alwaysanalblog: “It may seem obvious but anal sex is an ideal form of contraception and for those couples who for whatever reason want to avoid pregnancy having anal sex rather than vaginal sex still provides both with pleasure without the risk. This may be due to cultural or belief restrictions or simply that traditional contraceptive methods are not possible. You cannot get pregnant through anal sex alone. Unless some sperm somehow comes out of the anus and finds its way into the vagina, you will not get pregnant. This eases the tension that is sometimes felt between two people during sex. Without that tension, people are freer to enjoy themselves, and men get to finish inside women—something that they all love to do. It’s a win-win for everyone.”

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yesannarose: Hi, im new to anal play and was wondering how long I can keep a silicone plug in?

As long as you want and it feels comfortable to do so! It’s certainly not going to harm you to keep it in even for quite a long time, and your body will let you know if it wants it out. Listen to your body, and the more you practice with it, the longer you’ll be able to comfortably wear it. Enjoy!

Anonymous: What are the pros and cons of having my boyfriend cum in my ass? I want to try it, especially because I wouldn’t mind feeling some of his cum drip out of me and down my leg in public, but I want to know what I’m getting myself into if he does

The pros are that it feels good and is sexy and hot for everyone involved, plus semen absorption via the rectum has actually been studied scientifically and it has health, arousal, and mood benefits for women. The cons are limited: it can leak out later, and for some women it may cause cramping or an urge to use the restroom. That is not universal, however, and all you need to do is experiment with it a few times to see what its effects are for you.

Anonymous: Hey there, I’m nervous to have anal sex with my boyfriend but we both really want to. I have read everything on how to take it slow and how to make it feel better, but I have an awkward question. Does it stretch out the anus? Or will it go back to normal?

It will absolutely go back to normal. The anus is a muscle (or a set of muscles) and just like you can stretch your other muscles (e.g. before exercise), you can stretch your anal muscles, but that doesn’t make them function less or change the fact that the default state of anal muscles is tight and closed. It’s more that you increase their range of flexibility and, over time, conscious control.

Cosmo continues to work to shed its past image of bad sex tips with a well-written article debunking myths about anal sex. Check out some excerpts below.

Anal sex has an unfairly bad reputation. In this, the unofficial Era Of Ass, anal sex deserves a rebrand as the totally fine, very safe thing that it is. It’s time to shed the taboos and bust the myths.

THE MYTH: YOU CAN JUMP RIGHT IN.

The truth: Mm, not quite. Your rectum isn’t as pliable as your vagina, and also unlike the vagina, it’s not self-lubricating. Vanderlinde strongly advises taking your time if you’re just starting out, and working your way up using smaller things like fingers and thin toys. “Sometimes it takes a few different encounters,” Vanderlinde says. Patience!

THE MYTH: IT WILL HURT.

The truth: Anal sex doesn’t have to hurt. It’s often just done incorrectly. Many women find it incredibly pleasurable, and some even report having orgasms with them. If you and your partner start slow, work your way into insertion with smaller implements like fingers and sex toys and use plenty of lube, pain will be the last thing on your mind.

THE MYTH: ONCE IT HURTS, IT WILL ALWAYS HURT.

The truth: So you tried it once and insertion hurt really bad. You made your partner stop and vowed never to go “back” there again. You don’t have to shut the backdoor because of one or two negative experiences. Most of these experiences have to do with not following the above instructions: Go slow, graduate in size and use lube. Plus there is a nice trick to get you relaxed. If you also stimulate your clitoris at the same time it can encourage the pleasure over pain response.

THE MYTH: ONLY “SLUTS” HAVE ANAL SEX.

The truth: You’ve always heard that bad girls are the only ones willing to have anal sex. In actuality, anal sex was once voted the number one taboo sexual behavior that heterosexual couples want to try. So obviously, we all can’t be sluts. There’s a natural curiosity about our bodies and if there is pleasure to be had, you should feel you can explore that in a safe and healthy way.

The following one, however, isn’t perhaps as much of a myth as they suggest, given this community. It’s certainly not something that’s universally true, but it’s definitely the case that a lot of men lose a lot of interest in vaginal after experiencing good anal, but until recently many of those men haven’t admitted that very openly. So they hedge somewhat in their answer, and end up staying too conservative here.

THE MYTH: ONCE YOU GIVE YOUR PARTNER ANAL SEX, IT WILL BE ALL HE WANTS.

The truth: It’s no secret, many men do cop to the fact that they enjoy the additional tightness the anus affords as compared to the vagina. But most men don’t want to give up the main entry either. Vaginas are still revered. Anal sex tends to be a “treat” mixed into your regular sexual repertoire of play.

Better to tell the truth and admit that yes, many men will prefer anal sex and it doesn’t need to stay just a “treat”, but can become the main element of your sex life if you both enjoy it and want it to.

Read the full article at Cosmo

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.

alwaysanalblog: Agreed on that last one. There will always be exceptions, but for the most part experience of anal will change your views of sex forever. Most men, understandably, won’t want to go back to what they now can see to be inferior.

This is a case of Cosmo playing it safe, trying to to scare the readers but assuring them their vagina’s are still “special”. The truth would be hard to swallow and be counter productive. So while it’s not really true, I think Cosmo made a wise choice to downplay this.

