I’ve had anal sex before with my ex who was average and so the anal sex was comfortable.

Recently I started talking to an old fwb again who is above average. His thickness is a major turn on and I’m really excited to start having fwb with him again but he wants to try anal for the first time. I’m almost hesitate due to do it because it’s hard to give him a bj due to it being so thick that I have to really widen my mouth and jaw.

Due to his size, how can I prepare myself to do anal? Mind you I’m not used to using lube or anal play or fingering. I’m not one to give up so easily, I really want to try for him because he has told me that the women he has already slept with refuse to give him head and to do anal. Any advice or suggestions would help.

UPDATE:
On Saturday, I finally met up with him and I told him that I really wanted to try anal for him but he was more concerned with hurting me (very sweet, I know) so he wanted to wait to try anal. So I was able to give him head and deepthroat him first even with his thickness which then caused him to cum too soon after we started to have sex afterwards. He felt so bad, but I was happy to satisfy him with head because I really did want to try for him. Within a few minutes he was able to get hard again and continue having sex, and when he finished he said I was too tight for him.

LATEST UPDATE: 
we did it! No lube necessary just used my natural pussy juices like expected and it was very enjoyable and so he too enjoyed it. Unfortunately a few hours later I ended bleeding which is normal. So at the moment I’m healing and am not going to tell him because I don’t want him to feel bad.

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A good illustration of the fact that anyone can achieve anal sex with any size partner, it can just take some time and practice to get to that point at first. If she had put in more warmup and practice, she wouldn’t have had any bleeding after either, but with more practice going forward, I’m sure she’ll be able to regularly enjoy anal sex with him with no pain or injury.

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ButtBabe: Hey! I want to share an idea I had after reading this blog. I’m not anal only right now but I do anal probably 80% or 90% of the time and really only use my pussy for sex if I can’t do anal or if I’m having a threesome. But it’s not my first choice and I think the idea of doing just anal and making it a choice not to ever do vaginal is really hot!

So I was thinking of making this summer anal only and see how it goes. I would start at the beginning of June and go through July, which is when I’m off from school. Since I wouldn’t have many responsibilities in the summer compared to during school I could keep my ass ready for sex more easily and just do it all the time.

What do you think?

I think that sounds like a wonderful idea. You’ll be able to focus fully on it and staying in top shape for frequent anal sex. Dedicating a full two months to anal only will really show you what it’s all about to focus 100% on anal, and since you’re already a very anal-centric person, I’m sure that you’ll notice a lot of subtle, and maybe some not-so-subtle, improvements over continuing to use your vagina intermittently.

I will say, if you really enjoy yourself during the summer, just keep going with anal only. After two months of anal only, your ass will be well adjusted to the routine and I’m sure you’ll be able to go full time even during a regular school/life routine. Rather than seeing this as a short term summer thing to do, see it as an opportunity to spend a few months getting ready to go fully anal only long-term. And, if you already know you want to do this, why not get started now? Just keep doing anal regularly as you already do, and when you get to a situation where you would do vaginal, just don’t do it and either do anal or oral instead. No point delaying your goals if you can get started sooner and get even more time in.

That’s the question a Quora user asks, continuing:

He’s brought it up twice even though I say no and tell him that I don’t go that route. I’m starting to feel like he’ll never be pleased.

Many of the answers go into the fact that she has no obligation to do something she doesn’t want to do, which is certainly true, but they’re also generally criticizing her boyfriend and suggesting that there’s something wrong or selfish about wanting anal.

The fact that he wants it and continues to want it isn’t going to go away. It’s a common desire for a reason: anal sex is better sex, and of course people are going to want to do it.

I would encourage the original poster to try anal for herself, on her own terms, and learn how to do it right so she can really enjoy it. Once she’s ready, she can do it with her boyfriend and share that intense pleasure and intimacy with him, satisfying the both of them in the process.

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Anonymous: I love love love your blog and loved your blogs on Tumblr when you were there. I’m 28, and a vaginal virgin by choice since I was 16 when I first had sex. I have never liked my vagina or vaginal sex, and always been turned off by it and wished I didn’t even have it. I’ve always played with my ass, and barely even tried playing with my cunt after I did it a few times and hated everything about it. It just feels gross and wrong to me and turns me off immediately.

So instead I’ve been putting things up my ass as long as I can remember and having anal sex only for the last 12 years and I plan to never have vaginal sex. The idea of being anal only forever and keep my cunt totally unused and untouched makes me really happy and so that’s my goal. I love everything about anal and nothing about vaginal. I do it all—ass to mouth, permanent clit denial for the last decade, even double anal I love! I’m engaged to a wonderful man who I have amazing anal sex with almost every day and who feels the same way and wants to keep me a vaginal virgin too.

