For my wife who is currently pregnant 3 months so far it’s mainly to reduce stress and fear. We ran into a miscarriage on our first attempt at a baby and this time we actually have one with a strong heartbeat. Any signs of blood or pains that can potentially happen through vaginal sex while pregnant cause concern for her and places stress on both of us. In the times we tried vaginal sex she bled and spotted. While the spotting and pains are normal it’s made vaginal sex unenjoyable and not wanted by both of us. Sex has always been a normal aspect in our lives and to remove it caused additional frustrations.

My wife and I have had anal sex only a handful of times in our 7 years of being together but the times that we did we both enjoyed it. So to not remove sex out of our lives I asked if she would like to be AO more as a joke but with mild interest. She was a little hesitant at first but after a few days she wanted to give it a shot because of the lack of sexual intimacy in our lives. So we have been AO for over a month now and both much happier. While we still talk about vaginal sex it has shown that doing anal has been more pleasurable for both of us. Orgasms for her prior to AO has only happened by fingering or clitoral stimulation. We found out that orgasms are possible for her through anal and a more enjoyable experience since she gets off be my penis alone which is something she’s always wanted. The interest in anal has definitely shown by our increased sexual activity and anticipation for the next time we can do it again. Idk if it will be a lifelong commitment for AO but our sex lives as of now reflect that it’s definitely possible.

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Steven: I wrote to you last June about my girlfriend who was hesitating between having a vaginoplasty (and finally having a 100% female body) and keeping her current genitals (because I’m anal only and so is she, so she wouldn’t use her new vagina and clit anyway).

I was checking out your site to get to your porn blog (which I love) and I saw your encouragement to share stories, so I thought I’d give you some news.

Shortly after reading your answer last June, I realized my hesitation to give my opinion to my girl came from the fact I was “just” her boyfriend, so I didn’t feel entitled to have such influence on her body. Therefore, I took a big decision: I programmed a special day that’d be perfect for her, and in the evening, I told her that I couldn’t answer her question as her boyfriend but would as her husband. Then I kneeled, offered her a ring, and asked her for marriage.

I don’t think I ever saw someone happier in my life, which was quite flattering, I think we all underestimate the fear of MtF people to be “good enough” to be girlfriends but not wives. After some good time together, I finally told her what I told you: that I was anal only, wasn’t interested at all in what was on her front, and would rather have her stay the way she was, except if she could get a purely decorative pussy which would make more sense than a full vaginoplasty (it’d also be cheaper and less risky for her health).

She actually agreed with me, and we started to make researches to check out our options. To our surprise, it turns out our desire is a common one: apparently, 15% of sex change operations are vulvoplasty and not vaginoplasty, meaning the cock and balls are removed and replaced by a vulva, but there is no vaginal cavity whatsoever, meaning only anal and oral penetration are possible. Here are some links for people interested:

https://www.mtfsurgery.net/vulvoplasty.htm

https://www.issm.info/news/research-summaries/why-do-transgender-women-choose-vulvoplasty/

https://www.grsmontreal.com/en/surgeries/male-to-female/2-vaginoplasty-without-vaginal-cavity.html

Notice they openly mention among reasons for getting a vulvoplasty and not vaginoplasty: “not interested in receiving penetrative vaginal sex”, meaning vaginal penetration is losing appeal, especially among people used to anal sex. When it’s also cheaper and less risky, then it’s a no-brainer: why bother with a vagina?

We actually went to an appointment at a clinic doing such thing, and it went extremely well. We wanted a pussy with a “closed” look, looking like a virgin pussy which would contrast nicely with her obviously trained and well-used asshole, and they showed us pictures that look just perfect. It’s apparently a pretty simple and short procedure, with not too much time to heal. We also asked if it was possible NOT to create a clitoris: that didn’t seem to surprise the person we were talking to, she simply warned us that there was no going back, to which my fiancee replied that to her, a clitoris was simply a mini penis, and she wanted it entirely removed because she never used nor cared for it. It’s actually even cheaper!

To my surprise, I learned they can do this procedure to people who are 100% male (my fiancee is completely female and feminine, except for her junk).

