Struggling With Anal Sex? Try Butt Plugs!
Here at the Anal Only Lifestyle, we believe that anal sex should always be pleasurable and pain-free (unless you’re specifically trying to achieve pain in a safe and consensual manner), but unfortunately a common complaint with those first exploring anal is that it hurts and even if it’s something they really want, it can be a challenge for people with little experience to get started without being turned off by painful experiences, past or present.
We have more information on working around this specific issue in the Anal Training section of our Guide to Anal Sex & the Anal Only Lifestyle, but this article will focus specifically on butt plugs and just how great they can be for this purpose.
A Matter of Training & Relaxation
Fundamentally, most people need some level of training and muscle control to relax their anal muscles and be able to open up easily for anal penetration. Warming up those muscles before having sex is an excellent way to help them relax during sex, and inserting a butt plug is a quick and easy way to achieve this.
At the most basic, wearing a butt plug for at least half an hour before having anal sex will help you warm up and be much more relaxed, making sex with a partner or a dildo easier to achieve painlessly.
But beyond that, if you’re really committed to having anal sex regularly and want to have the best experience, start wearing your plug regularly even at times when you aren’t about to have sex. Wear it during the day, during the night, and on days off, and the more you do so, the better and easier anal will become.
A Constant Companion
The more you wear a plug, the more it can help not only benefit your anal training but also amplify your arousal and reinforce your interest in anal sex or the anal only lifestyle. By going about your day with a butt plug inserted, it serves as a steady reminder of anal penetration and keeps you aroused and excited about having your ass filled with something else—whether that be a partner or a toy. It can be a motivating factor, and that excitement and arousal will also help you to relax further and make that subsequent penetration easier for you.
Passive Pleasure
Along the same lines as the above, that presence of a butt plug worn throughout the day provides a delightful sort of passive pleasure and enjoyment in addition to the training benefits you get from it. People wear plugs most often because they feel really good, and you’ll no doubt find the same result. Walking around, sitting down, riding a bicycle or driving, and just generally living your life while receiving constant, passive anal stimulation can be a very enjoyable thing.
What Types of Plugs are Best?
There are so many different butt plugs on the market today, thanks to the steadily growing interest in anal stimulation and sex, but not all are well-suited to the same purposes.
If your goal is training for anal intercourse, you really want to target the anal muscles, and while very slim-necked plugs will still provide some benefit through anal stimulation and arousal helping to relax the anal muscles, the best effect is going to be the result of using a plug with a bit of a thicker neck that helps keep your anal muscles open and relaxed for a longer period of time. Just as the other muscles in your body can be tight and more prone to pain in that state, anal muscles need to be stretched out before use so they’re warmed up and relaxed, and that’s where a thick-necked butt plug really comes into use.
If you want to wear a plug for longer periods of time, comfort is a top priority, and so finding one with a thin, ergonomic base that still serves its purpose of retaining its position comfortably, but without digging into your sensitive skin or causing discomfort. There are a lot of good options out there, and our Guide to Anal Toys offers some suggestions to try out.
Some might be a little skeptical about the idea that the anus, usually seen in a state of contraction, can actually relax and remain open.
When I was a teenager, I would sometimes lay on my back, pull back my knees, and observe my exposed anus in a mirror as I stroked my penis. After a while my anus would sometimes suddenly open up to form a perfect circle about one-inch in diameter–a mysterious black hole. Then, a little later, as I approached orgasm, the hole would abruptly close again and my anus would tightly over-contract many times while I ejaculated. (My various partners typically feel and enjoy these multiple contractions in their anal-captive penises when I ejaculate during anal sex.)
After studying the AO Anal Plug guide and some of the manufacturer websites, I found my old “silicon” prostate toy. It seemed to be formed from two halves–it had a slight ridge around the whole toy–and I wondered if it might irritate my rectal tissues. So I tried it anyway, and quickly remembered why it had gathered dust for several years, although I did get a few twinges in my prostate and penis. But after removing it, my whole interior rear end surely did feel strange. So I sat on the toilet for a while and then wiped, but nothing seemed amiss. I guess I activated some nerves in a new way.
When inserting my lubed middle finger alone, I can just reach the bottom of my prostate gland in a contortionist position with an awkwardly bent wrist supported by the other hand–both arms extended under my genitalia while I’m on head-and-knees. I guess it would make for a very surprising photo even if the viewer understood that I was trying to stick my finger into my rectum. But I may keep trying this. It seems like a good physical challenge! Maybe I’ll practice for awhile by just sticking my finger slightly into my anus to make it easier. I may try it on my back too.
I do intend to order a good-quality silicon anal plug with a 1.5″ bulb. I want to try wearing it for long periods and learn how the steady pressure affects my prostate, and I’ll probably learn a lot more.
After my initial introduction into the butt plugs I first discover that anal sex and play is joy but a little later something different and more special, I’m talking about the worm stress relieving effect of wearing a comfortable butt plug. First at home alone while relaxing or doing household chores and progressively in many other situations by my family and friends. My first steps plugged outdoors was shy but not for a long time …
Butt plugs are great! And anal sex is much more pleasant after my hubby bought an anal trainer kit on Amazon. He starts with the smallest plug and up the sizes until I am opened up and relaxed. Then he can slide in effortlessly and painlessly. Recommended! 😉
Sandra