A question people sometimes have is why anyone would want to go anal only and fully exclude vaginal sex, when they could have the “best of both worlds” and do both vaginal and anal. While it may seem counterintuitive at first, there really are advantages to fully replacing vaginal with anal.

Pleasure and Arousal are Amplified With Anal Only

While it’s certainly possible to enjoy anal in combination with vaginal, and many people have and enjoy both regularly, the pleasures of anal get even better when making it the primary or only way you have sex, because you’re focusing entirely on it and mastering it as your source of pleasure. When you switch frequently between both, your body has to adapt to both forms of pleasurable input and you can miss out on the full potential of pleasure. People who go anal only find that anal just gets increasingly pleasurable over time the more they focus exclusively on it.

Additionally, anal leads to the greatest levels of arousal for most women, and going anal only further amplifies that arousal. Because vaginal and clitoral stimulation is often an easier outlet (but not a stronger outlet) for pleasure, it tends to effectively short circuit the anal pleasure pathways and get people to orgasm before anal can do the same, at least in people who are more used to non-anal orgasms. That, combined with the fact that anal orgasms generally don’t have the same arousal suppressing after-effects that other orgasms can, means that focusing just on anal pleasure and orgasms almost always results in significantly increased arousal.

The Benefits of Anal Birth Control Are Lost With Vaginal

Those who choose to use anal sex as their primary form of birth control have very positive results with significantly reduced risk of pregnancy compared to vaginal sex without supplemental hormonal or barrier forms of birth control. Many women have serious side effects from hormonal birth control and the idea of being able to have sex without worrying about pregnancy and without those negative effects is highly appealing and can be a major factor in going anal only for some women.

However, if vaginal is still in the mix, that benefit is lost and one has to still use other forms of birth control in order to safely avoid risk of pregnancy.

I got my ass fucked for the first time recently and I loved it. The only thing is I can’t help but rub my clit because it feels so good. Then my clit cums and my ass cums and I’m spent. It’s such an intense orgasm I have to call it quits.

I want to try anal only but I’m worried I’m going to have such a hard time ignoring my pussy. My boyfriend loves it when I rub my clit because it makes me squeeze his dick since it feels so good.

My pussy also gets super wet when he’s fucking my ass it just starts throbbing and I can’t ignore it.

I also don’t know about how my boyfriend would feel about going anal only. He loves my pussy and always tells me how incredible it is. Loves how convenient it is where he can just quick fuck me and go on with his day without feeling like he needs to shower. I also feel like I need to shower after anal as opposed to just having a wet pussy for the rest of the day.

Another thing is he has a thick cock and I can already feel my asshole getting stretched and little bit looser after he’s just been pounding away at it recently. My plugs just slide in now and my asshole opens almost immediately when he pushes his cock in.

What should I do

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Hi, I’m Julieta, I’m 23 years old and I live in Uruguay, South America. I feel enthusiasm and curiosity about the anal only lifestyle, I decided to only have anal sex for a month, even though I have been a week. 

I will tell you my story.
When I started my puberty and start to explore my body, I touched my vagina but I was afraid to penetrate it and I tried it with my ass, when I was 14 years old I had a boyfriend and I did anal sex with him, not vaginal I was not sure if I lost my vaginal virginity. So my first time was anal months before my first vaginal time. 

So from the beginning I had a predisposition for anal sex but I always did vaginal sex more than anal even though I always had both 

now I don’t have a boyfriend I am free and I have casual sex or with friends, recently a friend imposed me to have anal sex more frequently, and that awake the anal aroused in me, I have even realized that I like it more than vaginal sex OMG, anal sex is more exciting.

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I’ve let my husband control all our sexual activities and have been happily free use for him since we married almost 10 years ago. I love how beautiful it makes me feel when he touches every part of me, even the places I used to think of as dirty. He introduced me to anal sex early on, and it has gradually become more frequent, but he used to usually bring me to orgasm using my clit afterwards, partly as a reward and partly as a way to help me tighten my asshole back up and keep some of his cum inside me without needing a plug.

At the beginning of last month he told me I was ready to stop relying on my clit and that he would be taking a break from my pussy. We haven’t had anything but anal since then, which has never given me an orgasm. He reminds me how strong I am and he tells me how much he loves to see me learning to relax and not being lazy to rely on orgasms to find my muscles. He has been sliding a finger up my ass and having me tighten up after sex so that I can keep most of his cum inside me. He told me today that he intends to remain anal only and it feels a bit daunting but I’ve always trusted his guidance and he’s never made me anything but ecstatic to have such a loving and nurturing husband who pushes my sexual boundaries.

For the most part I love it and I’m not entirely sure why. I’ve always loved making him happy and he seems very proud of me for going so long without orgasm. He has always helped me learn to love the ways he wants to touch me and maybe I will learn this way too. It still feels more uncomfortable than it is pleasurable, but I’m getting used to it and figuring out how to relax faster every time. The other night when I was on my period he didn’t even have to remove my tampon, he told me how nice it was to not have to make a mess and he was right. I’m hoping I learn to really enjoy it even if I don’t learn how to orgasm from it.