My only hesitation at all is that we want to have children, and while it makes sense that vaginal sex is for getting pregnant and anal sex is for everything else, I just don’t ever want to get fucked in my cunt even for that. I read that some people have been able to get pregnant without having vaginal sex, can you give us some advice on that? I hope to get pregnant but never have to get fucked any way but in my ass. Thank you!

You sound like a wonderful woman and your fiance is a lucky man. Everything you described about yourself is exactly what I would consider an ideal partner in every way.

As for getting pregnant without having vaginal sex, that’s a topic of growing interest among anal only women, and there are multiple women in the anal only community who have success with that goal.

Some have gone to a fertility clinic and undergone in-vitro fertilization treatments in order to achieve that goal. This is a very successful way to go, but also expensive.

Some will have anal sex like normal and then pull out and spread open her vagina to ejaculate inside without penetrating. The use of a speculum or other tool to help hold it open can aid with this, as can certain medical lubricants in the vagina to help his semen penetrate more deeply quickly.

My personal preference is a variation of the above, where anal sex is done normally in a doggy style position but he ejaculates inside and then spreads open your vagina while you push out his semen and it runs down into your vagina. Potentially paired with the above lubricant technique, this can be very effective and is a pure anal technique that involves anal sex to completion. It can take repeat attempts over several months to be successful, but that just means more anal sex to enjoy!

Good luck to the both of you.

Anonymous: So I was talking with a group of friends (all male) and the conversation turns to sex and eventually anal sex comes up. I must be the only one of us who hasn’t done it, but the rest of the guys swear by it and say that if ever the opportunity comes up they’ll try and do it with their girlfriends. I didn’t believe them at first but they all said the same and then they told me there are people who only do anal, that it was a thing on tumblr when they allowed porn. So I went looking and found this blog. Now don’t get me wrong I’ve watched lots of porn and anal looks fun for variety but at the end of the day a hole is just a hole right? Is there something I’m missing as it would make sense that a pussy is best? Not trying to be disrespectful of anyone’s lifestyle, I’m just trying to understand. With the prep required and lube etc it doesn’t seem like it would be worth the effort but like I said I was told it’s something I’d want to do again if I were to try it.

At some level, it can come down to personal preference, but in general yes, for a lot of people anal sex does feel better and is more attractive and appealing than vaginal. A hole is not just a hole—everything has its differences.

It’s often possible to go deeper with anal. The anus is tighter and grippier. Both partners can feel the other orgasm more easily and with more detail through anal sex. Those receiving anal sex get more pleasure and more intense orgasms from it than from vaginal when anal is done right. There is a more primal and natural feeling of satisfaction from anal sex compare to vaginal.

With practice and experience, preparation can be reduced. It’s certainly needed when getting started, but with more experience and frequent anal sex, many people don’t need a lot of preparation or warmup. That, too, can be a matter of personal variation. You do need lube of some sort, but that’s not a big deal.

You should definitely give it a try, and not just once. It can take some time to get into and become familiar with fully, but once you do, there’s no comparison.

I prefer all anal anytime! Just good hard ANAL. No vag please – it spoils the plot. DP is a bummer. When I see a girls face I enjoy seeing her feel cock rammed really good hard up the ass. DP is bull. ANAL and just ANAL.

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I agree. Up the Ass and Only Up the Ass. No Pussy fucking just dick sucking and Buttfucking Only!!!

buttguy, LegalPorno forums

FUCK YEAH! Ass fucking and cock sucking, In that order. Lots of balls deep anal, then some nice ass to mouth dick sucking. Then straight back to anal. ANAL, MOUTH, ANAL, MOUTH, ANAL, MOUTH! AND absolutely no PUSSY

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Any frequent viewer of heterosexual porn is familiar with the standard sequence of events—a scene typically starts with some oral sex, then shifts to vaginal, and finally gets to the anal at the end, followed by some ass to mouth and/or a facial. This sequence is stale, boring, and outdated, and no longer represents what the majority of viewers want to see.

Using services that allow tracking of viewership trends, it can be easily observed that the majority of viewers might watch some of the oral, before skipping over the vaginal scene to go to the anal action. Anal is what people want to see, few people care to watch vaginal, and yet the porn industry is still filming it as part of their standard routine.

When vaginal was a more actively sought-after form of pornography, this sequence made sense, both to appeal to a wide range of people and logistically—because of the health risks of engaging in vaginal sex after anal, anal naturally became the last part of the scene. Over time, as people grew to recognize the appeal of anal and wanted to see that more, it began to be seen as the culmination of the scene, with the oral and vaginal more of a sort of foreplay leading up to the real action of anal. And so people began to skip those introductory aspects more and more.

Despite the widespread appeal of and interest in anal, there are still many people who are unable to find a partner to do it with them in their personal sex life, so it’s doubly appealing in that sense, and vaginal even less so—vaginal is the boring, bland sex they already are having, and anal is what they want, so they’re going to skip vaginal in porn to watch what appeals to and interests them.

