Anonymous: Do you recommend cleaning before anal sex? What if it’s just spontaneous?

Everyone’s bodies are different and each person has different concerns, so it can be hard to answer this objectively for everyone. Most people want to enjoy clean anal without a mess, but there are different ways of achieving this. In most cases, with a balanced diet that has enough dietary fiber and not too much fat, simply using the bathroom beforehand is enough. The rectum, where sex generally takes place, doesn’t tend to remain full except for right when you feel the need to go to the toilet. Inserting a plug or dildo right before sex can be an easy way to quickly check and make sure, too.

If you want to really ensure cleanliness more, you can clean out before having sex. But this doesn’t need to be a big ordeal—certainly not a full deep enema every time, just use a small enema bulb/anal douche with a small amount of warm water to flush out the rectum several times in a row. That’s it, unless you’re doing big toy/depth play, you don’t need to do more than that, and using too much water and getting it deeper into the colon past the rectum usually ends up making things messier (unless you commit to a full, deep enema) rather than being helpful.

With experience, you can usually just go to the bathroom first and make sure or be able to tell by listening to your body whether you’re likely clean and ready for sex. With a regular digestive routine, you can usually tell when is and isn’t a good time. Some people choose to use a light enema/douching right after going to the bathroom each day so they’re ready for the rest of the day assuming a regular routine.

Anonymous: Which diet do u essentially recommend while doing the anal only month? Thx

Any well-balanced diet will do, try to have a healthy amount of dietary fiber and avoid too much fat and you should be fine. The most important thing is to try and get into a fairly consistent digestive routine and be able to listen to your body to know when you need to go to the bathroom, etc.

hypnotic-sliver: Hi, I’m a denial slut and just found the Anal Only April challenge. I’m thinking of participating but I don’t have a partner and don’t want to have to wash up toys every day so I was wondering if you had suggestions of solo activities to keep stimulation fresh and interesting the whole month. BTW I’m already on no touch for my clit unless it’s thundering outside. Lucky for me for this challenge my ass is the one place a vibrator feels good to me. Anywhere else the overestimulation is painful.

The need to wash one’s toys is a fairly small price to pay for the fun and pleasure of being anal only, so I would encourage not letting that get in the way of trying it.

I’d suggest starting with what you already enjoy in terms of anal stimulation—your vibrator, perhaps—and working up from there with an assortment of fingering, dildoing, and butt plug wear. Different people like different things with anal, so you could either explore a variety to see what you like, or if you already know, pursue those things. Some want depth, some want girth, some want a mix, and some just want to fuck their ass in a certain way that gives them a lot of pleasure.

This may not have been a very helpful response, and I apologize if not, but if you have any additional questions I’d be happy to follow up with another response.

analonlylesbian: I was talking to a real life friend about anal, and what I got is that they weren’t denying the pleasure aspect, but they were grossed out by the poop aspect. It didn’t seem like anything I said could really counter that, although I guess I could’ve pushed harder, but although I’m an advocate, I don’t like pushing people. Anyway, can you think of anything I could say to them to allay those concerns? I want to help people discover the joys of anal if I can~! ^_^

A few key talking points about anal cleanliness:

• Diet is a big part of cleanliness, so having a balanced high fiber diet and avoiding excessive fatty/greasy foods will generally keep things clean.
• The rectum, which is where sex takes place, is generally empty and quite clean with a healthy diet except for right before one needs to go to the bathroom. Feces is in the colon and only enters the rectum when it’s time to be expelled.
• Knowing your daily digestive cycle and going to the bathroom before having sex is going to avoid the majority of any cleanliness issues.
• If concerned about it beyond that, use a small amount of warm water in an enema bulb to flush just the rectum a few times. From here, you should be good to go.
• Finally, it is your butt and while you can play in a clean manner most of the time, understand that sometimes it can just get a little dirty. Be prepared for that, have something to clean your toy/partner handy, and don’t be too worried about it. Laugh it off, clean up, and resume having fun.

Anonymous: How can I keep myself ready for anal? Sometimes my husband gets to my ass before I’m completely cleaned out. Should i just be ok with it being messy?

Sometimes anal is just a little bit messy and it’s not that big of a deal, however you can do things to minimize the chances.

If you have anal sex most or every day, try a schedule of cleaning after going to the bathroom each day rather than just before sex. It doesn’t need to be much, just a small amount of warm water to flush out the rectum (but no deeper) several times.

