Anonymous: My SO can orgasm anally but it takes a very long time to get there? Is that normal? Also, given that we sometimes need very lengthy session in order for her to climax is there a recommended position that’s comfortable (or makes her climax quicker) for both man and woman for long bouts of love making? Have a change around often means a pause which sets her back a bit.

It’s not abnormal. Some people orgasm from anal extremely easily, others take more effort to get there. Everybody’s different, both physically and in the habits and experiences that make something easier or harder.

Given that, which position is comfortable can vary from couple to couple as well, so I would suggest simply experimenting with different options and settling on what works best for the two of you.

debaucherycat: One week done. Another already started. I kept my hands well away from my pussy and didn’t get to cum on Saturday. It was surprisingly easy and pleasant. My ass and mouth got fucked. And my tits got a lot of attention.

I’m horny and easily excitable but not desperate yet. And I love it. I’ve got cautioned that prolonged no touch can just become dull. It didn’t. Whenever I think of being constantly denied anal fucktoy, it drives me crazy. It takes a thought alone to turn me into horny slut with a wet crotch.

Did I say I love it? I do.

Best of all (or is it worst?), I found courage to ask Him to stop bothering with my orgasms for good. And he agreed to try it out. After I promised to earn it. Isn’t that a lovely mindfuck?

I want to give my thanks for all, who shared my post and sent me messages. You are the best! And also thanks to everyone who simply liked. I appreciate it a lot.

I’m going to write about my progress once in a while. I hope you will stay with me on this journey.

Anonymous: First of all I love your blog so much! I’ve always loved anal and have recently realized that I want to live an anal only lifestyle. I am married and my husband understands I love anal and is willing to give it, but if he fingers or fucks me, he always does it in my vagina before my ass. How do I tell him that i don’t just like anal, but that i want to completely reject my vagina as my sexual organ? I think he knows i prefer anal, but not that I wish for it to be my only way to receive pleasure.

Thank you for the kind words.

I’d just start talking with him more about it and telling him what you want and prefer and need. If he fingers your pussy, tell him “I want you to play with my ass instead.” If he fucks your pussy, tell him “put it in my ass”. You don’t have to necessarily frame things in a manner that make him feel bad about doing things you don’t enjoy compared to anal, but telling him how much more you prefer anal and that you want to just do anal and oral all the time and how good it is when he plays with and fucks your ass can help to make it clear. You can also ask him to try going anal only for a month with you and see how you both like it. No Pussy November 2018, our annual fall anal only challenge month, is just a few months away!

I loved the post from No More Vaginal in Vancouver.  It kind of made me think of our story:

My wife found vaginal sex uncomfortable and rarely had orgasms from it.  I usually had to go down on her to get her off.  With pregnancy vaginal sex became even more uncomfortable for her.

She’s the one that brought up the idea of anal sex.  We had never even had anal sex before we got pregnant.  I think it had something to do with her being pregnant that allowed her to take my cock balls deep in her ass on our very first try.  The very first time we did it, we both had the most intense orgasms of our lives (to that point).  After, we were both like Why didn’t we try this before? (just like No More Vaginal in Vancouver)  After that, it was like my wife couldn’t get enough.  I’m not kidding you when I say we did it at LEAST once a day up until the day before she delivered.

Due to her belly it was most comfortable for her to sit on top.  She would just sit all the way down on my cock and grind back and forth while I played with her milk-filled breasts.  Near the end of her pregnancy her breasts would just drip milk without even being touched.

After delivering our son vaginally, we were supposed to wait six weeks before having sex again.  Within a week and a half my wife couldn’t wait anymore.  Even as tired as we both were, she climbed on top and it was off to the races.

Although we didn’t have sex as much in the first few months after our son was delivered, it was all anal.  Within four months we were back to having anal sex just about every day.  We never even tried vaginal sex again after trying anal and she never went back on her birth control.

We’ve now been anal only just over five years.  Like you said, it just keeps getting better.