So why is the porn industry still stuck in the old way of thinking and continuing to film the standard vaginal scene before getting to the anal sex? Likely a number of different reasons—it’s a formula that has worked for them for a long time, there are still those who do want to see vaginal and this makes scenes more broadly appealing to a wider audience, and the fact that anal remains somewhat of a taboo in parts of western culture and there aren’t enough people speaking up about wanting to see pure anal in their porn.

Fortunately, this isn’t the case everywhere—it’s primarily a phenomenon with American porn producers, and European porn has largely shifted to be entirely anal or extremely anal-centric. There are studios which regularly release 100% anal scenes with zero attention given to vaginal sex, and others which treat anal as the default and only include vaginal as a secondary, supplementary form of penetration alongside anal. As they continue to shift further and further towards anal only, and more people discover their content, other studios will need to follow suit to meet public demand and to help inspire even more people to discover the value of pure anal.

Skylar: So my (F) boyfriend and I are LDR, but working up to being a predominantly anal only couple when we move in together.

My question is: Is there so such thing as having too frequent anal sex? Not that we’re going at it every second of every day, it’s more every other day, but I’m just curious.

Yes, as with all things in life, it’s possible to have too much anal sex, but it’s not a universal, hard and fast rule for everyone, it’s something to figure out for yourself. If it hurts frequently or you’re particularly sore in a painful rather than pleasant way afterwards, you might be doing it to often. If it’s just a lot of fun and feels great without any significant ill effects, then you’re doing just fine!

It’s entirely possible for people to have anal sex daily or even more frequently, you just need to listen to your body and do it at a frequency that works for you. If every other day works for you, keep doing it. If you want to start doing it daily, go for it!

Good luck going anal only when you move in together—that’s something you’ll never regret deciding to do!

Vince: So I thought I’d give an update it’s the 22nd and I haven’t touched my penis. The strong urge to touch has subsided I have almost zero urge to touch my penis. The only thing I have struggled with this month is there’s times I can’t get off from just anal and then I have to just give up for the night and try again the next day. It’s both frustrating and kinda arousing cuz then I get turned on and can’t wait for the next day hopefully soon I’ll have completely zero urge to touch myself.

Well done and congratulations. Keep going and it will just keep getting better for you the more you do!

BillW: I didn’t post earlier as I didn’t know how this was going to go, but I wanted to share our Anal Only April story now that the month is over.

My wife and I have done anal once or twice a month since we started dating and she always enjoyed it but for whatever reason we just never did it more often. I’ve started wanting it more but didn’t know how to bring it up. I guess I was worried she would see it as some sort of rejection of her vagina or of her as a woman if I said I wanted to do anal more instead.

When I saw your Anal Only April post, I thought this sounded like a good way to introduce it, as a fun challenge and something relatively short-term at first. Just something new to try, you know? So I told her about it and asked if she’d be interested. She said she’d think about it, but by the end of the day when I got home from work she had her butt plug in and she told me she wanted me in her ass, and as I was sliding inside her, she said I could do her in the ass every day for all of April.

Obviously, I was very excited and we fucked hard and fast and I came deep inside her ass more than once that night, and every night for the month. The more we did it, the easier it got, and within a week she was able to go straight to anal without any warmup. She’d always been able to orgasm from anal, but it didn’t happen every time or come easily for her some of the time. A few weeks in, though, she was cumming multiple times nearly every time we had sex without even touching her pussy. It was like an anal awakening for her, and we were both loving it.

Last week, she told me that if she’d known having anal more often would be like this, she would have wanted to start doing this years ago. I told her that I had always loved her ass and had wanted to do more anal with her for a while but hadn’t known how to say it. She called me silly and said I should have just told her and she would have done it. So let that be a lesson and talk to your partner about what you want!

Now that the month is over, we’ve talked about what we want to do from here. I know you encourage sticking with anal only if it went well for the month and everyone enjoyed it, and we talked about if we wanted to stay anal only or go back to using her pussy some of the time. When I asked her what she thought, she answered immediately that she didn’t miss vaginal sex at all but if she stopped doing anal she would definitely miss that, and said that she thought that said everything for her.

So we’re not going back to vaginal, and I guess we’re anal only from now on. I’m really excited, and so is she! Thank you for the inspiration and helping us get to this point.

Thanks for sharing your wonderful experience, and congratulations to the both of you. You won’t miss vaginal or regret going anal only, and I have no doubt you’ll never look back if you both had such a strong shift and positive experience from this month of anal only.

If she’s continuing to have pure anal orgasms so easily, I’d encourage committing to excluding clit stimulation entirely if she hasn’t already. Once anal only orgasms start to become easier, clit stimulation just gets in the way of better orgasms and is no longer necessary. Going entirely without it long-term will further develop and amplify the anal orgasms.