Anonymous: I’ve always wanted to be tied down and taken by a room full of men while I’m blindfolded. Lately I’ve been toying with the idea of making this an anal only fantasy. I’m thinking like five men at least but I wouldn’t say no to more. Do you think I could get this many guys on board? And what tips do you have to encourage the anal only aspect?

I’m not particularly familiar with the logistics of organizing a gangbang, but I’m sure that there are men out there who would be into the idea. Somewhere like fetlife (Craigslist in the past would have been good) is likely the place to do the organization, but you should of course consider safe practices when doing so.

As for making it an anal only gangbang, starting by advertising it as such and making it very clear in the promotion that your pussy is entirely off limits to fuck and touch, would be a good start. You could make this even more clear by keeping it covered with duct tape or similar during the event and getting temporary tattoos made that say “ANAL ONLY” and similar which you can put over your pussy.

analangelica: How do I tell a guy I am anal only, without it being weird? The last guy I tried to ask to only do anal, looked at me like I was crazy and then told me he wasn’t into anal. We ended up having sex, but no anal….

Weird is a matter of perspective. Being anal only is not weird for you, while having vaginal sex is. For that guy, vaginal sex was normal and anal/anal only was weird. The real issues was that you just weren’t sexually compatible. It sounds like you know what you need and what works for you sexually and just need to make it clear that vaginal is off the table when hooking up for guys and if they aren’t interested, that’s just a good sign that sex between the two of you probably isn’t very compatible.

You can phrase it in a way to make it less awkward and framing it positively, like “Hey, I hope it’s not a problem, but I’m an anal only girl and I don’t do vaginal sex but I’d love to do anal with you.” — but ultimately, if they aren’t interested, there’s not much you can do with that person.

I’d encourage looking for the many guys who do love and prefer anal and see anal only women as the amazing treasure they really are.

Anonymous: Is it normal that after assturbation i feel like my ass is so empty and is longing to be filled again, like the hole is kinda throbbing ??

Yes, both in a physical sense (because you’re relaxed and warmed up and your ass is ready for more) and because with practice and arousal you can develop a sort of physical addiction to anal penetration and stimulation and get to the point where having your ass empty feels unnatural and you always want it to be filled for the most natural and comfortable feeling.

Anonymous: Hi, we wanted to thank you for the resources your blogs and website provide. However, we did have a question. There seems to be a real void in user/member amateur content available. How can those in or moving toward the anal only lifestyle share our amateur content with each other or find others posting such content? Majority of the AOL porn is just rehashed commercial porn with captions added, not real content from real practicioners. Thanks.

This blog and its associated forum and Discord chat server are the “community” side of things where real anal only individuals and couples can share their experiences and other content. The Discord server in particular has a #nudes channel where anyone is welcome to share their personal anal pictures and videos.

You can also always create your own blog here and post content with the #anal only tag to share with others.

Anonymous: I recently rewatched Kingsman’s Secret Service, and don’t you find telling that there is an explicit anal sex reference at the end? The princess tells the agent that if he saves the world, “they can do it in the ass”, which is pretty amazing for such a popular film. Does this mean that we’re winning?

Anal is definitely rapidly becoming far more popularized and normalized and less of a joke or something only “weird” people or “sluts” do. And that means we’re all winning.

Hi my name is Jan and I live in Estonia. I’m 19 years old and been together with my girlfriend since high school and she’s my age.

We had sex together first time when we were 16 and we started with anal sex mainly because both of us were afraid pregnancy and she didn’t want to loose virginity yet. Sure I have been licking her pussy and rubbing her clit hundreds of times but there was no vaginal penetration for two years so about little bit over an year ago I took also her pussy virginity.

I have never been with other girls and as far as I know she hasn’t fucked other guys so I have nothing to compare but even I was very excited to fuck her virgin pussy but the first time was not nice at all because she was hurting and blood but that we knew is coming…

Ok it didn’t take long time for her to start enjoying to get her pussy fucked but myself basically from day one I were and still am quite disappointed how pussy feels compared to butthole.

We are still very active in sex and still have anal sex in regular basis almost every time when we have sex and sometimes also we do have only anal sex because she still loves to get her butt fucked too but she do like to get her pussy fucked more.