I had no idea there was an entire community dedicated to people who felt this way and I’m excited to have so much to read up on and learn about. Thank you for sharing your stories, I’ve begun reading some of the success stories and they make me feel all warm and fuzzy. If anyone happens to be in a similar situation and cares to share any words of support or encouragement, tips and tricks, or maybe even pitfalls to avoid, it would be appreciated. I’m looking forward to being a regular poster when I have updates.

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In order to more directly respond to various parts of this message, it has been broken up into several chunks with replies in between.

Laura: Hello, I’m Laura, the wife getting into anal only for her husband – you’ve kindly answered my questions the 17th of December. I replied to you, but I’m not sure you got my message. I wanted to give feedback and ask some more questions.

I appreciate your advice to talk openly with my husband, but I don’t want him to know the only reason I’m getting into this is because I was frustrated and spied on his browser history, discovering vaginal and clitoral sex “disgusted” him. So far, he thinks the shift to anal only comes from me genuinely wanting to get into it, and it makes him feel extremely good according to what he posts online on dedicated boards (I spied more on him) and according to his general behavior. I don’t want to spoil it.

I admit I first tried this because I felt trapped (married, two kids) and upset he was “disgusted” by vaginal and clitoral sex, it was initially a simple effort to save my marriage, but I’m enjoying this more than I thought I would. I liked anal sex as soon as he introduced me to it, but anal only is something else.

When you answered me, we were actually already doing anal for three to four times a week, without me being sore. I followed your advice to get him off from blowjobs when anal started to get uncomfortable, but in just two weeks like you said, he could take my ass whenever he wanted without me being sore. Now he fucks it about every day on average (more on weekends, less during the week), and I feel fine despite him being quite large.

I’m glad to hear that you’re adjusting to it easily and finding that you can have anal sex daily without an issue. Maintaining that routine will just get easier and better for you as you continue.

I bought a toy like you said, a dildo about the size of my husband to practise. I hid it in the bathroom, and every time I have to empty myself, I rinse my ass with water (not too much) to be clean, then I use the dildo to help push the remaining water and learn to get pleasure just from anal. I stopped clitoral stimulation like you recommended and like my husband wants. Is it normal that the frustration feels sort of good and makes me enjoy anal more (both during sex and masturbating)?

It’s quite common for women to enjoy the frustrating of ongoing arousal even if they don’t ultimately orgasm. Some women prefer not to orgasm at all, as maintaining that constant arousal leads to more positive sexual interaction and a healthier sex life, and it can just be more fun. Others do want to orgasm but like to find ways of orgasm that don’t impact that buildup of arousal so much, like anal orgasms do.

So far, I can’t orgasm from anal at all, but I do get a lot of pleasure. I stopped birth control, and I feel a bit different, I don’t know if it’s related to the pill or if it comes from anal sex.

Likely a bit of both. Hormonal birth control does impact people pretty hard, and it’s common to feel different and better without it, but going anal only also has positive impacts of its own, so it’s probable that you’re enjoying the benefits of both.

Has it, therefore, been several months since you last orgasmed? The arousal must really be building in you. Are you able to manage or do you find it hard to resist? If you want to persist in avoiding clitoral stimulation entirely, really keep focusing on the anal sex and play and doing it as often as you can. It can take months to get to anal orgasm for some women, and while some do find that they can’t ever quite get there, they end up enjoying not orgasming even more and the pleasure of anal on its own makes up for it for them.

Like I said, I spied more on what my husband says online, and it turns me on to read his fantasies then do it like it’s my own idea. His “I can’t believe my luck” face every time I do something he talks about online makes me feel incredibly good. So far, this adventure really got us closer together and really changed the way I look on sex. Sex now feels as hot as when we started our relationship (a bit better, actually), and our couple works better too, with less tension. My husband seems more confident and a lot happier.

That’s wonderful to hear, and I think you’ll find it just keeps getting better. Some people use anal only as a spark to revitalize their sex life, but often, if you stick with it, it’s not like vaginal where it’s fun at first and then becomes less so down the road—anal only stays exciting and keeps getting better.

I have a question about ass to mouth, which is apparently a big fantasy of his: is it safe? From what I understand, since it’s my own body, as long as I’m clean it’s OK (like I said, I rinse a lot, so I’m always clean)?

Yes, it’s safe to do ass to mouth, especially from your own ass and if you’re visually clean. Many, many people do it without issue regularly, and given the popularity of rimming, it’s likely that even with other people if everyone’s healthy and clean, it’s rarely an issue.

I grew up in a very liberal household, and it would not be uncommon for my mother in particular to openly talk to me about sex, body functions, puberty etc. She didn’t give me “the” big talk, but instead, first explained to me where babies came from when I was in first grade (or maybe a little younger) when I started to be curious. It never was a topic to be ashamed of afterwards (it hadn’t been before either, I just hadn’t been too interested), so many more little “talks” followed when I would have questions.

