If you have a vagina, the odds are that you need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. But there are some lucky people who report that they’ve achieved a less common type of climax: the near-mythical anal orgasm.

An anal orgasm is exactly what it sounds like — getting off by stimulating the anus. Most people associate anal orgasms with people who have penises, since they have a prostate (a gland located inside the anal canal that’s considered a “potent pleasure point”). But even though people with vaginas don’t have a prostate, sex experts and doctors say it’s possible for them to achieve an anal orgasm. After all, some women can come without their genitals being touched at all. So why write off the possibility of getting off from booty action?

Anal orgasms are possible for people with vaginas because of the anus’ proximity to the nerve endings of the vaginal wall and pelvic floor, says Evan Goldstein, DO, founder of Bespoke Surgical. By having butt sex, you can pleasure your vagina from indirect contact, he says. Not to mention, your anal opening and the inside of your butt are erogenous zones in and of themselves. Even if you don’t get off from anal play alone, the anus is a part of the body riddled with nerve endings that, when stimulated properly, can provide an array of sensual delights.

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Annabee: So I stumbled upon your blog. it has opening me up to a new world. When I was preteen-teen I touch my clit and it felt kinda good. but once I was 16 it started feeling awkward. so never really masturbated that much. when I did with my clit it just felt weird in a way that made me not want to touch myself. almost depressed so I just didn’t masturbate that much and I really only did cuz I thought it was weird that all my friends were talking about how great it felt and I was the complete opposite I thought I was weird. fast forward to now I’m 30 and happy to say a vaginal Virgin I just found your blog and I thought I’d give anal a try so I bought a toy and some warming lube. I’ve tried a few times but haven’t been able to orgasm yet. One thing I do love seeing and doing is ride my dildo and watch my close pussy in the mirror but Just thought I would share my story and also see if you had any suggestions to help me orgasm from just anal.

Thanks for sharing, and I’m glad that you have found the blog helpful and inspirational.

Regarding anal only orgasms, you can try some of the tips in this article on the subject. It can take some time for some people to get to the point where anal orgasms are easy, but it’s well worth it once you get there. Some also find it easier with a partner but more difficult when just masturbating.

If you don’t like clitoral stimulation, you may not prefer to go down this path, but some like or prefer combining clitoral stimulation with anal penetration.

Good luck! The more you explore anal, the more you’re going to love it.

As the anal only community has grown and more people have talked about their experiences, more people—especially men, but also a number of women—have spoken up about the fact that they had a natural attraction to and preference for anal sex over vaginal. In many cases, when growing up, they’ve found themselves attracted to asses and anuses, rather than vaginas and vaginal sex, and in turn have found that this preference carried over to sex as well.

Among those who are still in the depths of ignorance and stigma surrounding anal sex, the idea of men having an aversion to vaginal sex and preferring anal is commonly derided as a sign that he is gay and doesn’t like women, but this is far from the truth—whether heterosexual or bisexual, a preference for anal is just that, and has nothing to do with liking or being attracted to women in general. On top of that, more women are speaking up about having such a preference to anal as well—many discovering that later, but some themselves figuring it out early on in their lives.

All this is a fairly clear sign of the increasingly obvious fact that for some, being anal only comes completely naturally and that anal sexuality and centrism is a normal and natural sexual preference on the level of a sexual orientation. For many others, it’s something discovered later in life, but fits their needs so perfectly once they do try it out.

Have you ever heard of anal fingering? It’s exactly what it sounds like — putting a finger (or several) into someone’s anus. And if you’re considering anal sex, anal fingering could be a logical first step. Even if you don’t want to move on to using a penis or dildo for anal, fingering can be erotic for anyone involved. Everyone’s anus has lots of nerve endings around the opening and inside that can feel good when they’re played with. But there are some ground rules you need to learn before you give it a try.

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I am just curious if others prefer anal over vaginal sex..I was diagnosed with having uterine fibroids which cause me to have bad cramps and pain everyday plus I am going through menopause so I have vaginal dryness..When we start foreplay I am fine but not long after I dry up so I much prefer anal cause it seems to feel better plus I can orgasm…I thought about using creams for the dryness but kinds concerned of the affects from the creams…Anyone else experience the same problem and prefer anal?

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A majority of the responses from other women are negative towards anal, with some even bringing up the same old myths of health risks from anal, but several women express their own enjoyment of anal or share that they similarly enjoy anal most and find vaginal uncomfortable or painful, or started out anal only.

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Anonymous: I am so happy this blog exists because for many years I felt like I was such a freak for thinking the things you and others post about on this blog.

I have never had vaginal sex with a girl, because it doesn’t interest me or appeal to me at all, and I never will. I’ve only ever fucked girls in the ass. It’s been hard, though, and lots of girls act like I’m some kind of freak for wanting this.

I truly think anal sex is the only way anyone should have sex, and that vaginal sex is not just inferior, it’s wrong and shouldn’t be done at all. There are so many reasons, it doesn’t feel as good, it isn’t intimate in the same way as anal, it totally ruins a woman’s arousal and mood, and it’s just so unappealing. Anal is natural, vaginal isn’t.

Even though it took a while, I have an anal only girlfriend who believes the same as me and is completely anal only like me. We’ve been together for about a year now and things couldn’t be better. We don’t use her pussy or clit at all and neither of us ever want to. So I’m really glad your blog helped me feel normal and like I could ask girls again about an anal only relationship.

Always remember there really isn’t any such thing as “normal” when it comes to sexual preference. Anal only may be less common, but it’s totally normal and there’s nothing at all wrong with it. All that matters is that you’re happy and that you find a partner who shares your interests and preferences.

I’m very happy to hear that you have found just that, and it sounds like you’re perfect for each other. Enjoy your anal only life together.

Though we haven’t promoted Anal Only August here for a while (which might change, given its popularity elsewhere!) there have definitely been other people practicing it this year. For those who missed it, fear not—there’s still No Pussy November later this year—but for anyone who did give Anal Only August a try, let us know how things went for you!