Anonymous: Is there such a thing as too much anal? I can easily have sex 2-3 times a day. I really would call myself addicted as I feel a real ache, a longing, an emptiness when I’m not filled. Should I give in and wear my plug too?

If you’re properly trained and warmed up for it, you can have as much anal as you want. If it hurts or you start getting sore, then you might be doing it to much and should take a break for a day or two until you aren’t sore anymore. Just listen to your body. If your body needs more anal, give it more anal. If anal is starting to hurt or become uncomfortable, back off it a little bit. Try to strike that balance.

Wearing a plug can help to satisfy some of those needs while also keeping you warmed up for more frequent sex. Win win.

Anonymous: I’m very excited to do anal for the first time and I’m going to do it with a friend, but I’m afraid something will go wrong if you understand what I mean. Do you have any advice for me?

You could mean several things, so I’ll answer generally.

If you’re afraid of a mess, make sure to go the bathroom in advance. If you’re really concerned, use a douche/enema bulb to squirt just a small squeeze of warm water into your rectum and push it out, repeating a few times. That should be all you need to do. You can check by inserting or masturbating with a dildo beforehand to see if your rectum is clean.

If you’re afraid it’s going to hurt, you should practice/train with fingers and toys before trying it with a partner, so you know what to expect and prepare your ass for penetration without pain. Some people can dive straight into anal sex without preparation, but most people need to practice a little first. Try it on your own time with a lubricated finger at first, and work up to a dildo.

When trying it with a partner for the first time, make sure to lubricate both his penis and your anus, and do it in such a way that you can control the initial penetration speed, angle and depth. If it starts to hurt, just pause at that position or back off slightly until any pain fades, then continue until he’s all the way in. If you need to pause a moment again to adjust to having him inside you, do so, then start slowly moving and let him take more control as you get comfortable with it. Don’t hesitate to pause again if something starts to hurt.

Combining anal penetration with clitoral stimulation can help a lot when you’re first starting out, both to relax you and to help start interpreting anal penetration as something pleasurable. It’s not necessary for everyone, but if you have difficulty with anal, give it a try.

Good luck and enjoy!

Anonymous: But do this cleaning on the ass often to do anal does not cause disease?

I am not a doctor, but in my experience, cleaning just the rectum with a small amount of water is fine and will not cause any issues with intestinal flora imbalance. If you regularly do deep enemas where you fully flush out the colon, you might be more at risk for causing an imbalance, but that simply isn’t something necessary for the vast majority of people to do before anal, and even a rectal flush may not be necessary in many circumstances.

Anonymous: Not to ruin your fun here but playing with your ass only can cause a whole host of new issues. One of them being the skin around the anus is much more susceptible to contracting STDs such as HIV and HSV. So all I’m saying is… stay safe. Just because you can’t get pregnant playing with that hole doesn’t mean you’re safe.

People should practice safe sex, get tested along with their partners, and use appropriate protection regardless of how they’re having sex. That applies to all sexual encounters, not just for those who are anal only.

painlove1018: Playing with my clit is so stimulating. But when I’m done I’m over it. I have done anal masturbation and the climax has lasted longer then me actually fucking someone. I wanna go longer fingering and eventually fisting my ass. My fear is my ass losing its tightness. Just thinking bout anal masturbation has my clit throbbing. What do I do?

That’s something a lot of women discover, that even though clit stimulation and orgasms feel good, the abrupt end of desire when done can ultimately make one want to find an alternative. This is one of the primary reasons I advocate clit denial for anal only women, because anal stimulation and anal orgasms can provide a great deal of pleasure on their own, without the same impact to arousal.

The idea of your ass getting loose from anal sex/play is more or less a myth. Using your ass stretches and trains the muscles, which increase their elasticity and can ultimately make penetration easier over time, but that doesn’t mean that it won’t remain tight. Even after a session of fisting, you would find yourself tightening back up before long. People who have been having anal sex or engaging in anal fisting for decades report no long-term issues, and couples who have been anal only for similarly long periods report the same, with no noticeable loss of tightness. Just listen to your body and don’t go too fast at a pace that hurts and results in injuring yourself, and you’ll be fine.

By all means, go ahead and enjoy yourself. Masturbate anally only and ignore your clit and you’ll be rewarded with far greater pleasure and arousal long-term.

Gas after anal sex is not a personal problem at all. https://www.google.com/search?q=anal+sex+giving+gas

It’s well documented.

Just not on this blog. Which makes me wonder if everyone here is on the giving end & don’t give a crap about whatever discomforts someone on the receiving end may be going through & any remedies for it?

Clearly, because a particular topic relating to anal sex has not been covered on this blog extensively (a blog whose topics of discussion are primarily directed by the questions people ask, and the relative lack of people asking about that should say something), that means that no one who participates in the anal only community cares about their partner. Yep, no other possible explanation there.

If someone had reached out with a sincere question about that issue, I would have responded with a sincere answer. Given your tone and hostile attitude, a snarky response was all I had.

Another thing. As a polyamorous professional FemDom I am 1 million percent sure I’ve done many more assholes than anyone here advocating for a subject they know little about has, which maybe why I’m not that excited about it.

Good for you, then. Clearly those of us who exclusively practice anal sex know nothing about it compared to you. Is there a point to this?

I know that not everyone can be trained to “cum” from Anal only. In fact very few people can.

Don’t get my wrong I wish they could. Would make play time much easier. But most people can’t. It’s arousing for them etc. But they can’t.

