Anonymous: What if you want anal only sex and play but your bf doesnt? He can’t seem to want to stay away from the vagina. I’ve talked to him about it. Not sure what to do. Vag sex is ok, but come on guys we all know anal is the best.

What have your conversations about it entailed? Did you make it clear that you don’t just prefer anal, you don’t want to do vaginal anymore? Did you try to compromise in any way, or did he just shut it down?

Try a more gradual approach of shifting over time to be more anal centric, ask him for anal regularly, tell him how much you love his cock in your ass, and make anal as enjoyable as you can for him while not bothering to do the same with vaginal.

Anonymous: I’ve talked to my husband before about wanting to go anal only. I love it so much, pretty much wear a plug all day but I don’t think he loves it as much as I do, how do I get him to want to be only anal with me. He gets all the forplay fun bjs, footjob, boibs, hands. I tell him I love him and his body, but I get none of that, just light kissing and fondling right before sex. He never wants to finger my ass or ass worship nothing. I live vicariously through this blog lool much love!

Keep communicating your desires, and try to have actual conversations about it and work out if you can find a mutually acceptable compromise between your two positions on it.

You can also work to that point more incrementally: rather than jumping straight to wanting to go anal only, first work to start having anal sex more often, then add something like anal only weekends into your routine, then one week a month, then try going anal only for a full month, etc., and then after that see if he’s willing to try it longer term.

Anonymous: My Fiancé and i really want to try stretching out my ass and you seem to be knowledgeable about these things. Ive done a little research on my own but I’d like to see what tips, cautions, and thoughts you have on going about this.

If you’re just starting out and want to stretch/train it for anal sex, start with a finger and work up in size from there. If you’re already experienced with anal sex and want to go bigger, the same basic principles apply.

Essentially, increase in small size increments, generally no more than 1/4″ diameter at a time, warm up through smaller sizes before jumping to the larger sizes, and stop for at least a few days if you become particularly sore or if there’s any bleeding.

Feel free to follow up if you have any more specific questions!

Anonymous: I try to convince to do anal but she said I’m bigger then the ones she been with an it hurts like how do I convince her

Start with anal play, not sex. Eat her ass, get her relaxed, use a lubricated finger to gently massage and then penetrate her ass, gradually add more fingers as she’s comfortable and ready to go ahead, get her some butt plugs and dildos to use, and over time work up in size until she can fit a dildo close to your size. Then, and only then, start on anal sex.

If it hurts, she’s not ready for it and you’re getting ahead of yourself. Anal should not hurt.

This blog and its greater community isn’t just a one-way street where I and other people post and share, we want to hear your experiences, comments, and questions too! Whatever it may be, feel free to ask a question and I’ll be happy to respond as soon as I’m able!

secrets-of-a-filthy-girl: I-I just had my first anal only edge while fucking my ass for Daddy >\\<

I absolutely love fucking my ass but normally I play with my clit too, but not this time. This time I kept my hands off my drooling denied pussy and focused only on the anal fucking.

Of course my severe need to pee certainly isn’t helping my arousal..

Anonymous: What does it mean when I’m laying with a plug in my ass that was seated all the way in, just pops out. I wasn’t doing anything wasn’t even masturbating. But it popping out is Really very annoying

It’s probably not the right size plug for you. You may have advanced in your anal training so you can relax your anal muscles more easily now and it’s too small for that now, or it might not be the ideal shape for your body. If the difference in size between the widest part inside you and the neck is too little, or if the neck is too short, it can have difficulty staying in place. It might be time to start looking for a new plug!

The original poster responded:

What do you mean shape for my body? Don’t plugs really only come in one shape?

Plugs come in many different shapes and sizes. Some have very thin necks and wide internal “bulbs”, some have thick necks and are more like dilators, some have very stubby “bulbs”, some are tapered, some are egg-shaped, etc. Some have short necks, some have long necks. Some have flat bases, some have T-shaped bases, some have loop bases. All these factors can contribute to a plug that is comfortable to one person but not another.

Anonymous: Hi! We’ve been doing No Pussy November for a week and a half now and I have a question. If I rub my clit while we have sex I can cum and it feels good but if I don’t rub it, it feels like I cum and it’s even better but I’m still horny after and I don’t feel satisfied with just the one orgasm. Is this normal with anal?

That’s totally normal! You’ve discovered how to orgasm from anal sex, and you’ve discovered one of its big benefits! Whereas clit orgasms cause a drop in arousal after, anal only orgasms typically do not and you can keep going as much as you want. I’d consider yourself lucky for figuring out how to cum from anal so easily and go at least the rest of the month without clit stimulation to further develop and really solidify the ability to cum from just anal and get used to staying more aroused more often, which in turn helps with having frequent anal sex and makes anal a lot more appealing than vaginal.

lululove30: Daddy has me doing anal only edging today.

I never knew I could edge from only anal. He truly is turning me into his little slut. ????

Anonymous: Hi I had a couple questions , how do I get my girlfriend to want to do anal and like it more ? She loves it when I lick her lil butthole and rub it and put my finger in when I’m making love to her but other then that she says it hurts and I try to tell her to relax … we use lube and what not but her being anxious makes her scared … is there anything I can do? I recently bought her a princess plug but we haven’t used it yet. Thanks

Keep doing the things she likes and make them regular parts of sex for the two of you. Start using the plug as well. From the baseline of what she enjoys, gradually work up in size at a pace that she’s comfortable with. Encourage her to play with her ass as well and masturbate anally, and to tell you what feels good, what’s comfortable, and when things start to not be. Push her limits, but gently and slowly. As you work up in size and get near your own size, only then should you try going ahead with actual anal sex.

Play with her clit and give her lots of orgasms during anal training, and that will help her relax and develop the association between anal penetration and pleasure, and she’ll start wanting more and more.