analsexonly: You posted earlier this year saying it had been a month since you’d had vaginal sex and it would probably be a year until you did so again. Are you still practicing anal only? How has it been going?
thebuttcouple: It is going great (if you can’t tell by the photos ?). I think we may have had vaginal sex once when the I had a belly ache and wasn’t feeling quite up to par. I honestly can say I don’t miss it or crave it at all! – the Mrs.
Anonymous: I was the stereotypical girl who thought my ass was an exit only and refused to let my boyfriends near it …. until I dated the right guy who I trusted completely and he was patient & loving & caring & taught me all about anal and how good it is. We’ve been married almost two years and we’ve gone from just vaginal at first to mostly anal and now since our anniversary last December we’re anal only. I never would’ve thought I’d do this but I would never go back. So don’t give up hope!!
A great message to anyone who’s looking but hasn’t found an anal only partner yet: the right person might be out there and not even realize it yet, they just need someone who can show them why being anal only is a better way to be. Most people have not even considered the idea of being anal only yet, and so they need to be both introduced to the idea and shown its appeal. The majority of anal only relationships evolve into that ideal state over time with trust, practice and experimentation.
Thanks for sharing your experience, and congratulations on nearly two years of marriage and nearly one year of anal only together!
Anonymous: I am literally just waiting for my partner to take my anal virginity. I always masturbate with a plug in my ass and he doesn’t last long enough for me to cum with my pussy so I’m hoping he starts fucking my ass soon. My body is made like whore so I should be fine.
Just tell him you want to be his anal girl and that you want him in your ass. He should be happy to accommodate.
bisexualattentionwhore: I think I’m going to continue being anal only for the rest of November. What do you guys think? I don’t think my pussy deserves to be filled anyway
Go for it! Being anal only is always better. By the end of the month you probably won’t want to go back to using your pussy anyway.
Anonymous: It’s hard to find your blog anymore, what’s going on? I hope you aren’t going away!
Definitely never going away, this community will always exist in some form, and this blog will exist as long as it can.
Tumblr has made it harder for people to find adult-oriented content, blocked it from public search engines, and only allows logged-in members to view such blogs, but it’s still here if you get past all that. And until a better alternative to Tumblr exists that doesn’t censor sexual topics, this blog will remain here.
In the meantime, and if this blog ever does disappear, you can follow and join the rest of the anal only community.
thatchocolatecoveredloli: It’s been very interesting and I kind of want to keep going. Me and Daddy talked about waiting one entire month before he uses my pussy again. It surprises me how much of an anal slut I’ve become. I never thought I could be so satisfied from having only having my ass filled over and over again. Should I…can I keep going?
Yes, you should keep going! Go for at least a whole month at a minimum. It sounds like you’re loving it—so why stop now? Wait until the end of the month to reassess. If you’re still having fun then, stay anal only.
thatchocolatecoveredloli: You guys helped convince Daddy and me! He says it sounds like a good idea. I think he just likes filling me up completely. No pussy November challenge accepted. ?
Anonymous: I have vaginismus (a really tight pussy too tights to have sex or it hurts a lot) and my doctor had my try stretching it out and I tried but it just hurts so bad and turns me off more every time, so she suggesetd I try anal instead. I found your blog when I was looking, and it sounds great if people really do anal only, any tips? I’ve fingered my ass some and I like it more than my pussy.
Anal has proved a welcome option for a lot of women with vaginismus over the years, and it’s great to see that it’s being encouraged as a serious alternative to vaginal. We in the anal only community often come from adopting anal as the primary form of sex by choice because it’s better than vaginal, and it is, but it also can provide an outlet for pleasure and intimacy for women incapable of having vaginal, and that’s wonderful.
It sounds like you’re on the right track by starting slow and exploring with your fingers. Keep doing that, be sure you’re using some sort of lube, and start to add more fingers. From there, start with a dildo or a vibrator and gradually work up further in size as you’re comfortable and ready for something bigger. Butt plugs are also good for a more passive approach, and you can wear them in your ass while masturbating clitorally or even while doing other things.
I’d suggest only trying anal sex with a partner once you’re comfortable using a similarly sized dildo and are confident you’re ready and can do it without pain.
Anonymous: My wife and I really enjoy anal sex. We’ve been having it about once a week for the last couple of years. My wife says she would like to have it more, but she’s afraid it will cause her problems later. Of course I would love to have anal every time we have sex. Is there information I can give her to reassure her anal sex won’t cause problems later?
I have a lot of anecdotal evidence from conversations with people who have been doing anal for a long time, including couples who have been anal only together for 30+ years, and who have experienced no long-term issues as a result.
The anal sphincter muscles are naturally tight and closed when relaxed, and that remains the case even after extensive use and stretching. Using muscles strengthens them, and that’s the case with anal as well. It also increases their elasticity/flexibility, which makes it easier to relax and open up quickly, but that doesn’t change the fact that it’s still tightly closed when not in use, and can also be manually tightened through conscious control at any point. There are also exercises that can be done, just like kegel exercises, which target anal muscles and strengthen them further.
Another common concern is anal prolapse, but there’s no evidence that anal sex causes prolapse. It’s generally a preexisting condition that would develop on its own in the rare cases where it happens. What is most commonly shown in porn isn’t true prolapse, it’s the result of having very strong pelvic floor muscles and pushing out while simultaneously having a very open and relaxed anus, and is very much a conscious and deliberate thing rather than true “medical condition” level anal prolapse, which happens more uncontrollably, is very rare, and is not the result of anal sex/play.
Anal fissures can be a risk, but are easily mitigated by being conscious and the recipient listening to their body and stopping to reassess if something hurts, using enough lube, and warming up properly. Having anal sex more often, in fact, makes this and other sorts of injuries far less likely because the recipient remains far more constantly warmed up and ready for anal sex, which makes the entire process easier and requiring of less preparation.
So, yes, it’s quite safe to do it as often as she’s physically comfortable with, and the more often you do it, the more she’ll be physically comfortable with. Maybe try starting by going to twice a week for a month, then three times a week, and keep gradually increasing the frequency you do anal until you’re doing it every time, but at a slower pace so that she has time to adjust and assess and get comfortable with the idea and realize it’s not hurting her.
Anonymous: Do you have any suggestions on finding the right plug for my girl? She really enjoys anal play and I really enjoy doing it to her. I just want to make her happy. Thanks for all you do.
Using fingers or other toys, figure out about what size of anal penetration she’s currently comfortable with, and find a plug that’s a little wider than that at the widest point, so that it gives her a little push but when it’s inside is still comfortable.
The Tantus Ryder, Implicit Creations Core Plug (3 sizes) and others in that size range are what I often recommend as a starter plug. You don’t want to start too small, or it’ll just get replaced quickly, so work up to ~1.5″ diameter first and then try for a good small/medium plug.
Anonymous: How long have you been anal only for? And what made you decide to go anal only?
cumslutthroatwhore: About half a year, a friend of mine only liked fucking my ass and i loved it too, then i saw that its a thing on tumblr and tried it, best decision ever