What a wonderful story, thank you for sharing! It’s almost as if her body knew that now that she had used her vagina for its naturally intended purpose of getting pregnant and giving birth, she no longer had any use for it and it was time to switch to just anal. It may not be a universal thing, but I’ve spoken to a number of women/couples who have experienced similar things, both in terms of vaginal becoming uncomfortable or painful and no longer pleasurable post-pregnancy, and just losing interest in it, with anal desires fully replacing them. Whatever the reason, I think it’s a great thing and really fits in well with the anal only lifestyle’s idea that vaginal is for procreation and anal is for recreation. And as you’ve discovered, it doesn’t just have to be a short-term thing during pregnancy—unless you plan on more children, once you’ve gone anal only, there’s really no reason to go back!

After seeing your blog and others like it I became intrigued- I couldn’t imagine anal only- it just seemed unrealistic & silly- how could an ass give someone more pleasure than a pussy?

But after scrolling through your blog- & others like it I’ve become really interested in anal only !! Now when I see vaginal penetration I actually feel a bit off put & disgusted… I’ve only done anal a handful of times (with me myself & I). I’ve held off doing it again because I’m been scared of making a mess. but tonight I was frustrated.

I had my vibrator on my clit for over 20 minutes. I was sweaty & tired but I still really wanted to cum; I figured I’d give anal a try. (I’m lucky enough to be able to put a five inch toy inside me with less than a minute of preparation, so the transition was quick and painless.) I felt a bit awkward at first. It didnt feel like anything to me and I wasn’t sure if I wanted to go through with it.

Reluctantly, I put my vibe back onto my clit and around a minute later I began thrusting the toy in and out of me ass. It was heavenly! It was amazing- for some reason it was- good! It was really good and at one point I actually dropped my vibe in order to focus on fucking my ass. I was shaky and my eyes were rolling back in my head, it was perfect.

I can’t cum without clitoral stimulation (yet) so I grabbed my vibe and put it back onto my clit. The vibrations combined with the toy in my ass had me cumming in around 2 minutes. 2 MINUTES !!!! 2 minutes compared to over 20… I’m all done and cleaned up but now all I can think about is getting a toy up my ass again.

It sounds like you’re very quickly discovering just how much better anal is. Everyone is different, but in general women can orgasm much more easily and more powerfully with the replacement of vaginal with anal penetration. Whether you need clitoral stimulation or not, orgasms are just better from anal.

I’d suggest, if going anal only is something that continues to interest you, starting out by only masturbating/rubbing your clit when you also have something in your ass, whether a finger, dildo or plug. Make the clit stimulation secondary to the primary act of anal penetration, even if you still need it to orgasm for now.

Just have lots of fun with it and experiment and explore what feels best. Make it a frequent, regular thing, and it will keep getting easier and increasingly natural for you. Over time, if you’d like to explore anal only orgasms, try gradually reducing how much you use your clit and start using it only at the end to get over the edge—for now, though, I would just keep doing like you’re doing and solidly build that relationship between anal penetration and pleasure.

Enjoy!

Anonymous: I don’t even use tumblr, but I found your blog while trying to find information that would tell me if I was strange or not for being a woman who wishes to have only anal stimulation. I was so happily surprised to find your blog and see other women who felt the same way, and men who wanted to give up vaginal sex too. I don’t know how to tell my husband I want to live this lifestyle, though he knows I love anal, but I will absolutely be looking for some advice within your blog. Thank you so much!

I’m glad you were able to find it and discover that you are very far from being the only person interested in giving up vaginal and being anal only! Since starting this blog and the greater community around it, I’ve been blown away by just how many people already are anal only, and have been for a very long time in some cases, and how many want to get to that point. It’s been very rewarding to see, and how much it’s grown in just the past few years.

I’d suggest being honest with your husband. You could tell him that you really prefer anal and ask him if he would try a month without vaginal, just anal and oral, with you and a fun challenge. If he agrees and if you both enjoy it, then tell him that you’d like to just keep going with anal only indefinitely. Starting with a short term commitment can help get people past initial hangups they might have and by the time they’ve moved past any of the early issues or fears there’s only the fun, pleasure and sexiness of being anal only, at which point for many people it’s a no-brainer to stick with it.

