Anonymous: How do i get my gf to anal only? I mean She Likes anal But She is too shy to do it more often…

Compliment her ass and tell her how much you love having anal sex with her. Make her feel comfortable, confident, and loved. Tell her that you want to have anal sex more often, but you want to make sure she loves it as well. Maintain a dialogue, listen to her, try to make it gradually more frequent, and if you’re both loving the increase of anal sex, keep doing it more often until it’s all you do.

Anonymous: Good to see you posting again! How has the anal only lifestyle been treating you lately?

xcutieclairex: Hi, its been good, thanks! my other half looooves it almost as much as I do! xD

puxxxyy: Thoughts

1. I love my plugged up little ass.. it makes me so drippy
2. My cunt is useless, I should only fuck my ass
3. My holes should ALWAYS be tight for master
4. I’m tired, I should be sleeping
5. I’m a desperate whore, id do anything to touch

I don’t know why I’m so into anal. Thought I had a problem and was always embarrassed about my obsession. 10 years ago I married a woman who had never tried it before at the age of 40.  I’m extremely lucky because she doesn’t just like it, but LOVES it. She’s probably in that 1 in 1000 or more group of woman that can actually have an orgasm during anal sex.  I’m extremely lucky but also it’s nice to know there’s other woman out there that have the same desires. Nice forum. I guess the point I was trying to make is to find a woman that makes you happy even if it takes a while. Its definitely worth it in the long run. And, don’t be embarrassed about your anal desires. Nothing worse than having to beg for anal sex and being rejected all the time. There’s a tremendous difference in having anal sex with a woman who really enjoys it then one that does not. Huge difference.

Totally agree. There is more to a relationship than sexual compatibility, but it is a big part of it for many people, and you shouldn’t sell your own sexual needs short. If anal or the anal only lifestyle is something that you yourself need to be sexually satisfied, it’s only fair to yourself and your partner to seek someone out who shares that same interest (or who is open to it).

Anonymous: I fuck my girlfriend in the ass about once a week. We both enjoy it, and she has great orgasms, but she says it makes her too sore to have it more often. I really want to be able to fuck her ass every time we have sex. She said she would too if she didn’t get so sore. Is there anything we can do to keep her from getting so sore so we can be anal only? It’s the only time we can fuck without using a condom.

It sounds like you need to spend some more time on warmup and ease into things a bit more, as well as perhaps doing some lower intensity anal play more often. I would suggest that you let her go a week or so to get over any soreness after her last anal session, but then rather than having anal sex, start doing lots of anal play alongside other sexual activities. Have her wear a plug, both during oral/vaginal sex, and at other times. Doing this 3 – 5 times a week, if not daily, can really start to make a difference over the course of a week or so, even if just for a relatively short amount of time each day.

When you do have anal sex the next time, have her wear her plug first, then warm her up some more with fingers or a toy before having sex. This helps warm up her muscles and relax so that soreness is less likely to occur.

From there, return to your once a week anal session but keep up the anal play in the meantime as long as she’s not too sore for it. If after a week or two she’s able to do both with less soreness, try going to anal sex twice a week, and keep working up from there. You can absolutely get to the point where she can have anal sex daily, if not more than once a day, without getting sore, it just takes time and gradually working towards that goal, and then maintaining a relatively consistent routine so that her ass stays in that state where it’s ready for sex regularly.

Anonymous: as a cam model i can say you’re extremely wrong about the anal thing. they push certain categories and get people hooked on it (step sibling, anal, dp, three ways, etc) as a way to control the market. not cause its inherently more popular. especially since 99% of you dont pay for porn, you dont really control the market. the market controls you.

I’m sure there’s a bit of both going on. Some can manipulate the market in their favor by establishing a niche and owning it, others play to market trends and do what’s popular. I, and many people, seek out anal focused content because it’s what we want to see, and someone trying to make, say, vaginal trendy isn’t going to work on us.

Anonymous: How can a person manage anal only if they’re not capable of having penetration-only orgasms? Is it still anal only if I use my clit to cum? Or is there any way I can “learn” to cum from anal? (P.S. I love anal and am pretty well versed in it, just can’t get off from it).

Yes, it’s still anal only if you need to combine clit stimulation with anal. I encourage going without clitoral stimulation and learning to focus just on anal pleasure, but not everyone is at that point yet, and you can absolutely still be anal only. So by all means, go anal only now, and over time work towards using your clit less and less until you don’t feel the need for it anymore.

Many people have had success learning to have anal only orgasms over time, often through a combination of clitoral denial and the resulting increase in arousal that comes from that, and a daily practice of anal masturbation and sex. Excluding clitoral stimulation for a while and becoming extremely horny as a result opens your body up more to alternate paths to orgasm, and frequent anal stimulation fills that void and can start to develop the ability to orgasm that way.

Anonymous: I really like anal, like a lot; I don’t get much pleasure from vaginal sex / vaginal penetration, so I’m thinking about being anal only. My problem with that is I love clitoral stimulation. I mean I’ve had anal sex were I didn’t touch or barely touched my clit but I like to masterbate using my clit. Is it bad I still want to masterbate with my clitoris?

Fundamentally “anal only” means “no vaginal penetration for sexual purposes”. A lot of anal only women still use clitoral stimulation if they want/need to. Do what works best for you, and don’t let a desire for clitoral stimulation otherwise prevent you from going anal only.

I would suggest that if you masturbate with your clit while being anal only, make sure to have a finger, dildo or butt plug in your ass at the same time, to remain anal-centric in your masturbation and work towards just using your clit to get over the edge to orgasm.

That said, I do encourage exploring anal without clitoral stimulation, at least from time to time, and figuring out what sort of pleasure you can experience and unlock without your clit overpowering things.

A member on the Anal Only Lifestyle forum recently made a post detailing how he and his wife, who have been anal only nearly 8 years together, are ready to have children and would like to come up with a special anal only way of doing so without having vaginal sex.

Me and my wife had been anal only for the most part of our 8 years relationship. Now we’re thinking about having kids and our natural contraception preferences are playing against us. Vaginal sex is not a taboo, but I would do something a little more exciting (and more like us) on this special moment.

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Anonymous: I’m a girl who’s never masturbated or played with my clit much, I like the idea of sex being more about mutual pleasure and it just seems selfish to rub my clit and makes me feel bad. I’ve been reading your blog for a while and I want to go anal only, and my boyfriend is on board, but I need to train my ass before I can do it every day. We do it sometimes together but I need to do it more often than he has time for. How can I get past the feeling of it being masturbation so I can do it more?

Inherently there’s nothing wrong with masturbation, but I’ve known a number of women who have a similar perspective as your own, and as long as you’re happy and it’s what you want, there’s nothing wrong with avoiding it either, especially if you have a healthy sex life.

I’ve also talked with other women in similar scenarios, where they or their partner wants to be anal only but struggle with pain/discomfort from doing it too frequently and need more practice, but don’t want to masturbate and so end up in a somewhat frustrating cycle.

I’d suggest considering it as not being something selfish because you’re preparing and training yourself for a mutually pleasurable anal only future together. Make your boyfriend a part of it as often as you can, but think of your solo anal masturbation time as anal training for when you are together, and I think it will come a lot easier to you and you’ll be able and eager to go anal only sooner than you think.