For women drawn to the unique fullness, connection, and intensity of double anal sex (DAP), the desire can feel both thrilling and intimidating. Many have fantasized about it — the taboo, the closeness, the surrender — but don’t know how to begin, or how to even talk about it with a partner.

We are here to tell you: yes, it’s absolutely possible — and more than that, it can be empowering, deeply intimate, and even life-changing. Whether you’ve already embraced the anal only lifestyle or are simply curious, double anal is a natural next step for those ready to go deeper — both physically and spiritually.

The Appeal of Double Anal

So why are more women openly embracing double anal?

• Intense fullness: Double anal offers an incomparable physical sensation — the stretch, the pressure, the depth.
• Erotic surrender: It requires trust, relaxation, and letting go — things that can deepen intimacy with your partner.
• Total commitment to anal only: For many, it’s the purest form of the lifestyle — a full rejection of vaginal sex and a full embrace of anal connection, where even multiple men share your ass rather than using your vagina.

And you don’t have to jump right into a two-man experience. You can start where you are — by yourself or with the man you trust most.

How to Introduce the Idea to Your Partner

If you’re craving double anal but aren’t sure how to bring it up, you’re not alone — even in open, trusting relationships, certain fantasies can feel intimidating to share. But the truth is, most partners want to know what turns you on — especially when you present it with excitement and clarity.

Here’s how to ease into the conversation:

1. Frame it as a shared adventure

Instead of saying, “I want double anal,” try:

“I’ve been fantasizing about something a little more intense… something we could explore together.”

This invites curiosity rather than pressure.

2. Share your why

Be honest about what excites you — whether it’s the fullness, the submission, the symbolism, or the idea of deepening your bond. If you already practice anal only together, this is a natural next step.

You might say:

“I’ve loved the intimacy we share with anal, and I’ve been wondering what it would feel like to take it even further — just you and me, plus a toy.”

3. Normalize it with facts or fantasy

Double anal might be taboo, but it’s also a common fantasy. You can reference erotic stories, videos, or even this blog. Let him know it’s not weird — it’s wildly hot.

If he’s nervous or surprised, let him process. Curiosity often grows once the seed is planted.

4. Start small and let him lead too

Make it clear that this isn’t about replacing or minimizing him — it’s about growing together. If he’s open, you can shop for a toy together, or plan a night to explore it gently.

Starting at Home: Your Partner + a Dildo

One of the easiest, most comfortable ways to begin exploring double anal is by using two dildos or by combining your partner’s penis with a toy to simulate DAP while you control the pace.

Tips for Getting Started:

1. Have an open conversation
   Let your partner know what you’re craving — not just physically, but emotionally. Emphasize your trust in them and your desire to explore this together.
2. Pick the right toy
   A realistic silicone dildo with a softer outside and rigid core is ideal for DAP. It simulates the natural give of a real second penis and can be much easier than a fully rigid toy.
3. Prep matters
   DAP requires more preparation than solo anal. Spend extra time on warm-up (with plugs or fingers) and plenty of lube. Even if you can do single anal without much lube, you’ll need more for double anal.
4. Positioning is everything
   Experiment with different positions, as some might be easier to start with than others. Doggy style with your partner behind you and the toy inserted first is often a great way to start. Or have him enter first, and then slowly guide the toy in. Cowgirl positions (with you on top) allow you the most control, but may be harder to insert the dildo at first.
5. Breathe, relax, and listen to your body
   It’s okay to take breaks, laugh, adjust, and try again. You’re creating a new shared experience — don’t rush perfection.

Moving Toward True DAP: Opening the Door to a Second Partner

Once you’ve experienced the sensation and intimacy of simulated DAP, it’s natural to consider expanding into a two-man scenario. This is a personal decision, and should only be done with full consent, communication, and preparation.

Ask Yourself:

• Am I emotionally ready for a second man in this space?
• Is my partner open to this, or does he just want to stick with us and a dildo?
• Do I want this for the sensation, the submission, the symbolism — or all three?

