Edson: Hello, I am a 25-year-old man and my girlfriend is 23 years old, we have been in a relationship for 2 years and we both have something in common that is why we get closer: we both do not want to have children, we both want to have a comfortable life without children and economically stable. She has many friends and several have become pregnant at such an early age and some with boys who do not want to start a family. I always liked anal sex a lot and I always had the fantasy of having a relationship only anal but I did not know if my girlfriend would like that. She and I for the first 6 months of our relationship she sucked my dick and we had vaginal sex until one day her menstrual period was late in coming and she was scared of being pregnant and what would happen to her like her friends. I told her that I would support her and that I was not going to leave her but she was worried, obviously I would not leave her but I was still scared. The days went by and her period came and we were relieved that she did not get pregnant.

The days began to pass but she was distant with me she did not want to have sex. After several days she told me that she did want to have sex with me but she did not want to go back to the same thing of being worried and that’s when I talked to her and told her that I will tell her something very personal and I told her my fantasy of anal sex and that I would like to have only anal and oral sex. She said that we could try it, I told her that I had never had anal sex with a girl and I was afraid to tell her why she could say no but i was really excited to do it.

She said she hadn’t had anal sex either.

The first day we started having anal sex, I put a lot of lubricant in her anus and put my fingers in her, she sucked my cock and when I was very excited I began to penetrate her anus until I ejaculated on her buttocks. I asked her what it was like and she told me that it was fine, gave me a kiss and went to bathe. We spent the next 3 days having anal sex and my girlfriend liked it more and more because she did it with more intensity and I love it because it is tighter for my penis and I love the visual. A week later she and I were in the cowgirl position with her riding on my penis with her anus and I ejaculated on her breasts.

And later when we were in the car because we were going to the bar with some of her friends, she told me, it seems that we both win with anal, you want me to suck your dick and bounce with my anus on your dick until you leave it full and I win that I can have sex without worrying about getting pregnant.

We have been like this for 18 months and we are both very happy.

That’s really wonderful, I’m so glad that the two of you realized the advantage of switching to anal only for natural birth control without needing the fear of pregnancy from vaginal sex. Anal is better in more ways than just that, of course, but the fact that it’s sex purely for pleasure without reproduction is why it should be the default way of having sex for everyone and vaginal only for getting pregnant.

At this point, a majority of porn and interest in porn is anal. Porn producers like AnalVids (formerly LegalPorno) have very popular series like their 0% Pussy category which focuses on exclusively anal and oral sex, and other studios have shifted to primarily or exclusively anal as well. More recently, the “Anal Only” studio has gained popularity and while they’ve occasionally included vaginal for reasons that are completely baffling, they have a huge following due to the prominent focus of vaginal abandonment and mostly anal only.

It’s time to move past vaginal sex in porn completely, recognize the great value that porn provides as an influence for people’s sexual behavior, and use that influence to help shift the world away from vaginal sex and to anal only in their own lives.

Anal Is Already Among the Most Popular Porn

When looking at popular porn categories, anal is almost always one of if not the most popular, and vaginal porn the least popular. This makes sense since people often seek porn as an alternative to what they’re getting, and most people who aren’t yet having anal sex are very interested in it and turned on by it. Very few people seek vaginal as a fantasy.

Data Shows Vaginal Gets Skipped

When looking at porn websites that track viewing statistics within the scenes themselves, scenes which contain both vaginal and anal and follow an outdated formula of oral –> vaginal –> anal have a high percentage of skipping over the vaginal portion to watch the anal directly. Why waste time and money filming an act people literally don’t want to see?

Porn Stars Prefer Anal

Talk to porn stars and the reality is that most of them prefer anal. It feels better, makes them feel sluttier and sexier, and their assholes are just more resilient and can handle more hard and deep fucking. Most can’t handle frequent vaginal sex but can easily spend the day doing double anal nonstop.

So, let’s put an end to vaginal sex in porn and start making what the world wants and needs: 100% anal only porn that goes straight to the butt.

Becky: Hi! Last year I messaged you asking about girls who had gone double anal only and how much the idea excited me. I really appreciated your response on how to go double anal only myself and I started training with dildos almost immediately. I started by going straight to my biggest dildo whenever I masturbated so I would stretch more, and then once I did that for a few days I tried putting two smaller and then medium size dildos in, and eventually ended up getting another big dildo because I wanted even more and started masturbating with two big ones (about the size of two large penises) almost every day for a couple months. I was loving it!