Anal sex was a very normal part of these conversations, since she presented it as something completely normal. I remember her explaining that some woman prefer vaginal sex, while others prefer to use their anus. I couldn’t really imagine having anything, let alone a penis, in either of these holes… But then again, we all change when hormones kick in, don’t we?

When I started to make my own sexual experiences, I quite liked vaginal sex after a very short while, so I didn’t really think of trying anal. Plus, let’s be honest, you don’t really want to copy your mother as a teenager.

It took me until my time as a university student that I first tried anal masturbation. I grew into it more and more, though sadly, the guys I was dating back then weren’t too interested in anal – something that still fascinates me, given how, when you read online, it seems like almost every guy’s biggest dream is to take his girl’s ass. Anyway, since there was nothing wrong with vaginal sex, I didn’t complain too much.

All that changed when I met my now husband. He had always loved anal sex. In fact, he loved (and loves) it a lot more than vaginal. That came to me as a surprise though. The very first time we had sex, he wanted to do doggy. I was thinking well, it’s not the most intimate, but it’s a fun position, so why not. So I turn around and he gets behind me. To my surprise, he straight went for my ass. He had a condom brand with a lot of lube and went slow, so it wasn’t too big of a problem that I hadn’t been wearing a plug or something, especially since I regularly masturbated anally.

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Anonymous: I’m a dominant heteroflexible cis woman. I love anal and am intrigued by the benefits of anal only and clit denial described in your blog. I see space for me to partake in this with my sexual preferences and proclivities. I’m hoping you can offer suggestions or advice on switching over to AO? I have never cum without my clit before and only recently have been able to without a vibrator. I’ve read your guides as well, very helpful!

Thank you!

I don’t see any reason why not! There’s nothing inherently dominant or submissive about anal sex or about being anal only, it can be what we make of it and how we fit it into our existing sexuality. As someone who already loves anal, surely you would agree that it’s something you can enjoy as a dominant woman. Being anal only is just about focusing on that thing you already love and making it your priority with the exclusion of other, lesser forms of stimulation. It’s an opportunity to explore anal pleasure and learn to pursue greater forms of orgasm and learn how to do so by other means than what you’re already familiar with, taking you out of your comfort zone in order to grow.

I would generally suggest switching to anal penetration only first, without abruptly eliminating clitoral stimulation. Some people try it all at once together with positive results, but if clit stimulation is a strong habit and need for you, it may make it more challenging and unsustainable to do it all at once. So perhaps starting by only orgasming and using your clit when having anal sex, masturbating anally or wearing a butt plug, and eliminate vaginal penetration from your sexual routine in favor of anal penetration only.

Then, after a few months, if you find you’ve adjusted well to being anal only in that regard, start exploring the process of gradually reducing clitoral stimulation in favor of exploring anal pleasure on its own. There are a variety of ways to do this, from completely stopping and seeing how long you can go without it, to reducing clitoral stimulation to a twice a week activity for a week or two, then going to once a week, twice a month, once a month, etc., gradually building up the amount of time you can go without it and letting your arousal build in between in order to help with achieving pure anal only orgasms.

Good luck, and you’ve certainly got my encouragement to go anal only! It’s definitely something that anyone can enjoy and benefit from in the right circumstances, and if it’s something that interests you, you should definitely try it! If you have any other questions, don’t hesitate to ask.

As we enter February, Valentine’s Day is only two weeks away. If you and your partner love anal sex and your partner would consider or is eager to try going anal only, this is a great opportunity for a gift of pure anal pleasure and exploring the anal only lifestyle together.

Start thinking about it and making plans, and on February 14, surprise them with the gift of anal only! It’s common to start with a month long challenge and if that goes well, keep trying for even more from there.

Anal gets me very lustful, and hiding it makes me feel even hotter. I only talk about them online.

I like the idea of being the receiver of free-use anal. Available to anyone who just walks up and wants some, no refusal. Men approach me, play with my tits then take me somewhere private. No prepping, I just pull my skirt up and feel my asshole stretch and grip around an eager cock. All that moaning and noise just attracts more men to the scene, who then want some fun themselves.

I have to imagine being at the center of a hard, raw anal gangbang to get off. Something is just very primal about it. Feeling all those hungry eyes on me as I am displayed in high heels, then all those hands, mouths, and cocks “taking care of” me. Being the center of all that action really strokes the ego. Also, being surrounded by multiple guys would make me feel safe as well, like they’re all doting on me and for my pleasure, and of course I love pleasing multiple guys in return. I like it “hard” as in high energy and a lot of action, not slapping and namecalling (no BDSM please…). Get airtight and have all my holes filled up with cum. Swallow, ass to mouth. Be very receptive and uninhibited.

For something more animalistic, I am fisted anally by a man with many other men watching, then once the hand is pulled out and leaves a gape, everyone can take turns having fun with it.

Sorry if these are a bit gross, I cant even say these to a lover with a straight face. I think we all have something like that though?

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