Because the anal only lifestyle has so much variation and different motivations for practicing it, there can at times be some conflicts and strong differences of opinion when it comes to various aspects of the practices.

A major difference is in how people approach it as simply another kink versus a full time lifestyle and almost at some levels a sexual orientation. While this may not seem conflicting at first glance, it can lead to vastly differing results.

Anal Only as a Kink

For some who come into anal only from the approach of a BDSM practice or kink, it can seem like one of many different kinks to explore, and not necessarily a long term foundation of their sexuality. They might try a month of anal only here or there but avoid long term commitments to staging anal only and ending all vaginal sex. When it’s just a kink, the idea might be fun or exciting and something they want to do, but it isn’t a part of their core identity and they aren’t making long term commitments to it.

The level of interest in anal only with someone approaching it as a kink will also be highly dependent on one’s partner, and many women will choose to let their partner dictate whether they are anal only or if they do vaginal as well, preferring to please them rather than expressing their own preferences. This action also treats anal only as just another kink that could but doesn’t have to be explored together.

All told, this does expose more people to the idea of anal only and many very much enjoy it, but it minimizes the idea of it being a long term or life commitment and the benefits that come along with that.

Anal Only as a Lifestyle

Those who approach anal only as a lifestyle have chosen to make a commitment to the idea of excluding vaginal sex completely and replacing it with anal sex for good. That commitment centers their sexuality on anal sex and grounds them in their new lifestyle.

The commitment itself becomes part of the appeal for many, with pride in how far one has come and establishing a long term streak of no vaginal sex building the desire to not stop being anal only during times of weakness where one might feel lazy or an urge to have vaginal sex again. The longer you stay anal only, the less common those urges become, but also the more you want to keep the anal only streak going.

The adoption of an anal only lifestyle can also in some ways be interpreted as a different sexuality, not in the sense of attraction to gender, but in attraction to sexual activity. Anal only people are sometimes also identified as “analsexual” or “sodosexual”.

Some people adopt the anal only lifestyle, discovering and embracing it later in life after having vaginal sex or a combination of both previously, but others are always anal centric and even if they haven’t always been able to practice it, have a strong natural preference for anal sex and may even actively dislike vaginal sex. This could be seen as an innate tendency towards the anal only lifestyle which can be easily embraced with the decision to commit to avoiding or ending vaginal sex.

What approach to anal only do you see yourself part of, and if you’ve always seen it as more of a kink, does the idea of approaching it more as a long term lifestyle have any appeal to you?

Hi guys, I just recently discovered this website and oh! boy, was I happy when I stumbled upon this community of anal sex enthusiasts like myself because to be honest I struggled with understanding my sexuality for years, I don’t know how or why but I just really enjoy heterosexual anal, contrary to people’s perceptions that anal is dirty and disgusting, its not the same for me at all, nothing disgusts or repulses me about the anus, I would happily lick and do stuff to my girl’s anus, If anything it’s the vagina that repluses me, I don’t ever get off to vagina porn and it took me a lot of brain training to start getting hard when fucking the vagina, I once dated a woman that was always pissed off because I couldn’t keep a hard on for long when fucking her pussy.

For a while I thought how did I get here and the thought really did a number on me as it always affected many of my relationships growing up, the vagina doesn’t turn me on at all, oral and PIV included, it was always a struggle to convince a woman to let me fuck her in the ass because I would be scared of being judged or worse, seen as a freak of nature. My AO journey started in 2012, I met a virgin girl and we were really in love at the time, she was very religious and was keen on staying a virgin till she got married so I managed to convince her into trying anal and my oh my it was an amazing 6 AO years with her, it didn’t start off great but it eventually did, we learned and anally evolved together, I fucked her ass so much back then because she lived nearby and we always saw each other a lot, I would lube her up, finger and shove toys into her ass, I loved seeing her gape open everytime, she was such a submissive girlfriend and I never took that for granted.

Fast forward, life happened and she started feeling like she was ready to lose her vagina virginity, according to her she said she never really liked anal sex and she was only doing it to preserve her virginity and because she didn’t want to get pregnant, I told her that couldn’t work for me because I want AO and well that amazing chapter ended in my life. Im a 26 year old man now and I have been into anal sex for exactly 8 years now. My journey has been somewhat amazing and rough along the edges. I’ve had a fair amount of anal with some women since then and it never really lasted long. I finally met another woman this year who’s ready to go into a committed AO relationship with me but I’m just too scared I don’t push her away with my sexual habits. I fear me doing things like ASS Gaping her might push her away but I can’t stop myself. I love myself a wide open ass man

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Anonymous: I really want to thank you for No Pussy November. Because of it after seeing it advertised on Twitter I was inspired to try going anal only this past month and it’s really changed my life for the better!!

I struggled with vaginal since I started doing it when I was 16 and found anal when I was 17 and always enjoyed it a lot more but I never really thought about only doing anal and a lot of guys just assume vaginal and go for it so I went along with it, but when I saw No Pussy November and read about it and started reading about the Anal Only Lifestyle, it made so much sense and I was so excited to try.

This month I told the guys I hook up with that I wasn’t doing vaginal and was anal only and their reaction was actually really positive and excited and none of them bugged me for vaginal, I just had lots and lots of anal!! They seemed to enjoy it more and I know I did! I even started cumming more often because I wasn’t having vaginal half the time.

I already decided and told my guys that I’m not going to do vaginal anymore and am staying anal only, and they’re really supportive. One guy is kind of sad he won’t get to fuck my pussy anymore but I told him I’d make up for it and I don’t think he’ll really miss it. I sure won’t.