I started looking for guys who might be interested this on dating and hookup apps and kind of struck out for a while but then I found a guy who really loved gaping girls and big anal stretches and most importantly was really into anal only like me. I told him I wanted to go double anal only with two guys and he was really into the idea but didn’t know anyone else who would be a good fit in the arrangement. Still, we met up and we started having sex with one of my big dildos and him (also big) in my ass. Amazing! I loved it, and so did he, but I really wanted to go double anal only with two men still.

Well, my roommate is a bisexual man and one day when my boyfriend and I were having sex at home alone he walked in. I’ve talked a little bit about sex with him before and that I was anal only, and we shared appreciation for anal sex, but I didn’t tell him much more or pursue it because I thought it might be a bad idea to mix sex with a roommate. Now, he walked in and saw my boyfriend fucking my ass with a big dildo in there impossible to miss. Nothing happened, we stopped and he apologized for walking in and that was that.

But then a few days later he brought it up and apologized again but said that he didn’t know I loved anal quite that much and asked me about double anal and how I liked it. I told him about how I’d been craving double anal and double anal only for a long time and my boyfriend loved it too and we’d only ever had sex with both him and the dildo and how we really wanted to find another guy to do double anal only with full time. At this, he said that he was interested in that if we wanted to try. I didn’t know what to do at first because I didn’t want to complicate my living situation, but I told him I would talk to my boyfriend.

Obviously we ended up trying it and invited him to join us. Our first time together I gave them both blowjobs and then we got into a cowgirl position with me on top of my boyfriend and my roommate standing and penetrating my anus from above. It felt so good to have two real penises in me finally and I knew this was what I really wanted. I had been orgasming from double anal sex only for a while, but this was a particularly memorable time and I actually orgasmed twice in a row.

After, we all talked and decided to try being a three-way relationship together and it’s gone really well, my boyfriend has moved in as well and now we have sex together almost every day with both of them together in my ass and we’ve actually never done it with just one of them. I wanted to be very strict with double anal only and since I have both guys now we don’t even do it with one and the dildo anymore, just both men. It’s been over a year now since we first started together and we have no plans to stop.

I’m very happy and so are they and I want to thank you so much for inspiring me and helping me to do this! I really recommend it to everyone, anal only is amazing but double anal only is so much better.

Thank you so much for following up, it’s great to hear back from you and I’m so happy that it worked out and you’ve been able to do switch to double anal only! As I keep hearing from more double anal only women, it really seems like there’s a slow revolution forming as more people transition to anal only and those who like multiple partners and a bigger stretch are transitioning even further to double anal only. I love it and hope to see the double anal only lifestyle become increasingly mainstream and bring anal only along with it into total normalcy.

A woman asks:

My boyfriend said he likes anal with me more than normal intercourse. I know he likes my butt but did he mean that my pussy is too loose?

She gets some ignorant answers advocating for exercise to tighten her vagina, missing the point entirely that many men just prefer anal and don’t want vaginal whether it’s tight or not. Fortunately, one such man follows up:

As a fellow sodomite, some of us just prefer anal sex. For me, it’s about the dominance and how good it feels. Her vagina is nice and snug and I enjoy vaginal sex but anal is where it’s at for me.

It sounds like the conversation needs input from more anal only men and women.

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Jenny32: I have been doing anal only with my boyfriend for the past couple years and I found switching from vaginal to anal to be easy, it feels better and it turns us on more and I love that he can cum in me every day and I don’t have to be on birth control. It’s been wonderful! But I admit I am still really reliant on my clitoris and my boyfriend has told me that he’d like it if I could stop rubbing myself and be totally anal only. I’d like that too, but I am not sure how to do it because it is a lot harder for me to stop. Any advice?

I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been having a great time since going anal only, and I hope that you continue to enjoy it long term. It sounds like the perfect time to give up clit stimulation and commit to pure anal only going forward, which will further strengthen and deepen your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

First, remember that it’s a process and failure is often part of any process of learning or mastering something. If you go back to clit stimulation at some point, don’t give up, just start again with not using it.

Establishing a challenge to go a week without clit stimulation can be a good way to start, and ease into it without worrying longer term just yet. Once you make it a week, try extending it another week, then to a full month, and just keep going from there.

If you end up giving in to clit stimulation, try setting your next challenge to be longer than your previous success and keep building on your past experiences from there! Before you know it, you’ll be clit free for good.

You might also try numbing creams like Orajel on your clit, which temporarily remove sensation and can be applied before sex to aid in giving up touching yourself. Also check out the page on our Guide about clitoral denial, which covers this topic in more detail!