Just the same way some people can squirt & others can’t. Others just have to fake squirts by peeing.

You seem to just be arguing with yourself. You’ll note in my previous message where I said that some women can orgasm from anal sex naturally, some women can learn to orgasm from anal sex, and others require additional stimulation to orgasm, with the majority of anal only women using clitoral stimulation in combination with anal.

Similarly given there is evidence as old as time Women have been faking vaginal orgasms.

The fellas on here need to accept the fact their women maybe faking anal ones even more.

You seem to have a real issue with women orgasming from anal sex and are desperate to conclude that they must all be liars. (Again, even though you can orgasm from anal!)

& That variety is the spice of life & if she starts cheating on you with other men, it’ll be normal.

No one likes a one trick pony lol. Just a thought.

No one is forced to view or follow this blog. There are plenty of men, women and couples who follow it and interact with it, as well as the rest of the anal only community, and they do so because being anal only is something that they’re interested in and either are actively doing or would like to try. Clearly it has no appeal to you. So instead of trying to cause trouble and suggest that anyone who goes anal only is going to end up with a partner who cheats on them because she wants more than anal, I suggest you leave and find a more suitable activity to occupy your time.

Ps. I still think every guy who advocates Anal only should take it up the ass first. It’s 2017 “Normalize” pegging. If AO for women should be normal, it should be too for men. What’s to keep it from being normal for both?

Go ahead and create a blog of your own to advocate for that if it’s something you feel so strongly about. I’m sure you’ll get a following. But that’s not and will not be the focus of this blog. This blog is about female anal pleasure, advocating for women exploring anal stimulation more on their own terms to enjoy it for themselves rather than just for a partner, and encouraging experimentation with anal exclusivity for those who are interested.

whyuaskinme: I love anal sex… but I have 2 problems. It’s difficult for me to relax enough to keep going for very long, my fault not his. I want him to cum in me more often, I think it’s only been twice unfortunately. The other is more of a concern actually…. I’m worried about getting too stretched out for obvious reasons. Any help?

Practice makes perfect for learning to relax and stay relaxed for anal sex. Start masturbating anally more regularly, and wear a butt plug before having sex.

As for your concern about getting “stretched out”, that just doesn’t really happen. Think of anal stretching as more of a muscle stretch like before exercise, it warms you up, increases your flexibility, and makes you less likely to injure yourself. It doesn’t make your muscles weak or “loose”. Your natural resting state will still be tight. Even people who engage in more extreme play with huge toys or fisting on a regular basis are still tight again if they stop playing for a while. So don’t worry about that at all, enjoy training your ass and having anal sex as much as you like!

In fact, the only real effect of doing it more often will be that it will be easier to relax and able to enjoy sex much more.

Anonymous: Kinda tmi and idk if this is the right blog to ask but you give really good advice and I really like anal. I cant do it often tho because I pretty much always have poop in my rectum, like permanently when you stick a finger in and idk if thats normal or not. I only poop like once a week and need to fully enema before every time I have sex anally. I sometimes have to just do vaginal because its too much trouble but I much rather prefer anal.:/

Not a problem, I’m always happy to offer anal advice, and it’s anal sex, so questions and discussion about poop are kind of to be expected!

I’m not a doctor, and you might talk to one if you find this to be a problematic situation for yourself, but I can offer suggestions to try. Generally, most people’s rectums stay empty except right before going to the bathroom when they get that urge to go. That feeling is poop leaving the colon and entering the rectum.

Where this can sometimes not be the case is with a diet that isn’t quite balanced right, doesn’t have enough fiber, etc. This can lead to poop that the body has a harder time managing and processing and moving along. So you might look at your diet and see if it could be a factor. Read through this recent thread on the forum and see if anything might be appropriate for you. Definitely avoid adding fiber too rapidly, though, you want to increase it more gradually.

Exercise can be a factor as well sometimes, it helps keep you more regular if you’re exercising daily.

Anonymous: As a girl with a tight budget and not much anal sex experience (other than masturbation ofc) what is the best and safest way to clean your anus and insides? And is it harmful to me since I have irritable bowel Syndrom to engage in such acts? Because I do get the best orgasms from anal sex, and my partner sure loves it to.

First, figure out if you need to clean at all. A balanced, high-fiber diet is usually the best way to be clean and ready for anal sex. Your rectum stays pretty clean naturally most of the time, and you may not really need to do anything. Wearing a plug or using a dildo before having sex can both help warm you up and give you a chance to check and make sure you’re clean for sex.

If you do still want to clean yourself out beforehand, you don’t need much. Just a small container with a nozzle to put warm water inside and squirt into your rectum. You don’t need much water and you don’t want to go too deep with it, just enough to clean the rectum without getting water beyond into the colon. You can pick up a fleet enema or even a vaginal douche at a pharmacy and use it (just for that purpose, obviously)—but you only need to use warm water with it, nothing more.

As for IBS and anal, I admit that I’m not sure. I don’t think it will cause you any trouble, but you should assess that on your own terms and approach it slowly at first, increasing frequency if you find it’s going fine and doesn’t cause any problems. I know there are people who manage to do anal play and sex regularly despite IBS, so it seems like it can be managed. I say, if you enjoy anal so much more, go for it and figure out how to make it work for you.

Anonymous: What are your thoughts on the use of amyl nitrites like Rush or Jungle Juice to relax your sphincters for anal sex?

Not really something I have any experience with or interest in, personally. Poppers come with health risks, and I’m a strong advocate of naturally training and learning to control and relax your anal muscles without needing to use artificial means.