Anonymous: “It feels better. Anal sex has the potential to be a lot more pleasurable than vaginal, and doing it very regularly or replacing vaginal…” How would you know what could feel good or better for women or not? I just think that you’re lost in your fantasies and trying to find excuses to put it in everyone’s mind lol grow up pls, vaginal is natural. anal on female ppl are made out of porn industry aka male fantasies. ofc there might be females enjoying it but don’t generalize.

I know what feels better from experience, from partners, and from a lot of other women that I’ve talked about the subject with. Does it universally apply to everyone? Of course not, nothing does. But in my experience, done right, pretty much everyone can really enjoy anal, and anal pleasure is often better and/or more intense than vaginal.

This blog is a mix of fantasy scenarios and real-world experiences and advice. Many of the photo captions are fictional scenarios or intended to fuel fantasies for men and women both. Some are based on real scenarios. But the conversation, shared stories, and advice are real people talking about real life.

Women practicing or enjoying anal has nothing to do with porn industry fantasies, anal sex has been practiced for many thousands of years.

If you don’t enjoy anal or aren’t interested in the anal only lifestyle, this might not be the blog for you. It’s literally what the blog is for, for me to advocate my preference for anal sex and anal only, and for people who share that interest or are curious about it themselves to learn more or be inspired to try it for themselves. No one is pushing anything on anyone, people are free to follow this blog or not, to fantasize about it or not, to try it for themselves or not.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following responses.

mushroomanjc: Lol op is a fuckin retard

ausducatiguy: Seems like you have a genuine troll on your hands. I’ve had at least one partner who couldn’t cum any other way.

Anonymous: As a porn actress and industry insider, let me tell you that we are actually ACTORS. Anal does NOT feel good for us women. It just gets better with lube and the proper technique so we are able to perform it in a way that it looks amazing. Get real and aknowledge our skills and effort to entertain your FANTASIES.

I’m sorry to hear that you don’t personally enjoy anal sex, but that does not mean that your experience is typical or applies to everyone. Making blanket statements like this ignores the reality that there are many, many women out there who enjoy or prefer anal sex and who choose to do it because they like how it feels and it’s what they want.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following responses.

cholzin: Yes depends on the Woman.

gblacky: My wife was adamantly against anal for a few years of our marriage. But, over a little time, and after discussing it and starting small, she really got into it. Starting with rubbing her asshole, then one finger, then a small plug, to now she almost demands it in her ass. Not anal only, but she’s expressed the idea being extremely hot. Anal is our “default”. She cums so hard from it, and the look on her face shows how much she loves it.

bigbuttboy4lyfe: Sounds like she probably just hasn’t had it done right. I personally love anal and I’m pretty much anal only with occasional exceptions. I don’t know how anyone can NOT love it! The best part is how anal just feels better and better to receive over time with more experience too!

padeyepete: Some women love giving blowjobs even though they receive no physical pleasure. Men receive no physical pleasure from cunnilingus. They enjoy bringing their partner extreme pleasure. It’s a mental state.

pervertedprincesspetals: This is such a lie. Anal is fucking amazing.

wowindescribable: My girl is absolutely crazy for anal. Anytime, anywhere, and most of my previous girlfriends (and wives!) loved loved loved it too. This person does not speak for ‘women’.

alwaysanalblog: Ah, the porn actress who hides behind anonymity. There are many understandable reasons for wanting to remain anonymous about this subject, but from a ‘insider’ who is not ashamed to take a cock in the ass for money?!

There is a big difference between anal sex for cash with someone you may not be attracted to, and anal as part of a loving and healthy relationship with real emotions. Perhaps she should try that, because it apparently works for many women.

Anonymous: Hi. A friend of mine directed me here. I only got to try anal sex recently at a girls insistence. For years I avoided it as I heard so many negative things about it and if i’m honest I assumed it must be over-rated. I was wrong and the experience was amazing. If this is a lifestyle then you can sign me up!

Thanks for sharing! A lot of people, men especially, avoid trying it or say that it’s overrated and that nothing could compare to pussy, but those people generally either haven’t tried it or have only done it a few times or with a partner who doesn’t enjoy it much or know what she’s doing. Doing it with a partner who wants it, enjoys it, and is experienced can make a huge difference and it sounds like you had a fantastic first experience with anal that will bring you back for lots more going forward.

It is a lifestyle, and it continues to grow all the time, with more and more people both discovering anal and falling in love with it, and also realizing they greatly prefer it to vaginal and choosing to go all in on anal only. It’s a great thing.

Be sure to check out our forum and chat as well!

Anonymous: In your experience are there any women just to small for anal? I’ve known some really petite girls (some not even 5′) but never got to try anal with them. What about large men/small women? Surely it becomes a stretch at times? Or any other ways that some just aren’t anatomically compatible?

Everyone is different, and an overall physical size difference can pose some challenges in some cases, but it’s not a totally limiting factor, nor is it the only factor. Some very small women can be extremely skilled at anal and some larger women can struggle with it. Pretty much anyone can get to the point where they can do and enjoy anal, it just might take a little more effort for some than others.

Anonymous: God was not made human penis to push it into feckalias. What would you do once anal become boring to you? This is the same way to human selfdestruction as drugs provide. Love is all we need. You do not know to provide and get love.

Humans are pretty good at adapting and evolving to what works best for us, and anal works far better for sex than vaginal. And, unlike vaginal, anal doesn’t get boring. There’s nothing destructive about it. Maybe you should try it instead of attacking people who enjoy things you don’t understand.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.

dildowife: I think the anon is jealous because nobody wants to have butt sex with him.. ?