Anonymous: I love your enthusiasm for the anal only lifestyle and double anal! What got you started with anal only and what made you decide to stop using your pussy? And how often do you do double anal?
elegantphdap: Thank you.
I can’t remember when it all started. Vaginal sex didn’t provide me the right feelings so I tried anal sex and it overwhelmd me. The pussy distracts me when enjoing sex.
Anonymous: I’ve always been anal only. When I was a virgin I loved the thought of just using my ass for sex and it made me so hot I decided to make it happen. I learned how to train my ass and the first time I had sex I told him I wanted to keep my pussy virgin and just do anal, and he of course had no problem with that, and I’ve stayed that way ever since. I had tried masturbating with my pussy before then, but I knew anal was better and have never been fucked vaginally and never will. I love it so much!
That’s a beautiful thing, thanks for sharing your love for pure anal only! You’re in inspiration for the growing anal only generation. There’s just no reason to ever have vaginal sex anymore for non-procreative purposes. Pleasure, intimacy and health are all better with anal.
babyashke: Picked up a new fuck master and he informed me right off the bat that my cunt is for abusing only. His cock belongs in my ass and my throat only, in whichever order he decides. I’m reminding myself not to propose on the first date lol.
Congratulations for meeting a partner who shares your desire for anal only! It can be a wonderful thing.
Anonymous: I always looked forward to my owner fucking my ass but didn’t know how to tell him it was better than vaginal. Two years ago today I did and haven’t use my pussy since! Just anal for me
Congratulations on making the right decision two years ago and getting what you need since then! What pushed you to finally tell him, and how did you go about doing so?
debaucherycat: Yep. I spend a full month without touching my pussy. And it’s been a loooong month for me. Worst of all – this denial is not over yet.
But first things first. Did I enjoy it? Immensely. I was obscenely horny for days on end. There were moments when I was not in the mood. But those were few, and I guess that was mostly influenced by hormones.
We had way more sex than before. And I don’t mean a bit more, but twice or trice more. We talked a lot. We shared fantasies and made them come true. Well, some of them, that is. Others are either too complicated or too dirty. For now. I’ve got fucked hard and wild in all the best ways. And I didn’t get a single orgasm.
It did things to me. To my mind. And body. I’ve never been this submissive. Not ever in my life. I’ve never even imagined that the idea of devoting all my sex life to someone else’s pleasure could seem so hot for me. It does now. I can’t stop thinking about being made to serve as a mere fucktoy for the rest of my life. If that’s not fucked up, I don’t know what is.
The only way I am allowed to stimulate myself now is by playing with my ass and nipples. I did a lot of that. I’d watch some porn, then stand in front of the mirror, my pants pushed down and shirt up, rubbing my nipples and pushing fingers into my dirty hole. Ah, the humiliation of it… And the feeling of hot pulse in the drippy denied pussy…
Do I miss touching? Desperately so. Most of all, I miss His tongue on my clit. I’d give almost anything for it by now.
Will I go back to the previous routine of daily edging and weekly orgasms? Not likely. At least, I hope He will not allow me to. I enjoy not having control over my pleasure way too much. And, I dare say, he enjoys me like this even more. I’m going to ask for a single change, though. I want Him to touch my pussy again. For as much and as often as He decides. And in a way He decides.
So, wish me luck. It is a difficult journey, fucking myself up like that.
Anonymous: I need your advice. I’m anal only and hate when guys try to touch my pussy. I’m so fed up to always tell them I’m anal only when we have sex for the first time with them. Like which girl wants to still be fucked in her pussy? My question is now what can I do so I don’t have to always tell them I’m anal only? When I’m wearing a plug they don’t get always the hint. Thanks for your help in advance and I love your blog ?
A butt plug is a good start, but that just shows you like anal play, not that you’re anal only. Communication is good, and should probably still be a part of things most of the time even if you find it annoying to need to tell them to not fuck your pussy.
Tape over your pussy is a quick and easy short term option that gets the message across fairly easily, but doesn’t last very long. Some women get “ANAL ONLY” tattoos over their pussy, or use temporary tattoos when hooking up to illustrate that point. Some get chastity piercings to be able to close access to their pussy with rings or bars.
ilikeitintheass: Wedding planning and 3 full busy work schedules means we barely have time to see each other. I’ll be honest I’m having a rough go at it. I often feel when the day is over that I need more hours because the work isn’t done. I can’t be the only one that goes through that, but it feels like it at the moment.
