Anonymous: Um hi, any advice for leakage after removing the plug? I just got a plug and I try to make sure I’m clean before I put it in and it seems sometimes after I remove it I find little bit of a leak in my panties. I love the feeling of it, but I don’t want to risk my partner seeing.

Go to the bathroom before wearing it, and if you want to clean out further, use a small enema bulb/anal douche with just a little bit of warm water several times to flush out the rectum but no deeper. Shouldn’t need anymore than that.

Anonymous: I want to do Anal only November but I don’t know a lot about anal prep. Like I know how anal works and have done it before but I would like to know what you think all the steps of prep should be.

I highly recommend participating in No Pussy November!

Everyone has different needs and preferences for preparation before anal. Some will want to clean out beforehand, others don’t much need to, as the rectum is generally empty except right before going to the bathroom. If you plan to, I recommend just using a small amount of warm water to only flush any residue out of the rectum and not get the water deeper into the colon. Repeat a couple times with just a small bit of water. It should only take several minutes. If you use more water and get into deeper enema territory, you risk causing a bigger mess rather than just cleaning up a little bit.

As for warmup, wearing a butt plug for a while before having sex can be an excellent and enjoyable way to do so, especially if you already have anal experience. A bit of dildoing can do the trick as well. If you’re less experienced, you may want to work through more of a gradient from something small like a single finger, then add fingers as you feel comfortable doing so, working up through the sizes.

If you have any other or more specific questions, feel free to ask!

Hi.. I’m writing from clansmancro’s profile as his girlfriend/sub.. We are more than 10 years together but in anal only relationship for last one year.. Therefore, my question is about it.. Since my digestion is not reliable, having anal session needs a lot of preparation before and that is often not enough to be completely carefree and clean..
My problem is that everyday going to toilet is not enough, I probably have so called ‘lazy’ intestines… I have tried all sorts of things but nothing helps.. Do you have any useful advice which will make this easier so we can enjoy anal sex without thinking about what the if there’s something left?
And i must tell that we enjoy in some hard anal games so jus regular sex is not always our goal…

Talk to a doctor for advice on more regular, reliable digestion, but a few basics include gradually increasing your dietary fiber intake if constipation is often the issue or trying something like immodium to stabilize a bit more. A small enema/douche can help clean yourself out without being too involved or time consuming like a full, deep enema. Wearing a butt plug when not having sex can also help keep yourself stimulated in that regard and help things move along.

If doing harder/deeper anal play, the deeper enemas may be your primary solution, however. They’re an essential staple for deep play, generally.

Anonymous: Hi, it’s really inspiring that you’re so dedicated to your ass. I’d like to have anal sex more often, and it’s my dream to wear a butt plug everyday. You have so much experience. Do you have any tips about keeping empty and clean? I’d greatly appreciate it.

dumbandpretty: Thanks! Well, dreams only come true if you work for them. Buy a beginner size plug and start wearing it as often as you can. Push your limits, gradually work your way up, and before you know if you’ll be taking cocks in your ass like a champ. As for keeping empty and clean: if you eat well (a balanced diet) and recognize that your butt is where all your waste leaves your body (i.e. that no matter how much effort you put in, there will be times when you’ll encounter feces) and try to bathe/shower before anal, it’ll help. You can also go one step further, which is what I occasionally do: enema kits are widely available and simple, if uncomfortable, to use.

Anonymous: Kinda tmi and idk if this is the right blog to ask but you give really good advice and I really like anal. I cant do it often tho because I pretty much always have poop in my rectum, like permanently when you stick a finger in and idk if thats normal or not. I only poop like once a week and need to fully enema before every time I have sex anally. I sometimes have to just do vaginal because its too much trouble but I much rather prefer anal.:/

Not a problem, I’m always happy to offer anal advice, and it’s anal sex, so questions and discussion about poop are kind of to be expected!

I’m not a doctor, and you might talk to one if you find this to be a problematic situation for yourself, but I can offer suggestions to try. Generally, most people’s rectums stay empty except right before going to the bathroom when they get that urge to go. That feeling is poop leaving the colon and entering the rectum.

Where this can sometimes not be the case is with a diet that isn’t quite balanced right, doesn’t have enough fiber, etc. This can lead to poop that the body has a harder time managing and processing and moving along. So you might look at your diet and see if it could be a factor. Read through this recent thread on the forum and see if anything might be appropriate for you. Definitely avoid adding fiber too rapidly, though, you want to increase it more gradually.

Exercise can be a factor as well sometimes, it helps keep you more regular if you’re exercising daily.

Anonymous: As a girl with a tight budget and not much anal sex experience (other than masturbation ofc) what is the best and safest way to clean your anus and insides? And is it harmful to me since I have irritable bowel Syndrom to engage in such acts? Because I do get the best orgasms from anal sex, and my partner sure loves it to.

