Anonymous: Hi! I’ve been following this blog for a long time (I hope you’re still active!), and I’ve been anal only with my current and previous boyfriend for a few years now. I love it and so does my boyfriend, and I really like the idea of encouraging my friends to do it too! I’m not sure how to really bring it up, though, do you have any suggestions?

I’m glad being anal only has been such a positive experience for you that you want to share it with others! If your friends are more sexually open minded and you talk about sex on some level with them already, wait for one of those moments talking about your sex lives or what you like and bring up that you and your boyfriend are anal only and that you really love anal and prefer it to vaginal, and if they show any interest or curiosity encourage them to try it out as well. That’s probably the easiest approach!

I’ve been pretty inactive for a lot of life reasons but I have some awesome updates!

1) we’re married!! Yay!! So happy to finally be a Wife.

2) I’ve graduated! Also yay!! I do have a job for now at an awesome company working a helpful role for a very traditional boss. He has been a wonderful mentor so far.

3) I was originally planning on losing my virginity when my wedding was consummated, but since we both want kids we did some fertility testing before the wedding. It turns out I’m unlikely to conceive from sex, and would need to do artificial insemination anyway. After some talking, my husband had decided I will stay anal only and a Virgin! 😱

4) my husband has decided we will pursue treatments and try to get me pregnant this year! we are doing lots of research on pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, working vs staying home to figure out what the best options are for me and my particular situation. I’m so lucky to have him.

I’m overwhelmed but excited by all the changes. It was a huge relief and turn-on to have my husband completely ignore my pussy on our wedding night; I’ve cum extremely sparingly the last year or so but I’m wet everyday.  I’ve never felt more happy and devoted. ☺️ 

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Although anal sex has been been a part of human sexuality since ancient times, couples exploring Tantric sex are not likely to find much information about anal sex and might conclude, therefore, that anal sex isn’t Tantric. However, that isn’t true. In fact, anal sex fits well within the Tantric tradition and facilitates several goals of Tantric sex.

For example, one of the key aspects of Tantra has been violating personal and cultural taboos. Though about one-third of heterosexual couples have tried anal sex, it is still a bit taboo. Tantric anal sex extends a couple’s sexual boundaries.

Tantric anal sex also fits in with the concept of complete union between partners. By having anal sex, a woman surrenders herself totally to her partner, allowing him access to all parts of her body.

Tantric anal sex can also facilitate kundalini arousal. Between the rectal wall and the tip of the tailbone, or coccyx, exists an irregular, oval-shaped gland called the “coccygeal body,” which Tantra considers the “Kundalini gland.” Anal sex can activate the gland by dilating the anal sphincters, causing a reflex effect upon the two branches of the autonomic nervous system, the parasympathetic (Ida) and the sympathetic (Pingala), which terminate in the anus and rectum. In addition to altering the state of the involuntary nervous system, anal intercourse results in the ejaculation of semen into the rectum, which, according to traditional belief, nourishes the Kundalini gland much the same way as the white of an egg nourishes the fertilized yolk.

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