ditzystella: hello! so i am wondering if a little tiny nick in the metal is ok for my princess plug? still safe to use as far as you know? thanks! your friendly neighborhood anal only bimbo slut

It depends on the nick—if it’s sharp or rough in any way, I wouldn’t use it as-is, because you don’t want to cut or irritate yourself with it. If it’s something you can feel but doesn’t really catch your finger as you rub it over from any angle, it’s probably fine.

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been interested into trying a month of anal only to see how it goes and we have been taking it slow to make sure I don’t get hurt and he doesn’t hurt himself either but we have run into an issue. Because of taking it slow he has an issue with staying hard enough (we really haven’t done anal much so he has to be 100% hard to get it in) and then I get turned off bc I feel like it’s my fault any advice?

Only go as slowly as you need to. If you’re fine and it isn’t hurting, you can try to go faster. You don’t need to go slowly just for the sake of going slowly, you should just listen to your body and what it needs, and go slowly when necessary but not when you’re fine. You can also warm up with some solo play and by wearing a butt plug before having sex so you’re more ready from the start.

Anonymous: are numbing gels safe? and how long do they typically last? I’ve been curious about experimenting with some on my clit so that anal is the only way I can get pleasure, but I don’t want to permanently lose sensation or anything

I am not a doctor, and asking a doctor would be the appropriate thing to do, but it appears to be safe in small concentrations, and I personally haven’t heard of it causing any permanent loss of sensation.

Anonymous: Hi, my name is Lucy and i am 19 years old, my boyfriend has been pushing me for a while to try anal sex the to become anal sex only after sometime, and I always turn him down because I have a fear of having, pain and diseases from anal, and have a lose butthole. he is kinda wiled and rough so if i said yes for one thing he will keep pushing until he gets everything. i dont want to lose him and i wanna do the right thing, please advise me.

First, he shouldn’t push you to do things you don’t want to do and if you don’t want it, you should make that clear to him and that you expect him to request your wishes.

At the same time, your fears about anal are based largely on misconceptions. Done correctly and with the proper training and warmup first, anal will not hurt. Read the other posts here and elsewhere about anal training/warmup and start practicing with fingers and smaller toys well before trying to have anal sex the first time, and also of course always use lube.

Disease/injury is also generally not a concern from anal sex, again if you practice it safely and work to avoid pain—pain is a sign of injury, and so it should be avoided rather than ignoring it. And it can be avoided.

Getting loose or gaping open all the time is also a myth and something that just doesn’t happen. Instead, with practice and training your anal muscles become more flexible and can expand more easily within a wider range, and immediately after sex or play or plug wear you would notice being looser, but the resting state returns to being tight again quite naturally. Over time you can also actually strengthen the muscles (using them exercises them, as with all muscles) as well as gain more conscious control over how loose or tight you want to be at any given moment—relaxing loosening up at will to help with penetration for sex, etc.

If anal interests you and you’d like to try it, then I’d suggest doing so—on your terms. Start playing and practicing, fingering your ass while you masturbate, working up to two and then three fingers as you get comfortable with the first, then a dildo or a butt plug, and get comfortable and familiar with it before trying to have sex with your boyfriend.

kinkyplaymate22: When starting to try out anal sex, I’ve been wearing plugs here and there. Last night we were successful. Yay! Lots of fun! But I was wondering do you take a few days in-between and start again or go for a couple days then take a break?

Yay indeed! You’ll have to play it by ear and see what works best for you. If you’re getting sore and it’s noticeably uncomfortable, then take a break. If everything’s still great and you feel fine, keep going.

Anonymous: Lately my wife and I have been having much rougher anal sex. It’s amazing, but after I drop my load and pull out, there’s usually a bit of dripping out of her asshole that we’d like to avoid. Suggestions?

I think you left a crucial word out, unfortunately, but I can guess at what you mean. A bit of blood, or a bit of feces?

If it’s blood, try warming up more first, stretching a bit longer and a bit larger with toys before moving on to sex. Make sure you’re using enough lube. Whenever you encounter blood, stop and let it heal for a few days before trying again, just to make sure any minor injuries that may have occurred heal rather than turning into anything larger.

If it’s feces, try an anal douche/fleet enema before having sex. You usually don’t want to go too deep with an enema unless you go for a full deep enema and flush everything out—which you don’t want to do too often anyway. Also try having her wear a plug for half an hour or so before sex—in addition to helping warm her up, it can sort of temporarily “activate” the digestive system and move things along if things are close. If it’s just a bit at the end, though, I presume a minor douche would solve the issue.

Anonymous: I really like to watch prolapse porn, for me is such a turn on to see a girl like Proxy Page having her asshole hanging out after being fisted. I just would like to know how this happens. It’s because having regular anal too often, or it’s because the regular insertion of big toys. I would like to do this with a girl someday, but also I wouldn’t like to hurt somebody.

There are a few different things which people refer to as anal prolapse, but they’re kind of different. The medical condition of anal prolapse is generally involuntary and problematic, and it also isn’t known to be caused by anal sex—it’s more of a preexisting condition or something one might be already prone to. It’s quite rare.

In porn, what is often referred to as prolapse or rosebudding is something that is done a lot more deliberately, and occurs as the result of the anus being significantly loosened and relaxed in the short term through the use of large toys, fists, double/triple anal, etc., and then pushing out hard as if straining when going to the bathroom in order to force part of the rectum into view in the gape.

The former is generally quite a bad and unwanted thing, but the latter isn’t generally an issue or something that occurs outside of deliberately trying to do it after or during a long anal session.

Anonymous: My boyfriend cums in my ass and then sticks a butt plug in me. It’s so hot I’m getting wet thinking about it now.

Good for him (and you)! In addition to being hot, that’s actually a really good thing to do, there have been studies that suggest semen absorption is healthy for women and boosts one’s attitude and mood. Keep doing it!

ebrock1972: Have you or would you do a double or more anal?

ditzystella: Omg! Thanks for the question!!??

I am going to do an about me page today answering a lot of this, but I am more than happy to tell you that no I have never done it YES I would do double, but probably not more than double because I like how small I am and if I take three I’m worried that I won’t be able to go back down to size…

Maybe this is something I should ask @analsexonly … if i have a gangbang of three big cocks in my ass, am I going to go back down to a normal size ever again?

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Stella, the anal only bimbo slut next door ?

You aren’t going to stay loose all the time after double or triple anal, no. Instead, over time your upper limit will increase and you’ll be able to stretch open more easily to accommodate such a size, but still tightening up again when not in use. Buttholes just don’t really get permanently loose or gaping. You can enjoy two or three cocks one day and just one another day. Especially as you train and strengthen your anal muscles, that also gives you a lot more control to both relax and loosen and tighten.

littlelovelylola: Hi! When did you become anal only? Do you fear health consequences? Very curious about trying this if I ever find a daddy…

ditzystella: Hi! I’ve only been 100% anal only for a little less than 2 weeks… no I haven’t feared any health consequences, just keeping very clean and having the best orgasms of my life with a denied, ignored pussy!

I am happy to answer more, here or privately ???

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There really aren’t any health consequences from anal sex, even anal only where you’re having anal sex multiple times a week or even daily, so long as you follow a few precautions! Always use lube, make sure you warm up as needed by starting smaller and gradually working up in size, and backing off to a slower pace or a smaller size temporarily if something starts to hurt, as well as taking a break for a day or two if you get too sore rather than just pushing through any pain. Pain usually means you’re either overdoing it or going too big too soon before you’re ready. But if you’ve got no pain and you’re loving it, it’s all good!