blessedcyclope: Hello. I’m anal only with my gf since a year. We prefer to have anal in a natural way, I mean, she doesn’t put enemas previously to penetration. We don’t have problems the most of the time, but in some ocassions it turns a little bit dirty, you know. We don’t have problems with this dirty stuff, we could say that it turns us on. The problem is vagina, we want to avoid any problem with bacteria, so, do u knowaproduct likea barrier or something to avoid that contact?

I don’t. Just don’t get it in contact with the vagina when it happens?

toxic-puddin50: Hi, female,25. So I’ve always enjoyed anal, like most people who’ve asked you questions, i find it feels better than vaginal. However, I worry about doing it TOO MUCH. As amazing as it is I don’t want to destroy my anus. Can you recomend any technique that might work other than moderation?? Thanks♡♡

As long as you take care of yourself, don’t ignore pain or minor injuries/bleeding and have them grow into something bigger as a result, and pace yourself and take breaks as needed if it starts hurting or getting unpleasantly sore, you can’t have too much anal, and it won’t cause harm to you.

The anus is very tough, and can handle daily sex. Muscles are strengthened through proper use, not weakened. Incontinence/prolapse and other scary sounding things as a result of anal sex are a myth. Enjoy it all you like!

Anonymous: So me and my girlfriend have been anal only for about two months now and things have been great! However, today we were about to have sex and I was doing my usual foreplay with a dildo in her ass but after only a few seconds of the dildo in her ass she screamed in agony (mind you the dildo is a lot smaller than my penis) and I took the dildo out and there was a tiny little bit of blood on it… why all of a sudden did a small dildo hurt when we’ve been having frequent anal for two months now?

It could be that she just wasn’t quite expecting it or prepared for it, or the shape, hardness, or angle was off from what she’s used to, and so her muscles tensed up instead of letting it in. Let her recover for a few days before trying again, and go a little more slowly at first for a while.

Anonymous: Is it safe for beginners to sleep with a buttplug in?

Sure, as long as it’s a safe buttplug with a wide enough base that won’t slip inside. If it starts to hurt during the night, take it out and try to go for a full night another time. Otherwise, it’s perfectly fine.

Anonymous: I am trying to be an anal girl only, I would like to know how I do to practice every day without interfering in my body. I love anal and enjoyment even more without my partner, please help me!

Just start having anal every time you have sex instead of vaginal, whether that’s every day or several times a week to begin. Increase the frequency over time as you are able to do so. What sort of “interfering” are you referring to? If it makes you too sore to do it so often, do it a little less frequently and work up over time to being able to do it as frequently as you want.

Anonymous: I love the blog. My wife and I have a great sex life. Over years we’ve worked up to anal sex and do it quite a lot. It is more passionate and the orgasms are more intense for both of us. However, my wife is concerned about doing it too often. She thinks it may make her incontinent. Is there real cause for concern? For the record we don’t do anything extreme, we always start slow and use lots of lube.

No, there is absolutely no cause for concern. You can have anal sex every single day for the rest of your life and not have a single issue so long as you follow safe practices and don’t cause (and then exacerbate) injuries. The anus and rectum are really strong, tough parts of the human body. If there’s pain or blood, you should always stop and let it rest or recover before continuing, so as not to make a (almost always very minor) injury something more that will take longer to heal, but just having anal sex with lube and proper warmup should not cause injury. If it doesn’t hurt regularly beyond standard soreness that can come from any sort of sex, you’re fine. Having it more often in fact makes it a lot easier to have without pain or injury.

The anal sphincter is a muscle, and using/exercising muscles makes them stronger, not weaker. Incontinence from anal sex is a complete and utter myth. The natural resting state of the anus is closed, and it relaxes and loosens when “flexed”. Increased use, practice and training of the anal sphincter can expand the range and size it can open up to to accommodate more, but it will still close up nice and tight when it returns to its relaxed state.

Anonymous: Last year I went ass to mouth with my dildo (deepthroating it, too) and a few days later I got a pretty hurtful throat infection. Now, i can’t blame it for sure, it could have been the cold, but I’ve been more cautious since then. My advice to anyone who enjoys doing it would be to only do it when you’re absolutely sure you’re clean, and even if you are, don’t deepthroat it? lol

It’s a good idea in general to be visibly clean when doing ass to mouth, and generally there’s little risk of an infection from your own ass when you’re clean. It’s possible that if you had a more sensitive throat or a weakened immune system from your cold that it made an infection possible to happen where it otherwise wouldn’t have, or as you say, it could’ve just been the cold causing a sore throat/infection and nothing to do with deepthroating a dildo out of your ass.

Anonymous: Hey, my name is Sarah, i’m 24 years old and i’m a big fan if this blog. The thing is, i’m still a virgin and i’m okay with that because i and my boyfriend do anal a lot (7 to 9 per week) . i do anal for 2 years now with him and i’m strangely comfortable with it. i just wanna ask you guys one thing, for the last year my boyfreind cum inside my ass always.. is that a normal thing or i should stop him for doing that ? thank you 🙂

I would say that it’s very normal for a man to cum inside a woman’s ass. It feels good, it’s good for you, and it’s a natural and normal place to do so. If you like it too, yourself, there’s no reason to stop, really. There have even been some studies suggesting that it’s really beneficial to do it!

Enjoy, and keep on being anal only!

Anonymous: How do I have anal sex without lube ??

Why do you want to? Most people need lube of some sort not only in order to enjoy anal but also just to practically do it. Being looser and relaxed can help, but some form of lubrication is just generally going to make things more pleasant for everyone.

Anonymous: I was wondering if you know anything about extended plug use? Like always wearing one to sleep and wearing one during the day. I enjoy it but I was wondering if there are any negatives?

If it’s comfortable for you and doesn’t start to hurt, there are no negatives. Wear it for as long as you like. It’s not going to make you gape open permanently or be loose long term. If it starts to hurt, however, or feels like it’s cutting off circulation in any way, take it out for a while and try again after a break.