You’re allowed to want it all. And you’re allowed to go at your own pace.

Some women arrange threesomes where their male partner remains fully involved — choosing the second man, setting the rules, and keeping the focus on you.

Others explore anonymous or semi-anonymous arrangements, often facilitated by trusted communities online.

Whatever your path, remember: your body, your boundaries, your rules.

Why Double Anal Only?

Choosing to go double anal only — as a commitment, a lifestyle, a sexual philosophy — takes things even further.

It’s more intense, moving beyond single anal penetration to commit to always have sex with two partners in your ass every time you have sex. It’s a total renunciation of vaginal sex in all its forms. It says, “My pleasure, my power, my path, all go through one place — and I’m proud of it.”

Women who’ve made this choice describe feeling:

• More focused and connected to their partners, and feeling the joy of pleasuring them both anally at the same time
• Freed from expectation — many women initially feel the need to stay anally tight, whereas double anal allows them to embrace loose gaping and still provide incredible pleasure
• Turned on by their own discipline and commitment — by first giving up vaginal sex and then giving up single anal, and staying committed to it, it creates a life of disciplined pleasure that just grows the more the commitment remains
• A life of increased pleasure — double anal is like anal, but even better, with more stimulation, more intense stretching, more pleasure, and far greater orgasms from two partners moving inside your ass.

It’s a bold stand. And one you can work toward, little by little, with each intimate experience. You don’t need to rush. You don’t need to be perfect. And you absolutely don’t need permission. If your body craves fullness, if your heart longs to give up the old norms, if your fantasies linger on two shafts pressing deep and filling you up completely — embrace it. Talk to your partner. Try it once. Try it again.

This is your journey to double anal only. Start it tonight.

Anonymous: I have recently become curious about anal play and find that with a little stimulation my rectum produces enough mucus that I don’t need lube. I can use toys or just my fingers. It is really hard to find anyone talking about this on the web.

Everyone has natural anal lubrication to some extent, to help with digestion. The body produces anal mucous in response to stimulus. It’s often not enough for everyone to anally masturbate or have sex with, but as you train your anus to be more relaxed and elastic, it can be enough lube for some people, or your body may produce more in response over time. Some people even report developing a response to arousal where their anus begins lubricating similar to the vagina.

If it’s enough lubrication for you, great. If not, you might want to start out with a little bit of lube at first and then let your body’s natural lubrication take over, or supplement with more lube as you go larger in size if you find yourself feeling irritation from the more intense stimulation. Listen to your body and it will tell you if you need more lube than your body provides.

In a world addicted to excess, the anal only lifestyle offers a radical return to discipline, intention, and erotic clarity. For some, it starts as a preference — but for most, it becomes something far more: a calling. A shedding of the old, a conscious rejection of vaginal sex, and a path to sexual minimalism that frees the mind, body, and spirit.

Welcome to the practice of Anal Asceticism.

What Is Anal Asceticism?

Anal Asceticism is the spiritual and philosophical extension of the anal only lifestyle. It draws on the idea that less can be more — that by abstaining from vaginal sex and other distractions, we open space for a deeper, more intentional sexual experience. It is both erotic and ascetic, grounded and transcendent.

It’s not just about what we do with our bodies — it’s about why, how, and for whom.

The Core Principles

Discipline Over Indulgence

At its heart, Anal Asceticism is about choice. Not repression, but redirection. Vaginal sex may be available, even encouraged by culture — but we consciously say no. Not because we lack options, but because we’ve found a better one.

This is a lifestyle of mastery: mastery over impulse, distraction, and cultural expectation.

Sacred Sexual Simplicity

Vaginal sex often brings with it assumptions, scripts, and power structures we didn’t write. By limiting our erotic lives to anal intimacy, we shed those defaults. We reclaim the act — whether alone or with others — as intentional, meaningful, and deeply personal.

It’s not less — it’s pure.

