only. The more people do this, the more normalized and accepted it will become, and the more other people will be encouraged to try it for themselves and discover how right it is for them.
alwaysanalblog: “It may seem obvious but anal sex is an ideal form of contraception and for those couples who for whatever reason want to avoid pregnancy having anal sex rather than vaginal sex still provides both with pleasure without the risk. This may be due to cultural or belief restrictions or simply that traditional contraceptive methods are not possible. You cannot get pregnant through anal sex alone. Unless some sperm somehow comes out of the anus and finds its way into the vagina, you will not get pregnant. This eases the tension that is sometimes felt between two people during sex. Without that tension, people are freer to enjoy themselves, and men get to finish inside women—something that they all love to do. It’s a win-win for everyone.”
alwaysanalblog: “Having an orgasm through anal stimulation can be a fiesta of pleasure. Not only can blissful sensation come from stimulating the outer anus, which is full of delicious nerve endings, throbbing pleasure can come from deep penetration. The possibilities are endless.”