Even though anal sex—or at least, talking about anal sex—has become significantly less taboo in the past decade, it still remains the big elephant in the bedroom, despite the world becoming a lot more comfortable with the derrière.

Butts have taken on an entirely new status (thanks, social media!)…and the good news is society has become more sex-positive overall (yay!). Still, actually having anal sex remains ~controversial~ among women, no matter how often it’s discussed.

“Unfortunately, there is still a tendency to stigmatize acts that might be considered ‘non-traditional’ for some people, due to lack of information,” explains Alexis Clarke, PhD, a licensed psychologist who specializes in sex and relationships.

Thing is, anal sex can oftentimes become the preferred method for women who don’t have vaginas, for those for whom vaginal penetration is especially painful, and for women who simply experience more pleasure that way, Clarke says.

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Bruce: My wife has abandoned vaginal sex as she now finds it hurts to fit my cock in there but finds anal is fine so when we fuck its now only in her ass is this a common problem as its usually the other way around

It’s surprisingly more common than people think, and anal is easier for a lot of women who experience discomfort or pain from vaginal. Going anal only is a common solution to this and makes perfect sense. Of course, with practice, going anal only can be a better experience for everyone—some are just naturally better suited to it without needing much practice.

As we enter the new year, hormonal birth control methods can still be difficult for people to obtain in many parts of the world, in addition to the wide variety of negative side effects they can cause for many women. Rather than relying on an artificial and potentially harmful method for birth control, why not go anal only instead?

All Natural

Anal sex is the original, all-natural method of birth control. You can have all the anal sex you want and you aren’t going to get pregnant from it unless you really try. Anal lets you have sex stress-free without any reproductive fears or baggage.

Pure Pleasure

Anal is sex for pleasure and intimacy alone, without anything to do with reproduction. It separates sex from reproduction and provides sexual freedom for women who don’t need to worry about pregnancy or taking birth control. Going anal only is the real sexual revolution.

An Uncertain World

In these trying times in the world where access to birth control is not always reliable or affordable, and abortion is at risk of being limited in various places, humanity needs a reliable outlet for non-procreative sex. Anal sex gives more pleasure, more intimacy, and more reliability of birth control.

What are you waiting for? Go anal only today!

As we bring in the new year, it’s time for new year’s resolutions. If you’re a follower of this blog and you aren’t yourselves actively anal only yet, this is the time to go for it! Why wait any longer when you can commit to the anal only lifestyle you really want. If you’re single or don’t have a partner who wants to do it yet, you can do it on your own or communicate your wants and needs with them. If you have a willing partner, take the time and effort to work together and get to where you’re anal only full time.

If you are already anal only, consider if there are any new anal goals you want to achieve—clit denial, full time plugging, stretching with larger toys, double anal, or even going double anal only—and make it happen!

Happy Anal Only New Year!

As anal sex continues to become more common and the anal only lifestyle more frequently adopted around the world, pornography for once is somewhat lagging behind rather than being a trendsetter.

This is not universally the case, of course: the anal focus can be found in many porn productions with vaginal sex either nonexistent or an afterthought at best, but even the latter should be eliminated until the vagina serves no role at all other than decorative in any porn whatsoever.

The reality is that people are influenced and inspired by porn and continuing to show occasional vaginal inspires people to keep having vaginal sex occasionally rather than committing to the purity of anal only and the benefits that come from doing so.

Stop including any sort of vaginal sexual activity. No more vaginal sex, no more double or triple penetration involving vaginal, no more vaginal dildoing or fingering, and no more clit stimulation. The time is now for porn, and all of us, to go purely anal only.

Anonymous: Hey, I really want to thank you for this blog. All my life I’ve had struggles with my identity and whether or not I was a real woman. I often thought of myself as different or maybe as a man and thought perhaps I was transgender, embracing that identity for a while. But the reality is that a lot of that confusion came out of being uninterested in vaginal sex and finding it a total turn off while I loved playing with my ass and then having anal sex.