For me I wouldn’t care if we would stop vaginal sex now and never to start it again or at least before we decide to have kids because at least for me anal sex is like 10 times more pleasurable but don’t dare to say it out loud to her even I have said that her butt feels better but haven’t told how much better or have said that her pussy basically does nothing to me.

Also problem is that I’m loosing interest in pussy fucking and while having sex I’m just waiting for the moment that when I can take my dick out from pussy and put it in the butt and as far as I know pussy doesn’t get better and tighter when the time goes by and her butthole is till this day as good as first time I fucked it.

I’m thinking about the ways how I could talk to her and ask her to go back the way we were before and only have anal sex because can’t see this ending well… We are still under 20 years old both of us and I’m already bored in pussy fucking.

Is there any advice for me how should I tell or talk about this or something I could do so that we could go back having only anal sex?

The reality of the fact that anal sex is so much better for so many people is that when you start with just anal for years and then go to vaginal later, there’s just no chance of ever enjoying it at the same level.

While taking care to be respectful of her and trying to avoid making her feel bad about herself, I think you owe it to the both of you to be honest with her and make sure she knows just how much more you prefer anal and that you have a really hard time even enjoying vaginal in comparison. At the same time, I’d try to focus on really making her enjoy the times you do have anal and making them extremely pleasurable for her and memorable experiences.

Anonymous: I’ve been training for anal for a few weeks now and my butt plugs feel nice but then when my daddy fingers my ass it kinda hurts and doesn’t feel as good is it something we’re not doing right ?

Some people just don’t like how a finger feels even if plugs and dildos and cocks feel great. I’m not sure what the cause is. Some things to consider: are his fingers freshly cleaned and free of any sweat that could cause stinging or irritation? Are his fingernails trimmed and filed to avoid any sharp edges? Does he have any calluses that could cause irritation? Is he using enough lube?

bubblebaths22: I want to be anal only except for when my husband and I are breeding but he doesn’t really ask to fuck my ass. I’m always the one who initiates it so my question is how can I make him want to go anal only? Thanks in advance

I’d talk to him about it and make sure he knows that you prefer anal and really want to go anal only with him. Communication is often the best approach, and then figure out where to go from there.

Or, you can just start asking him for anal more frequently and over time work towards it being the primary thing you do before getting to where it’s your default and you go weeks or months at a time without any attention to your pussy, and somewhere along that process start talking about formalizing it.

Perhaps even a hybrid approach where you talk about wanting to do anal more often and then just over time make “more often” into “always”.

But talking is good. He might be totally into the idea immediately. If not, you can figure out what, if any, objections he might have and come up with a way to either solve them or come up with a mutually acceptable compromise.

Anonymous: Can you give me a step by step guide to help get my partner into anal. We have all the toys and I’ve tried getting her to wear them but she’s very vanilla

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer.

In general, start small and focus on her pleasure and enjoyment of it, without rushing things. Try rimming her, and massaging her anus externally with a lubricated finger. If she enjoys these things, incorporate them into your regular and frequent routine together. Over time, move on to fingering her ass too, both on its own and during other stimulation she enjoys. Work up slowly from there, with fingers and the toys you’ve gotten, until she can comfortably fit something penis-sized, and enjoys the sensation.

Always keep communicating, express to her how much you love her ass and how sexy it is and how much you like playing with it and pleasuring it and how you want to focus on her enjoying it too, and if you stick with what she enjoys and keep gradually expanding that, I’m sure you’ll be able to get to where she’s eager to not only keep doing it, she’ll probably want to have anal sex with you as well.

Anonymous: So I LOOOVE my buttplugs, and recently I got a set of metal jewel plugs. But my ass is quite bubbly and it (for lack of a better term) swallows the plugs, and hurts after a while. Would silicone ones hurt less, or should I just give up on the pretty ones and stick to the “trainer” ones?

It’s not uncommon for many of the jeweled ones to become uncomfortable after a while simply due to the shape of the base and the fact that the edges can press uncomfortably. Even if this happens, they still can have a place, and can be worn for certain times and occasions, but if you’re looking for a comfortable plug to wear for longer periods of time, I would really suggest something with more of an ergonomic base, whether that be a well-shaped T-base or something like an Njoy with a loop-style base.