Wearing a butt plug regularly can help as well—it not only helps you keep more in tune with that part of your body and know how you feel, the stimulation helps clean yourself out naturally if necessary, and removing it before sex helps you verify that you’re clean.

Anonymous: I’m very excited to do anal for the first time and I’m going to do it with a friend, but I’m afraid something will go wrong if you understand what I mean. Do you have any advice for me?

You could mean several things, so I’ll answer generally.

If you’re afraid of a mess, make sure to go the bathroom in advance. If you’re really concerned, use a douche/enema bulb to squirt just a small squeeze of warm water into your rectum and push it out, repeating a few times. That should be all you need to do. You can check by inserting or masturbating with a dildo beforehand to see if your rectum is clean.

If you’re afraid it’s going to hurt, you should practice/train with fingers and toys before trying it with a partner, so you know what to expect and prepare your ass for penetration without pain. Some people can dive straight into anal sex without preparation, but most people need to practice a little first. Try it on your own time with a lubricated finger at first, and work up to a dildo.

When trying it with a partner for the first time, make sure to lubricate both his penis and your anus, and do it in such a way that you can control the initial penetration speed, angle and depth. If it starts to hurt, just pause at that position or back off slightly until any pain fades, then continue until he’s all the way in. If you need to pause a moment again to adjust to having him inside you, do so, then start slowly moving and let him take more control as you get comfortable with it. Don’t hesitate to pause again if something starts to hurt.

Combining anal penetration with clitoral stimulation can help a lot when you’re first starting out, both to relax you and to help start interpreting anal penetration as something pleasurable. It’s not necessary for everyone, but if you have difficulty with anal, give it a try.

Good luck and enjoy!

Anonymous: Being anal only for as long as you have, do you need much prep to have anal sex or play? Do you need to stretch or clean or is your ass always ready to take it? I’ve been anal only for one month and just in one month I can see the difference and how easier it is to take my boyfriend. I even noticed we don’t need as much lube as we used to.

ilikeitintheass: My ass is nearly always ready to be fucked. I don’t do much prep unless I’m having an off day “bowel movement-wise”. As for stretching, I don’t need to do that. Just some lube or spit, and I can slip in my fingers or my toys in my ass easily. Same when a guy fucks me. I noticed this too with the last guy i fucked who is bigger than am used to. And he pushed himself in and my ass just opened up for him. He was big and I wasn’t used to him but within minutes he was deep in my ass.

I think this is the training and consistency of being anal only.

Anonymous: But do this cleaning on the ass often to do anal does not cause disease?

I am not a doctor, but in my experience, cleaning just the rectum with a small amount of water is fine and will not cause any issues with intestinal flora imbalance. If you regularly do deep enemas where you fully flush out the colon, you might be more at risk for causing an imbalance, but that simply isn’t something necessary for the vast majority of people to do before anal, and even a rectal flush may not be necessary in many circumstances.

maxhdrm17: I am very curious about hygiene for anal only, do you do a cleansing regimine before you play? I like anal but am not into the mess I get sometimes… Any advice and guidance would be greatly appreciated.

ilikeitintheass: I can honestly say that I worried more about hygiene before become anal only. Now it’s pretty easy, just going go the bathroom half an hour before play or sex is enough. If I feel I need it, i’ll push some water in using a douche, a VERY VERY small amount and push it out slowly. Repeating this step 2 to 4 times, making sure the water doesn’t get deep and just flushes out the rectum.

I find most people who struggle with anal prep, usually don’t know how much water it takes to fill their rectum and not go beyond. That’s when you cause more mess than you bargained for. once the water has reached your colon, you have to either do a full enema or wait it out.

I am noticing a lot of questions about anal prep lately. So I’m going to make a full post with some links that will hopefully help.

Anonymous: What’s your typical pre-anal prep routine?

ilikeitintheass: I’m very anal about my prep :p pun intended.. When I first got into anal, I used to do a full cleaning, an enema of some sorts.. Now I just do a quick cleaning before play, nothing too deep. Maybe it’s the fact I have anal regularly, but sometimes just going to the toilet half an hour before having anal, I am clean enough and don’t need to push any water in to clean. I think this depends also on how regular you are. I’m pretty regular and I rarely worry about this..