beturass33: My boyfriend and I have only had anal sex once. With my previous partners we primarily had anal sex. How do I get my current partner to love anal as much as I do? He won’t even finger my asshole during doggy… I’m desperate

You have my empathy, it’s got to be hard to go from being mostly anal only to going back to using your pussy exclusively.

Have you talked to him about it and let him know how much anal means to you? Most guys want to please their partners, but most guys also think that women don’t like anal and he might not try to do it any more if he doesn’t think you want it. However, if you have tried talking to him about it and he hasn’t shown interest, that can be harder to resolve. Still, communicate as a starting point, tell him that you love and need anal, and that you want to share it with him regularly. See what he says and if he has any concerns of his own about it, then try to resolve them. See if he’ll start to do anal more often, or start adding more anal play, or even just start by wearing a butt plug regularly and during sex.

say-no-to-the-o:

3 November, 2018
From @littlehumpybunny (Say No To The O Member and Sister in Denial)

From today onwards I, @littlehumpybunny, swear that I for at least one week will be participating in “No Pussy November, which means the following

1. I must play with my ass until I edge at least once a day.
2. I may not touch my clit unless I am also playing with my ass.
3. Toys may only be used on or in my ass.
4. That I must have my plug in at least an hour a day.
5. That if by the end of the week on Nov. 10th if I feel good about the week I will swear to my aforementioned statement for another week so on and so on until “No Pussy November” is over.

If I don’t follow these rules, the only way I’m allowed to edge for the rest of the week is by humping with clothespins on my pussy lips.

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Sleep well, @littlehumpybunny. The arousal will likely kill you in the morning (fingers crossed). You friends at Say No To The O Member

Read more about @littlehumpybunny HERE.

emcxnt: Three cheers for how normalized anal sex has become!

Anonymous: i’m working up to anal only as part of my edging + denial. currently, vaginal penetration is off-limits but i still touch my clit. i only allow myself to edge my clit with an anal plug inserted or while fucking my ass. having my ass full gets me to the edge so quickly and makes me drip so much. it also helps me train to associate pleasure with my ass. i’m scared to see what removing clit stimulation does to me. ?

It sounds like you’re approaching this in a way that works really well for most people, easing into anal only and gradually increasing your reliance on your ass for pleasure while removing your reliance on your pussy and reducing it on your clit, only using it to supplement and increase your anal pleasure, until you no longer need it anymore.

In a broad sense, if you no longer use any vaginal penetration, you’re already anal only. A lot of anal only women still use clitoral stimulation, and just replace vaginal penetration with anal every time. Over time, however, many work to remove their dependence on clitoral stimulation to be even more strictly anal only, and that’s a great thing if it’s what you want to work towards as a goal.

It sounds like you’ll love it.

Anonymous: I would just like to say that I have been following your blog for roughly 6 months and I mostly do anal! We single moms love it too. I get much more pleasure from it, and have not had vaginal sex for almost 8 months now.

That’s great, I’m glad to hear that you’ve been able to do what you prefer and not have to bother with vaginal sex at all anymore. Keep it up and keep enjoying the best sex you can have!

Anonymous: Just a few random questions for you!! What do you do when stomach problems come up? Like period cramps or just regular stomach bugs? Do you still use a plug? Does your partner still want something in return like oral or do you just wait until you can both participate? Also what is your opinion about states in america that deem anal illegal would you still participate if you lived there? Anywho have a great day!

You should listen to your body, and if it feels like your digestive system is not up for anal sex or play, take a break from it until you recover. If you’re with a partner and you’re anal only, you can always switch to just oral until you feel up to more, or just take a break entirely if you don’t feel well. There’s no universal answer here, what works for you and your partner is what you should do. Whatever kind of sex you prefer to have, there are always times someone can not be up for it.

While anti-anal laws might still be on the books in some states, nobody is enforcing them. We should work to get those laws eliminated, but in the meantime, don’t let them get in your way of enjoying anal sex and pleasure.

Anonymous: I’m so happy I came across this blog! It feels good knowing I’m not the only one who loves anal just as much. Although I am not anal only(working on it) my boyfriend and I love anal sex. It’s an indescribable feeling. For the first time the other day I had an accident on his penis and he ignored it and kept fucking me. Even though he didn’t mind I would like to know how to prevent that from happening again?

For most people, a balanced diet with a healthy amount of fiber and not too much fat, and going to the bathroom before sex, will prevent it the majority of the time. A small amount of warm water used to flush the rectum before sex can clean up any remaining residue without the need for any sort of deeper enema.

But, every now and then, an unexpected mess can occur, even when you do everything “right”. It’s just the nature of anal sex, and it shouldn’t be a big deal. It doesn’t sound like your boyfriend was bothered by it, and I’d suggest just accepting it as an occasional small price to pay for enjoying the otherwise superiority of anal pleasure for you.

Good luck on working towards becoming anal only! It’s definitely worth it!

Anonymous: I’ve only tried anal sex once— it was spontaneous (my partner and I were drunk) and I found that it felt amazing, but I was humiliated because i noticed some residue on my partner and made him stop.. is a mess common during anal? Any tips for a cleaner experience? I loved the way it felt but was so embarrassed.

If you’re concerned about even a small amount of residue, get an enema/douche bulb and use a small amount of warm water in your rectum, hold it a moment, then push it back out, and repeat several times. Don’t use very much water, just enough to flush your rectum. If you go too deep with it, you can cause a bigger mess, so it’s better to go small and repeatedly until it comes out clean, and then you should be good to go. You might want to try it on your own first to see how best it works for you.

Beyond that, I would suggest trying to not be embarrassed by it. While most people don’t like a mess from anal sex, it is a function of that part of your body, and so it’s best to just be mature about it and accept that sometimes it might happen and it’s not that big of a deal, you just clean off and keep going, or try again later. It’s definitely not worth letting it get in the way of enjoying the best possible way to have sex and share intimacy.

crownjules69: My partner really loves anal, she actually prefers it. The only reason we don’t do it every time is because of hygiene. She says she always wants it in the ass though, she just doesn’t know what to do. I was wondering if you have any non-obvious tips?

A balanced, low-fat, high fiber diet along with occasional douching as needed is all most people need. It can become a standard part of your daily routine without too much effort or commitment if you want the many benefits of being anal only. It’s well worth it.

If you have more specific questions about hygiene/cleanliness, I can try to answer more specifically.

Anonymous: Is it cheating to do “no pussy November” if you’ve always been anal only? My parents are very religious and I was raised thinking I had to save my virginity for my husband. When I started having boyfriends I learned about “Gods loophole”(lol) and started having anal sex with my boyfriends. I love it now and I cum much harder being fucked in the ass than if I just play with my pussy.

Not at all! A lot of people participate even though they’re already anal only. You can always take the opportunity to add another level to your anal only commitment, whether it be clit denial and only orgasming through anal, long term butt plug wear, increased anal play more frequently or with larger toys, or something else that interests you and relates to the anal only lifestyle. You could also choose to make the commitment to staying anal only permanently, even after marriage.