Because I’m anal only, I find I’m horny more than ever. I’m someone who needs sex, on a daily basis. If it’s not sex then at least masturbate. Is anyone here like that? Do you find sometimes that work and life get in the way? And by the time you’re home all you want to do is crawl into bed alone? These questions have invaded my mind.
I need more sex if that’s at all possible. Who can relate? I need my arse fucked and filled all the time! Can’t be normal?!
gblacky: Love your blog. Got my wife to try anal about a year and a half ago. Now, unless we’re doing oral, we only fuck her ass. It’s so damn good
Congratulations, that’s wonderful for the both of you. Anal and oral and not one bit of pussy is the way to do it.
Announcing this year’s upcoming No Pussy November challenge! One of the best ways to experience the realities and benefits of the anal only lifestyle is to challenge yourself to go anal only without any vaginal sex for an entire month. It’s enough time to immerse yourself in the lifestyle and work past any early difficulties, without being a scary up-front commitment to dive straight into long-term anal only. Countless anal only couples and individuals got their start with No Pussy November or with a similar month-long challenge.
The rules are simple: from November 1 to 30, you will not engage in vaginal intercourse. Any further restrictions beyond that are up to you—whether you include clitoral stimulation, for example, depends on your own preferences and needs. Many choose not to in the hopes of achieving pure anal only pleasure and orgasms, others prefer the combination of anal and clit stimulation.
For those of us already anal only, there’s no need to feel left out: if there’s some new twist on the anal only lifestyle that you are curious to try, this is the perfect opportunity to explore it! Consider adding clitoral denial, ass to mouth, wider or deeper anal stretching, double anal, long term plug wear, orgasm denial, physical chastity, anal only tattoos (whether temporary or permanent), clit numbing, or anything else that might interest you into the mix as your personal challenge for the month.
So, get your ideas ready and start talking to your partner to get them on board! If you’re single, you can still participate as well—when masturbating, keep it strictly anal only, and when hooking up, just tell them that you’re participating in No Pussy November and are only doing anal and oral. Don’t forget to share your plans and ideas with us.
Questions and requests for advice are also always welcome at any time.
Anonymous: Could you please explain your beliefs behind an anal only lifestyle? Why do you discourage vaginal sex? Am curious.
There are many different reasons that different people find the anal only lifestyle appealing or ideal for them, and there’s a good post titled The Many Roads Leading to the Anal Only Lifestyle which outlines some of them.
Anal, done right, feels better for both partners than the best vaginal. It leads to much more intense orgasms for women, and women are more likely to be able to orgasm from just anal than from just vaginal, but even those who need clitoral stimulation will have better orgasms than vaginal provides.
It’s far more intimate, partly because it’s typically the most intimate and private part of a woman’s body, partly because it requires more care and trust to have sex there, and partly because of the commitment people make together to become anal only and only have sex there.
It’s natural birth control without the annoyance of condoms (in a trusted relationship; condoms should still be used otherwise) or the harmful effects of hormonal birth control.
It’s a mood and arousal booster, and anal pleasure and orgasms don’t have the arousal suppressing effects of vaginal/clitoral orgasms for a majority of women, so the benefits of other forms of denial that appeal to so many women can be experienced through the anal only lifestyle by focusing on purely anal pleasure and orgasms, without denying the actual pleasure.
It appeals to a lot of people to consider vaginal for procreative purposes and anal for recreative purposes. One is clearly better for each, and it’s best to leave each for each purpose, not to mention very sexy to do so.
It brings people closer together and spices up sex lives with much more exciting sexual expression for both, and provides a sexy secret for a couple to share.
If you’re interested in it, why not simply try it for yourself for a month or two? You don’t need to make a long term commitment up front, just commit to a length of time and see what it’s like in reality. I usually suggest a month at a minimum to allow enough time to work through the initial kinks in the first few weeks and really understand what it’s like once you get into the routine.
For more information, I’d suggest visiting our forum.