Message: Am I OK to Explore DAP Further With Wife?
Peter: I’ve been married for 10 years, have a 7-year-old kid, and honestly, we’re happy with just the one—no plans for more. My wife is a stay-at-home mom, and she’s amazing. Our home life is solid, everything’s on point, and we’re having sex at least twice a week. So far, so good.
Here’s the thing: since she decided no more kids, she’s gotten really into anal. Like, she wants it only anal now. And honestly, she’s killing it—always trying to get better and pushing boundaries. For over a year, she’s been stepping up the game, going into double anal penetration with toys. She’s super proud of her progress, and honestly, so am I!
Now, here’s the key part: she’s let slip a couple of times on different occasions—usually when she’s a bit tipsy—that she’d love to try real-life double anal. That’s a pretty big deal for her. But the next day, once sober, she acts like she never said it and swears she’d never do that to me. She comes from a pretty religious family, so maybe that’s why she’s holding back or feeling conflicted.
So here’s where I’m stuck: she’s amazing to me and our kid, and I want to make her happy. Is it okay if I push to make this happen? Am I okay for wanting to fulfill her secret desires, even if she’s a little hesitant or unsure? Or am I reading too much into it?
So, am I okay? Am I okay that I am ready to let my wife have this experience not just with me, but with another man, to fulfill her fantasy and make her happy? Is it normal to want to help your wife live out her secret fantasies, even if she’s a bit scared or unsure? Is this a normal evolution for my wife?
Any advice? I’m all ears. Thanks!
It sounds like you two have a wonderful anal only life together and it’s wonderful that she wants to push it further. The fact that you already do double anal with toys is a clear indication that this is something she truly craves and wants, and since DAP with two men is even better than with just you and a toy, it makes sense she wants to feel that experience fully. Real double anal with two men is more than just a physical upgrade from a toy. It’s an emotional and sexual evolution — full commitment to anal only, total focus on her ass from two men, and the intensity of being claimed and shared anally. Many women who practice double anal with toys feel the need to be taken in full by two men — it becomes the next logical step. It’s not strange at all — it means she’s ready.
Instead of just bringing up her past comments, frame it around how much you love doing double anal with her already — and that you’d love to experience it for real with another man beside you. Let her know this isn’t just about her fantasy. It’s something you want too. That creates space for her to open up — no pressure, no guilt — just shared excitement and celebration. She’ll feel safe to say yes if she knows you’re already saying it first.
And who knows — maybe in time, she’ll be ready to go double anal only. It wouldn’t be a surprise. It would just be the next step.
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