Be sure to check out the other parts of our community as well, including the Anal Only Lifestyle forum and our Discord server for realtime chat.

Anonymous: Why are there so many people in your inbox trashing anal? If you don’t like it that’s your problem. So many people are insisting that women don’t enjoy anal but that’s completely untrue, I can vouch myself! I’m seriously considering anal only!

Some people are just trolls, some people are confused or inexperienced, some people just don’t like anal and can’t imagine anyone else does either.

Most of us here know that they’re wrong, at least in the universal sense that they talk about. Sure, not all women enjoy anal, but we tend to take the optimistic approach that everyone can enjoy it if they want to put in the effort to get to that point, while people who leave such comments take the pessimistic approach that “if I don’t like it, no woman does!”

I tend to only post and respond to such comments publicly if there’s value in publicly disputing the arguments and perhaps showing an alternate point of view for the consideration of those who are on the fence on the subject.

Anonymous: Today is the day I finally tried out my butt plug and honestly I’m loving it so much

Congratulations! You’re going to have a lot of fun with it going forward, I’m sure!

Even before we married my girlfriend enjoyed anal sex very much.  She could never orgasm via her vagina or clit.  She never was one to play with her clit either.  But once my cock was in her ass, she could orgasm over and over while I fucked her.  Nothing else.  Nothing in her vagina, no clit stimulation, nothing but my cock in her ass.

By the time we got married, anal had gone from a once-in-a-while thing to every single time we had sex.  Even so, we did the whole porn menu; oral, vaginal, anal.  By the time we had been married five years it seemed like vaginal sex was just going though the motions; for both of us.  Then I stumbled upon your blog and the forums and began reading.  It was like a light bulb was turned on.  I knew right away I wanted to be anal only.  Vaginal sex had become a chore.  Even keeping my dick hard enough for vaginal sex was only made possible by the anticipation of sliding my cock into her ass.

I didn’t know what my wife would think of the whole idea.  I wasn’t sure she would want to quit having “regular” sex altogether.  It took me weeks to work up to tell her about the blog and forums.  Before I could even ask her she said, “Why didn’t we think of that?  Would you care if we only had anal?“  Of course I told her I wouldn’t mind.  I asked her if she thought she’d miss vaginal sex.  It blew me away when she told me she only did it because she thought I expected it.

I’m proud to say we’ve now been anal only for nearly a month.  What’s amazing is that her sex drive seems to have spiked.  I don’t know whether it’s the thought of only having anal sex, or the anal sex itself.  We’ve been having anal sex almost every day and agree with what we’ve read: anal sex seems much more intimate.  For some reason this seems especially true when you are anal only.  Our sex life is better than ever and we look forward to many years of anal only.

So thank you for your blog and the forums.  Like my wife said, “Why didn’t we think of that?”

Congratulations on discovering anal only. You’re not the first couple I’ve heard from who both preferred anal and both would’ve been happy going anal only years ago but were afraid what the other might think and so took longer than they would have otherwise to get to that point. I encourage being up front about it early on because of this.

If you’re now a month in, you’re going to find it more and more amazing the longer you go. There are couples who have been anal only together for years, decades even, and it never gets old, it just keeps getting better. So you have a lot to look forward to!

Being anal only is a huge arousal/sex drive booster for most people, especially but not exclusively women. It’s the increase in intimacy, pleasure, and the physical shift of pleasure source. Anal orgasms tend to cause more arousal rather than suppressing it like other forms of stimulation/orgasm.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.

awesomegromm: It pays to talk about what you want in bed with your partner, instead of just assuming. Honestly. If anything, it was obvious the whole time. I don’t see how there could have been any question in your mind if she was up for it.

alwaysanalblog:

Some would say that sex is natural when our anatomical parts are used for their biological purpose. The rectum is not intended for penile penetration. But neither is the mouth, and yet oral sex does not now have the same stigma.

Great article by a Professor of Psychology.

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