First, figure out if you need to clean at all. A balanced, high-fiber diet is usually the best way to be clean and ready for anal sex. Your rectum stays pretty clean naturally most of the time, and you may not really need to do anything. Wearing a plug or using a dildo before having sex can both help warm you up and give you a chance to check and make sure you’re clean for sex.

If you do still want to clean yourself out beforehand, you don’t need much. Just a small container with a nozzle to put warm water inside and squirt into your rectum. You don’t need much water and you don’t want to go too deep with it, just enough to clean the rectum without getting water beyond into the colon. You can pick up a fleet enema or even a vaginal douche at a pharmacy and use it (just for that purpose, obviously)—but you only need to use warm water with it, nothing more.

As for IBS and anal, I admit that I’m not sure. I don’t think it will cause you any trouble, but you should assess that on your own terms and approach it slowly at first, increasing frequency if you find it’s going fine and doesn’t cause any problems. I know there are people who manage to do anal play and sex regularly despite IBS, so it seems like it can be managed. I say, if you enjoy anal so much more, go for it and figure out how to make it work for you.

Anonymous: Food to keep a good anal lifestyle pls

Check out this thread on an Anal Sex Diet on the forum.

blessedcyclope: Hello. I’m anal only with my gf since a year. We prefer to have anal in a natural way, I mean, she doesn’t put enemas previously to penetration. We don’t have problems the most of the time, but in some ocassions it turns a little bit dirty, you know. We don’t have problems with this dirty stuff, we could say that it turns us on. The problem is vagina, we want to avoid any problem with bacteria, so, do u knowaproduct likea barrier or something to avoid that contact?

I don’t. Just don’t get it in contact with the vagina when it happens?

Anonymous: What about the possible “mess” if you know what I mean

The rectum, where anal sex primarily occurs, generally stays empty except right when you need to go to the bathroom. Go in advance, and you’ll be fairly clean. Use a small anal douche to flush out the rectum with a small amount of warm water if you want to be extra sure.

Hi, it’s again the housewife whose husband went anal only. My husband and I never talked about masturbation, it’s just something that I instinctively avoided before. During sex, I never rubbed my clitoris for example because I felt it would be rude to masturbate when you make love – I’d rather have my partner do it or not have it at all. And masturbating alone was weird to me for a married woman. That attitude probably helped me when my husband started to ignore my clitoris and orgasm needs.

Anyway, I did what I said in my previous message, I started masturbating my ass just before the time I knew my husband would come home from work so he “surprises” me. It was amazing. He just smiled at me and sat on a chair, looking awesome in his work suit, and told me to keep going. After a while, he took his cock out of his suit and started to jack off slowly, it was so hot. Then he joined me, removed the dildo from my ass, put it in my mouth, and fucked me like that, all dressed up.

We’ve never done anything so hot, me naked and him still in his suit, one hand gripping my hips while he fucked my ass and his other hand pushing and pulling the dildo out of my mouth. We did talk a lot after that, like I hoped. He told me that, as you predicted, he always preferred anal sex, to the point he was looking forward to my periods to have an excuse to fuck my ass rather than my pussy.

Then he said after I gave birth to our son, my “cunt got way too loose” (when he said that I felt humiliated and turned on at the same time, I blushed and felt a tingle in my ass, it was weird), and he realized he couldn’t stand vaginal sex any longer and wanted sex to be more about him and his own pleasure – so, he switched our sex little by little to check if I was OK with it, but he said he never thought I’d enjoy it to the point of masturbating anally when he wasn’t around.

He said he’ll buy a butt plug for me to wear so I’m not as frustrated when he can’t fuck me, and he’ll make sure to fuck my ass more frequently and harder. I then said everything you told me to say, that I love that we’ve only been having anal sex and that I want to stay that way, that it confused me at first and I felt some frustration, but the frustration turned into arousal, and I enjoyed our new sex and the denial of things he didn’t care about, and I added I would do anything for him.

After that, we made love again, then he asked if I’d be OK with more new stuff, like tying me up (“of course dear”). It’s funny how when I wrote to you, I wondered how to tell him I still wanted vaginal and clitoral stimulation and orgasms, and the end result is I’ve accepted those are gone for good and I’ll get much more anal. But I feel really great about it, relaxed.

I do have an advice for girls who can’t get into anal, though: try having enemas, it’s really what triggered it for me. I had problems opening up before and feeling free to push my ass muscles because I feared I may not be clean, but using a small anal douche really helped me feel more comfortable, and allowed me to both open wide and contract around my husband’s cock to bring him more pleasure.

Anyway, thanks a LOT for your feedback. I felt completely lost and “abnormal”, and now I feel great, like both me and my husband found our right place! Funny how my son’s birth reignited our sexuality! Kisses!

It sounds like communicating was a positive experience with a positive outcome for you both, and you’re both happier and know where each other stand as a result. Congratulations to the both of you, I’m sure you’ll both have a wonderful time exploring your new anal only life together.