Thank you so much!! If you lived near me I’d thank you with my asshole, honestly!

Thanks for the message, and I’m very glad that trying No Pussy November was such a positive change for you and you’ll be sticking with it going forward.

I find that many women resist going anal only because they worry that guys will want vaginal and miss it, but the reality is that most women can easily say they’re anal only and take their pussy off the table and guys will be very happy with the arrangement and gladly ignore your pussy for anal and oral only. So, if you’re in that situation where you want to be anal only but fear how guys may react, give it a try for a month or two, and see for yourself. Most guys will be very, very pleased.

I wish you the best anal only life going forward!

I don’t know about you guys but I got to a point where if there’s no anal in a porn scene I’ll just close it.

I just have to see some true love going on.

How about you?

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The general consensus in the replies is agreement that only anal porn interests people, and many prefer porn without any vaginal in it.

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Over the years, as new members have joined the various aspects of the Anal Only Lifestyle community, a commonly repeated statement is that they had always been more attracted to anal sex and uninterested in vaginal, and felt unusual or afraid of being judged as a result. Despite the fact that this disinclination towards vaginal actually appears to be rather common, vaginal sex still carries the sense of normalcy for many, and disliking it to prefer anal can have a stigma attached to it.

Of course, because not many scientific studies have been made on this subject, we don’t have any reliable statistics to work with, only anecdotal stories—but, within this community at least, it is common enough to be significant. Until we can get more studies into anal sex and topics related to the anal only lifestyle, this is the best we can do!

Among men, this disinterest can manifest itself as being more attracted to women’s asses and anuses, finding vaginal penetration visually unappealing or looking wrong compared to anal, or finding the idea of vaginal gross. Unfortunately, the dismissive reaction many people have to hearing this is to conclude that such men are gay and secretly want to have sex with men, rather than that they simply prefer anal sex with women. Being gay, bi or straight is about what gender you’re attracted to, not what type of sexual activity you prefer.

Among women, it can come from experimenting with masturbating different ways and discovering anal feels better, wanting to stay a vaginal virgin and being disinterested in vaginal as a result, wanting to avoid pregnancy and developing a dislike of vaginal due to the risk of pregnancy that can come from it, or even finding vaginas and vaginal penetration gross and unsexy for a variety of reasons.

Regardless of gender, it’s something that a lot of people share and can relate to within this community, and it can be empowering to realize that you aren’t alone in those thoughts and that there are other people who share them and who you can be open with, both to discuss it and potentially giving hope of finding a compatible partner who has a similar view of vaginal sex and wants to be strictly anal only.

Last year, sexual-health experts named anal pleasure the next great frontier sexual exploration. And while it’s great that many folks are familiar with (or getting familiar with) tricks and toys to enjoy rimming, plugging, and pegging, that’s hardly the edge of what butt stuff has to offer. Enter: anal fingering, which involves using a finger (or two or five) to penetrate, thrust into, or apply pressure to the anus for the sake of pleasure. According to certified sex educator Alicia Sinclair, CEO of anal-play-product company B-Vibe, the anus is rich with nerve endings, and stimulating them can be pleasurable. (Some folks even have anal orgasms.)

As far as benefits from from trying anal fingering, the most obvious is that you already have the tools you need in order to get started, well, on hand. Furthermore, anal fingering is an incredibly intimate experience. “When one partner fingers another, both partners get to enjoy the tactile sensation and sensuous of that experience,” says Sinclair—and the same isn’t necessarily true when a dildo, string of anal beads, or dildo is used. Now for the fun part: The anal fingering guide you need in order to start enjoying.

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In response to a question about anal looseness from going anal only:

My wife and I have been having anal sex for nearly 30 years, anal only for the past 14. Until recently she has had no issues whatsoever. Recently, she felt like she was too loose when really into it. In all honesty, I didn’t notice a difference. Performing ass to mouth when this happened seemed to help, as it removed some lubricant and allowed her ass a minute to reset, but she didn’t feel like it made enough of a difference. So, she began wearing a small glass plug with a very gradual taper for a couple hours a day. This, coupled with silicone lubricant, required her to squeeze it to keep it from coming out while going about her activities. Within a couple of weeks, we noticed a real difference. She didn’t feel she was too loose, and I felt like she had more control to squeeze me (she never felt loose to me anyway). When we really noticed it was when she orgasmed, her sphincter would squeeze and release and squeeze and release me.

So, as a couple who have probably had anal sex approaching 8000 times, from my best estimation, I can say it probably isn’t a concern. However, if it should occur, a little “light exercise” will tighten things back up again in no time.

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After a solid month of anal only and double anal fun for the many people who took part this year, No Pussy November 2020 has reached its end. Thank you to all who participated, it’s been great talking with and hearing from all of you, and I hope that everyone who took part will be continuing to stay anal only going forward.

No Pussy November serves as an introductory month to challenge yourself to try the anal only lifestyle for at least 30 days, but the intent is not to go back to vaginal afterwards—it’s to see how much better anal only can be for you, and to stay anal only if you enjoyed your time during the first month. So, if you did enjoy it, seriously consider staying anal only.

Similarly, if you did not have a chance to participate in No Pussy November this time around, don’t worry—it’s a fun group challenge, but it’s far from the only chance to go anal only. You can do that any time of the year, following the same general principles of No Pussy November, spending at least a month if not longer for your initial commitment to trying anal only, working out any issues during that time, and sticking with it long term if it went well during the trial.

Finally, don’t forget to continue sharing your stories and progress, how No Pussy November went for you, and whether you’re going to be continuing with anal only, double anal only, clit denial, or any other challenges you gave yourself this past month.