Clean Living

Let’s be honest: Anal sex requires preparation. Attention to hygiene, consent, trust. There’s no autopilot. Anal Ascetics embrace this. We slow down. We clean up. We clear out distractions — literally and metaphorically.

This is not messy living. It’s clean freedom.

What the Practice Looks Like

Anal Asceticism can take many forms, depending on where you are in your journey:

• For the Partnered: It means rejecting vaginal-centric scripts and reimagining intimacy as something sacred and precise. Each session becomes a ceremony.
• For the Single: It means exploring anal eroticism without needing others — from butt plug wear and more advanced anal masturbation to double anal dildo play and mindful fantasy. It’s about commitment to the self.
• For the Curious: It means beginning the transition by reframing your sexual choices as a lifestyle, not just a kink. Replace “normal” with “chosen.”

The Benefits

Mental Clarity

By removing distractions and cultural defaults, we gain sharpness. Less confusion. More intention. Sex is no longer a tangle of shoulds and scripts — it becomes simple, clear, true.

Emotional Depth

There is a deeper vulnerability and trust required in anal intimacy. Practicing only that form creates stronger bonds, better communication, and more conscious care.

Erotic Power

Anal Ascetics are not passive. We are choosing. With each rejection of vaginal normativity, we grow stronger — not just in our sexual lives, but in how we move through the world.

From Individual Practice to Global Movement

What would it look like if more people chose the anal only lifestyle?

What if culture began to normalize — even revere — this focused, intentional lifestyle?

Anal Asceticism isn’t just personal. It’s political. It’s spiritual. It’s transformative.

It’s the first step toward an anal only world.

If you’ve already gone anal only, try going deeper. Consider where you might still be influenced by old habits, expectations, or impulses. What does your anal discipline look like? How might you refine it?

And if you’re just starting out — welcome. There is peace and power on this path.

Live clean. Live free. Live anal only.

Elodie: I stumbled upon this forum and found the questions of my female predecessors. I feel encouraged in asking for an unbiased opinion from you. I hope you can offer some insight or advice. I’m 32, and married. No kids and not planning on any right now. I’ve got a question about my sex life and feelings.

For the last 7 years, I’ve been into anal only, and for the past 2 years, I’ve been exploring DAP with a toy (about half the time). I feel pretty proud of myself for being able to do this and really loving it. Is it wrong to feel this way?

Here’s where it gets complicated: During our intimate times, especially when we watch group sex porn movies, we joke about me being as good as the young girls in porn doing DAP. We also joke about trying it for real someday in some swinger club, sex parties or similar. The thing is, I really think I actually want to try it for real, but I don’t want to share my husband with other women.

Am I being selfish? Is it okay to feel this way? I’m not sure how to handle these feelings.

Also, I’ve been reading more and more about women liking DAP and group sex. It seems to be something that gets more attractive once we women get older. Is this true or just some internet hoax, and I’m one of the few ones?

That’s wonderful to hear that you’ve had committed to anal only the past seven years and have been enjoying double anal for the past two years. Half of the time you have sex spent on double anal is something to be proud of! It’s absolutely not wrong to feel that way, and you have my encouragement to be openly proud of it!

It’s also very normal to compare yourself to girls in porn when you’re doing so well with DAP, and to start wanting to do it more frequently or with multiple men to experience DAP “for real”. As for not wanting to share your husband with other woman, that can be a bit more complex—but have you talked to him about it? Maybe he’s happy to DAP you with other men and doesn’t want more than that. Ultimately it comes down to what you both want and compromising on things that may not be perfect. I definitely encourage taking the step of starting to have double anal sex with two men, as it’s a wonderful experience for everyone involved when done right!

It’s definitely becoming increasingly popular for women to explore DAP or enjoy it regularly. Some of this is women becoming older and more confident in what they want, some is DAP becoming more widely known and enjoyed thanks to porn and just more mainstream exposure to it. Either way, it’s a good thing, because DAP is wonderful and beautiful and should be enjoyed by everyone!

Have you considered going double anal only at some point in the future? That’s also an increasing trend and I encourage trying it if you love DAP!