Good luck! I’m sure you can do this!

Are you someone who is very happily anal only and is looking for something more, a way to add to your lifestyle or routine? While there are plenty of options, one good thing that helps you amplify your own commitment to the lifestyle and can reignite a spark of enthusiasm as well is to open up to your friends about being anal only and encourage them to try it as well!

Sharing Anal Only Helps Solidify Your Own Commitment

One of the best way to master anything is to talk about it and teach it to others. By opening up about the anal only lifestyle with your friends, it can help you to form a deeper personal commitment to the lifestyle and ensure you stay anal only long-term. As you get more confident in your commitment, it can inspire you to explore additional aspects of the anal only lifestyle and adopt something else like full time butt-plug wear, clitoral denial, larger dildo play, fisting or double anal sex. There’s always more you can explore and have fun with in the anal only lifestyle, and the more you do, the more you can share with others as well!

Friends Can Become Friends With Benefits

Sometimes when opening up about a love for anal sex, friends with similar interests may want to start playing with you. Those who want to start enjoying anal, an anal only experience, or double anal sex may be interested in playing together with people who already have established partners or other single people. Couples who want to transition to anal only can benefit from sharing some experiences with you or you and your partner to see how to get started.

Sharing Forms a Circle of Support For You and Others

Going anal only can be harder at first for some people than for others, and by having a circle of friends who are anal only, it creates a support network where you can all help, encourage and make sure you all stay anal only and can benefit from the lifestyle long term rather than giving up before it gets great.

The More People Share, The More People Go Anal Only

There’s still a lot of misinformation and misunderstanding out there about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, and a lot of people are skeptical of some of the claims about it. Hearing from other people, especially those they already know and trust, that anal sex is actually very enjoyable and has numerous benefits over vaginal, can spark an interest that isn’t there from other people. If a friend reacts positively to stories of your own anal only experiences, talk about why and how they should give anal sex a try as well. If they already enjoy anal, encourage them to go anal only like you.

A major part of this blog is interaction with its visitors and readers, and while there is a large wealth of information already available for reading and learning from, I always encourage reaching out and asking questions or sharing your stories, or commenting on existing posts with additional information and context!

The more people send in content, the more we can stay actively posting on a regular schedule and helping everyone achieve the anal only lifestyle they deserve!

From a new blog chronicling the life of an anal only woman, Kitty Kaya:

Wow. Where do I even start? The prospect of sharing my life as an anal only girl with the world is incredibly exciting, but also a little overwhelming. There is just so much to talk about.

At great risk of all-too-predictable cliché, I guess I start at the beginning. At the time of writing, I have already made the commitment to being an anal only girl. My partner and I have always enjoyed anal sex. In fact, just a couple of months after we first met, he spent a week mercilessly fucking only my asshole whilst on holiday in Greece. Check out the pic above, taken during that week whilst I was tied up with my hole nicely plugged. It was heaven. Wake up late, inhale the fresh sea air, spend a few hours sunbathing by the pool, have my ass railed, and then fall asleep full of seafood and red wine. On repeat.

It really was bliss.

Unfortunately, it didn’t stay quite like that forever. Life happens, people are busy, and I must admit I bear responsibility for making access to my asshole a little less frequent. Whilst we still did a lot of anal, it wasn’t enough.

Fast forward until a month or two ago, and things changed. My partner (well, my Owner) decided enough was enough. Things had been slightly rocky, and he wanted to stamp his authority on me. He was going to make me become an anal only girl. The idea enthralled me. What does anal only even mean? What about my pussy? Why am I so aroused? . In another post I’m going to really dig into what it means, especially what it means to me, so please make sure to check back on my blog. For now, all I wish to say is that I didn’t take a huge amount of convincing. It’s very daunting, but I enjoy anal, and the crazy in me LOVES the mental aspect.

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Anonymous: just had to share a recent victory… I’m not AO but have been doing near-daily training over the past 5 months, sleeping plugged most nights, stretching my ass to take bigger and bigger toys, and my partner and I are having anal sex probably 80% of the time. I realized recently that I can now fit bigger toys in my ass than I can in my pussy – the largest toy I’m training with won’t even fit in my pussy. Thank you for being an inspiration – I’ve followed you for years, on tumblr and now here!

Congratulations, and thanks for sharing! If you’re anal mostly at this point, I’d encourage trying to go all in with anal only, at least for a month or two to start and see how things go from there. It sounds like you much prefer anal anyway, and committing to anal only can be the next great step for you!