Anonymous: I love anal, especially brutal and dry, and forced, and I’d love to wear a plug to keep my hole ready to use at all times, but I can’t seem to hurt myself by shoving the plug in. Any advice?

Try a bigger plug, or one with more friction. Glass and steel are pretty smooth and can be used without lube fairly easily, especially for those already fairly experienced with anal, so you might want to try silicone to increase the friction. Going up in size will also increase the surface area and thus the available friction to make you feel it when you push it in.

Anonymous: I’m currently dating 4 girls. They’re not anal only, but they can take a cock in the ass. This November I’m just fucking asses. As I only see each of them about once a month, I won’t mention No Pussy November, and don’t care wether they’re using their clit at home. What matters is that I’ll be free of the pussy.

That’s not a bad way to celebrate No Pussy November, but maybe they’d like to try going anal only as well. Why not tell them that you’re taking part in it for the month and encourage them to try it too beyond just with you if they’re interested? You never know, you might turn them on to to the anal only lifestyle with it.

I have recently discovered i LOVE anal never thought i would! super proud of myself lol!  BUT i think im overwhelming my husband as he does love it but he does not LOVE it like i do.( I take it or im receiving? im sorry i dont know the lingo yet! he does not and is not into that, no judgment this is just us!) Anyway I dont want him to feel forced to have more sex but sex 3x a week isnt enough for me! we start with bjs he doesnt finish, then move to vaginal, then the beloved anal until we cum. its beautiful.He does work a physically demanding job during the week so i know he is tired and i do take that into account! But any help or tips would be appreciated!! I would probably be anal only if he would be into it but i dont think he is. I made this tumblr just for this question! I have been stalking this blog for a month now at first i was surprised,  i thought ,like really anal only how could that be. But after the purchase of my first awesome training plugs and some different positions ive just fallen in love with it. I just feel alone and a little weird but then i find all these beautiful people who love it to, i just have no one who relates irl i suppose…Thank you for having this blog and everyone flowing it!! and  just allowing me to feel less alone!

I’m glad you were able to discover how much you love anal and that you’d like to go anal only, as well as discovering this community. (Don’t forget to check out the forum and Discord chat as well!)

Have you talked with your husband about it? Tell him that you really love and prefer anal and you’d like to try just skipping your pussy and start going straight to anal. No Pussy November, our annual month-long anal only challenge, is coming up soon, and is a good opportunity for people to experiment with going anal only without an up-front long-term commitment. You just give up all vaginal sex for a month and do anal as much as you can, and then at the end of the month reassess and if you’re still loving it, then commit to going anal only indefinitely. Perhaps you could try that with him?

If the frequency isn’t enough, masturbate your ass and wear plugs when you aren’t having sex. You can start by going anal only in your solo play, never masturbating vaginally and only playing with your ass, and then working to get to that same point with your husband.

Communication is important, though, and you should have an honest discussion with him about how much better anal is for you and that you want to try going anal only with him, at least for a while to start out.

Good luck!

The original poster responded to this post:

multitrack-mind: Thank you so much! He really likes it too, just I guess not as much as me haha. I am so excited for anal only November. We decided just yesterday so we aren’t going to do anything until nov. 1! I’m going to start more solo play for now! Thank you so much for you’re advice I will try and convince after November maybe he just needs more examples of why it’s the best!

To which the following response was made:

If he’s already agreed to try No Pussy November, I’m sure that month of anal only will help show him why pussy is unnecessary and anal is best, and it will no doubt be easier to convince him to stay anal only after then.

Anonymous: My fiance and I decided we’re going to do No Pussy November, but with a twist! We’re getting married on November 1st so our wedding night and our honeymoon and the rest of the month that follows is going to be anal only. We both really love anal and already do it most of the time, so I think it will make it even more special.

What a great idea and coincidence for it to work out that way! I’m sure, like you say, it will make your wedding night and honeymoon even more special by adding an anal only pledge to it.

I hope that by the end of No Pussy November you’ll consider making it a long-term commitment and decide to keep it an anal only marriage rather than just a way to start things off for the first month. If you both prefer anal already, and are excited by the idea of going anal only to the point of wanting to begin your marriage that way, why not keep it going so long as you’re both enjoying it by the end of the month? Outside of getting pregnant, just keep things anal only.

amaizegman: I get the impression that amateur porn tends to be much more anal-only if it involves anal sex. Mainstream anal porn proportionally includes pussy action more often. Do you have any thoughts on that?

Mainstream anal porn has been moving away from pussy quite a bit more in recent years as well, as producers are realizing that viewers want it to actually focus on just anal and skip past vaginal/DP scenes. Giorgio Grandi has largely stopped including vaginal in any of his scenes, with the exception only being the occasional vaginal + anal double penetration, because he’s looked at the data and found scenes containing vaginal just don’t sell as well as 100% anal.