After I found this blog and community I realized there are lots of women who prefer anal or who are anal only and that it doesn’t make them less of a woman and knowing that has helped me with my own identity and I am happy to say that I am proud to identify as an anal only woman now and will not use my vagina and that will not make me any less of a woman. Thank you.

I’m glad that my blog has helped you come to terms with your identity, and I hope that you find peace in embracing being an anal only woman. Whatever your gender identity, I think anal only can be enjoyed and embraced by and benefit everyone! Let’s move forward together without vaginal sex and be more equal as a result!

Anonymous: So, I’ve followed this site for a while. I’m a female. I get super turned on at the thought of vaginal abandonment and orgasm denial. However, the vaginal abandonment term is not something I hear or read about often. Wondering why that is? I’ll be discussing this with my partner and I am unsure of how he will feel about it. He comes from a fairly conservative culture. So it’s something I’ll need to bring up lightly initially. At any rate I’ve tried finding good resources such as other blogs or articles and even testimonials about specific vaginal abandonment and why it’s done. Not sure if I’m making sense. Perhaps it’s just a terminology issue and I’m missing the point. I dunno.

“Vaginal abandonment” is used interchangeably with “anal only”, and the latter is catchier and easier to use so is more common. But they generally mean the same thing. The end result is avoiding use of your vagina and having anal sex in its place.

There are lots of resources on the topic here, but outside of this community it’s less commonly discussed. If you have any other specific questions or advice wanted, feel free to ask! And let us know how it goes when you discuss it with your partner—I hope for your sake that he agrees to go anal only with you!

Cass: My boyfriend and I started doing double anal this month using a dildo while we have sex and I really really love it. It makes anal even more enjoyable and I think I’d like it to be a regular thing but I wonder how much better it is with another guy rather than just a dildo and also how it is for the guys, can it be something they want to do every time or just sometimes?

Different guys have different preferences, of course, but there are certainly women in a double anal only or frequent double anal dynamic with two men, and some men absolutely love doing it and get increased enjoyment out of the experience in addition to the woman who obviously benefits from a greater stretch and increased stimulation having two penises moving inside her ass at the same time.

Talk about it with your partner and see what he thinks, whether he likes doing it regularly with you, and whether he wants to transition to double anal only and try it with another guy as well. If he’s into the idea, great! If not, see about keeping it at least a regular part of your routine.

Cassie: Hey, I’ve been wondering lately how I can stay anal only and I wonder if you have any ideas. I’ve never had vaginal sex and I don’t want to, I love anal and being anal only because it’s what I’ve always done and I like how it feels and makes me feel and it’s natural and best for me plus I don’t get pregnant but can have sex all the time still.

But I’ve met some guys lately who have really been pushing me to do vaginal and to lose my virginity and I really don’t want to but I really like the guys too. I’d like to stay with them but do just anal. Is there a good way I can convince them that anal only is better?

Stand up for what you want. If being anal only is what you want, don’t let a guy pressure you into doing something that you don’t want to do. If you want a long term anal only relationship, a guy who wants vaginal from you and doesn’t respect your desires isn’t a guy you want to be in a relationship with anyway.

All relationships have give and take, but it’s also fine to have your own needs and requirements and hard limits, and if being anal only is important to you, it’s perfectly sensible for vaginal sex to be a hard limit in your relationship. Be up front about that with partners and if they respect it, great! If not, there are many other men out there, some of whom will share your same desires and love that you want to be anal only!

Anonymous: What are your thoughts on “vaginal sex just on her birthdays”—that is, not being AO once per year?

Everyone can interpret the anal only lifestyle in different ways and make it work for them how they want, but personally I’m advocate for the purity of true anal only, and committing to a better life without vaginal sex and not going back to it.

That said, some anal only women have tried vaginal again after a year or two of anal only and found that it further strengthened their commitment to being anal only because in contrast with the intensity and passion of anal they found vaginal to be boring or downright unpleasant when trying it again. So there may be advantages to trying it at times—not as a treat, though.