The operation is actually planned, and we will marry each other right after that. My fiancee always dreamed of a stereotypical marriage, so we decided that after the operation, she would recover at her sister’s, and we wouldn’t see each other before marriage. It’ll be hard to wait a few weeks with no sex after being used to everyday anal sex, but that’ll make the moment and our honeymoon more intense and magical, especially discovering her new, entirely female body as husband and wife. Frankly, I get hard just thinking about it: a completely female and feminine wife with no vagina hole and no clitoris, with a purely decorative pussy like the ones you talk about in your porn blog, only able to receive anal and oral fucking for the rest of her life… that’s like she turned into a magical fairy or something. I feel so damn lucky.

Anyway, thanks for all your work and for your reply!

Thank you for following up, and congratulations on getting engaged and coming up with a mutually agreeable solution for everyone! It sounds like you’ve gotten it completely figured out, and it’s wonderful that she’ll be able to feel comfortable in her body while at the same time acknowledging that vaginal sex is something that neither of you are ever interested in having when you already have the perfect anal only life together.

Honestly, it makes the most sense and it’s good to see that vulvaplasty is becoming increasingly common. In time, I would hope that it becomes the norm rather than vaginaplasty for any transwoman interested in having a vulva rather than a penis, but uninterested in vaginal sex and wanting to stay anal only.

Good luck to the both of you, I hope you’ll continue to keep us updated on how things work out!

Hubby and I have a ‘free for use’ agreement. I’ll never refuse him and love being used as and when he desires. We don’t prep or pre-warn and I’ll always clean his cock with my mouth regardless of whether it’s clean or slightly funky. ATM is something I love so for me it’s a major turn on if he forces it straight down my throat after having been in my arsehole. Sometimes he will fuck my arsehole and then just before he’s about to cum change holes and cum down my throat. His motto is that cum is never meant to be wasted and belongs in my guts through one hole or another.

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Hello to all the many readers of this blog—for the past 3 months, we’ve been consistently around 600 people visiting the blog each day, and I’m grateful to all of you for being interested in checking in regularly and viewing the content I write, respond to, and curate multiple times a week. This blog is a labor of love, and it’s been active since early 2013.

While we do get messages and comments from readers from time to time, there are clearly many of you out there who are not reaching out as you read the blog. But I’d like to see that change—I’d like to hear from all of you about your anal and AO stories, experiences, dreams, goals, concerns, and questions. Don’t be shy—send a message! It can be anonymous if you want.

Consistently, readers of this blog have said that hearing other people’s experiences is the most interesting content here and what they want to hear most, so don’t think that your story is uninteresting—it’s a real life experience, and that’s what we all want to hear. People who are curious about going anal only but haven’t done so yet want to hear from other people who have about what it’s like, and those experiences are more often than not what get them to try it too.

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Carl R: PIV sex became sore for my wife just as we left our 40s. I really learned to pleasure her with oral and finger insertion but not with PIV sex, it trailed off. As we became adventurous I gave up any forms of masturbation as I said goodbye to PIV sex. Since she can’t orgasm with her vagina, I felt it right and a little kinky to end normal orgasms with my penis. My wife gives me regular anal stimulation, gently, for my pleasure and that eventually leads to an orgasm. We started with a plug that she still uses, and she also has a thin expensive vibrator that I love. I’ve also used it in her anus. Since we got this raunchy, and I made a self-vow not to stimulate my penis or have my wife do it, we purchased an expensive chastity appliance for those times my flesh becomes weak, which usually happens it we haven’t been romantic. I assure you this is no Mistress and slave marriage either, though obviously the opportunities for role play given the circumstances are endless. It has been no PIV in nearly 10 years.

Sounds like an interesting arrangement, and if it works for the two of you that’s wonderful. Do you also have anal sex with each other, or does not using your penis involve not penetrating her anally with it either? Many women can orgasm from anal sex, so having anal together in that way might be another way to be anal only together.

This message was originally posted to the Anal Only Bdsmlr blog, and is being cross-posted here.

Anonymous: Thank you for your blog. If it weren’t for the tumblr and reddit anal only pages I would never think about AO. It pretty much saved my marriage  after being a mother. It made me have regular sex again with my husband. Thank you

I’m glad to be of help and to have a role in inspiring you to go anal only! Stories like your own are not that uncommon—many women or their partners find vaginal sex unenjoyable after giving birth, and anal provides a much more enjoyable alternative that allows the intimacy, bonding, and pleasure of sex again, without ever having to bother with vaginal again.

For those who have not had children, however, I recommend getting started with anal and AO even before then, and shifting your perspective so that vaginal is only something for getting pregnant, and anal is for pleasure and fun.