Amateur porn is more likely to get made/filmed when doing something less “ordinary”, so a couple would be more likely to film something when doing anal, to document and share their exciting experimentation with something different and more interesting. They’re also less likely to do any vaginal/anal switching as one might risk in a professional porn environment, so a focus on just anal is safer and cleaner in that regard.

Cam performers tend to focus more on anal because that’s what more people want to see.

Anonymous: I am so excited to find this blog! I have severe vaginismus (I can’t have any vaginal penetration without SEVERE pain). After trying for months to have PIV sex, my bf and I decided to start experimenting with anal and now we are able to have anal sex a few times a week. After dating 2 years with no penetrative sex it’s so exciting to be doing anal and experiencing that intimacy and I love that there is an anal only community! This makes me so happy!

I’m glad you were able to discover that anal works for the two of you, and that you were able to discover the anal only community. Many, many women with vaginismus have been able to enjoy sex and intimacy through the anal only lifestyle, and that’s a great thing. (But it’s definitely not just for people unable to have vaginal sex—anal is better even when someone is able to have vaginal sex.)

Enjoy! The more you do it, the more you’re going to love it.

Anonymous: I’m anal only now for two months (haven’t had sex during this time but only played with my clit and arse). I’m totally into anal stretching and everything which contains anal. But something confuses me. When I’m horny I’m still thinking I want a cock in my pussy instead of my arse. Is that normal? Will it take much longer until I only think about anal sex? Thanks for your help

Two months isn’t much in the grand scheme of things—I say that not to put down your success of going anal only for that long so far, just to say that it’s a gradual process and these things take time, especially if you’ve been vaginal-centric for your life up to this point.

Stick with being anal only and whenever you feel horny, play with your ass. Work to redirect that arousal to everything anal instead. If you feel that urge for something in your pussy, tell yourself that you want something in your ass instead. Exerting conscious control for what you really want will bring your subconscious urges around as well in time.

Anonymous: My girlfriend and I have been anal only for two years now, and her involvement in the lifestyle got to a point where her asshole opens up right in front of my cock when I’m about to fuck her. When my cockhead gets in her ass, at first it doesn’t even touch the sides, then it closes up on me and sucks me in. It’s the most beautiful and amazing thing in the world to me. Compared to this, fucking a vagina is like fucking a dead fish. I won’t ever be able to go back.

That sounds wonderful, and just further serves to illustrate the many ways in which anal and going anal only is so much better suited to sex and pleasure than vaginal.

Anonymous: My wife and I are going to do No Pussy November this year. We’ve always liked anal, and I asked her when I saw your announcement if she wanted to try it and she immediately said yes! So I think we’re both going to like November a lot. Thank you for the idea.

You’re welcome, and congratulations. It sounds like she already prefers anal and was excited enough by this idea that she jumped on it when you brought it up. Based on that reaction, by the end of the month I’d be surprised if she wants to go back to vaginal at all.

So I’m a vaginal virgin and I have decided it’s time to give up my clit and be completely done with my pussy I love using a dildo and watching in a mirror seeing my closed pussy and the dildo going in and out but back to the subject I need some help and encouragement to give up my clit I have tried Orajel but it didn’t numb it and I can only make it like a week with out my clit but then I use it and feel guilty and ashamed I used it any ideas?

Feeling guilty and ashamed after clitoral stimulation is a fairly natural response for a lot of women, and is one of the unfortunate side effects of clitoral stimulation and orgasm. It’s not universally the case for everyone, but it’s really common. Going fully anal only and focusing only on anal pleasure is a great way to be able to enjoy sex and pleasure (and maybe even orgasm from anal) without those effects, which leads to increased arousal and better sex.

If you’ve been heavily dependent on clitoral stimulation in the past, it can be a process to get to the point of losing that urge and reliance going forward. A week is a good start. Next time try to go longer than a week. Each time you give in and touch your clit, try going even longer the next time, and over time you’ll continue to build up your self control and resistance to such urges. It’s the same as breaking any other bad habit.

Tools like Orajel, superglue, and clit shields can be helpful if they work for you, but they aren’t strictly necessary. If Orajel specifically isn’t working, you can try either applying a larger amount and seeing if that has any effect, or look at similar brands and comparing the active ingredients—different ones use different topical anesthetics, and some may work better for you than others. Another simple option is just putting tape over your pussy when you masturbate or have sex to keep yourself from touching yourself there.

And finally, I think it’s great that you’ve decided to go anal only and maintain your vaginal virginity, that’s a continually growing trend that I really encourage. One day we’re going to have an anal only generation, and women like yourself are the first step towards that.