One of the best ways to get into the anal only lifestyle is to try it for an extended period of time. We recommend trying it for a whole month, as it gives you enough time to adjust to the routine and work out the kinks, but some people start just doing it one day a week, or for a weekend, then expand it to one week a month, and slowly work their way up to being anal only for a whole month or more before committing to it long-term.
We’re now halfway through Anal Only April, our annual event encouraging people to try going anal only for a whole month to experience what it’s really like to do just anal long-term and discover the benefits of doing so for them. Read our introduction post about it from the start of the month here.
If you are just discovering this now, or haven’t have a chance to try it yet, it’s not too late to get started! You can either plan on taking part in the next two weeks until the end of April, or you can just get started on a full month right now!
If you have been taking part, don’t forget to check in and let us know how things are going. Updates, questions, and requests for advice are all always welcome from anyone and everyone.
Darly W: I had a girlfriend in college that was so totally into anal it’s all she wanted to do. She got me hooked. She could take it straight to her ass with little to no warm up. The great thing is she didn’t like condoms, so I got to nut in her ass every time we fucked. Since we were monogamous and clean it wasn’t an issue. I’d bet I seeded her ass nearly 1000 times in the three and a half years we dated. If only I knew how lucky I was I would have done whatever it took to keep her.
I’ve been in several relationships since with women who would have anal sex, even a couple who really enjoyed it. None wanted only anal sex though.
My wife willingly has anal sex about two or three times a month. She orgasms every time, she just doesn’t seem to want it more than that? I would give anything for my wife to be anal only.
Is there any advice you can give for someone in my situation?
Have you tried talking to your wife about it? Not necessarily about diving right in to anal only, but about how much you love her ass and having anal sex with her and wanting to do it more often. Don’t just make it one-sided, ask her what she thinks about it, and listen. If she has hesitations, ask her about them. Most of the reasons someone might oppose having anal sex more often if they enjoy it on occasion can in fact be mitigated by working up over time to having more frequent anal sex.
First announced a few weeks ago, Anal Only April 2019 has now officially begun! Read through the earlier post for the full details, but in essence, it’s a challenge for you and any partners you may have to only have anal sex for the entire month, as an opportunity to explore the anal only lifestyle without a long-term up-front commitment.
If being anal only intrigues you, here’s your chance to try it for yourself. If you’re already anal only, take it as a month of celebration and as much anal sex, masturbation and butt plugging as you can manage, or an opportunity to explore a new twist on the anal only lifestyle that you’ve been fantasizing about or are curious to try. At least one long-term anal only woman is making this Anal Only April a “double anal only” month!
As always, if you plan to participate, let us know and share your experiences and questions throughout the month and beyond. After all, most people who try going anal only for a month or two at first find that they don’t ever want to go back to vaginal by the time their trial period is over!
Vince: So I’m trying to abstain from all types of masturbation until April and then starting April 1st I’m going to try and go all month anal only. So far since my last post I haven’t given in to the urge to touch my penis. Is it normal for it to get extremely hard to resist the urge to touch and then it starts to tapper off cuz it was easy for awhile and lately it’s been really hard to resist even tho I’m having anal orgasms. So wish me luck on no touching and making it thru April
Sounds like a good plan!
It can increase and decrease in difficulty depending on a lot of different factors, and just personal variation. Stick with it and you’ll get through the difficulty, and give yourself lots of anal orgasms to make up for it and remind yourself why they’re better.
If it really gets hard to resist, you can try using a chastity device during periods of extreme temptation.
This was originally meant to be posted a week earlier to give people more notice, but a scheduling error resulted in missing the original planned date. Apologies, and hope everyone is able to participate anyway!
Yes, it’s that time of the year again! If you’ve been looking for an excuse to try going anal only for yourself, or to bring up the idea with a partner, here’s your chance.
The rules of Anal Only April are simple: starting April 1st, whether on your own or with your significant other, stop all vaginal penetration for sex and masturbation, and replace it with anal instead.
Clitoral stimulation is optional. If you would like to go for a more advanced form of anal only, try doing it without touching your clit and only orgasming through anal. If you need your clit in order to enjoy anal, combine it with anal, but only rub your clit while also masturbating anally.
Oral sex is still allowed and encouraged, especially blowjobs and rimming. Cunnilingus is optional—some choose to exclude it, others still include it but don’t engage in any vaginal penetration as part of it.
Try your best to stick with anal only for the whole month—it’s a long enough period of time that while you might struggle a little bit with it at first, whether adjusting to the frequency of anal sex, or dealing with lingering cravings for vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation, by the end of a month most people figure out what being anal only is really like, and a majority of people who enjoyed their month trial either choose to stay anal only and not go back to vaginal, or return to it again later after a break.
If you’re already anal only, don’t worry— you can still enjoy Anal Only April yourself. Challenge yourself to have anal sex every day of the month, or to start wearing a butt plug or masturbate anally every day, or to experiment with clitoral denial and anal only orgasms if you aren’t already, or to start doing ass to mouth regularly, or to train your ass with bigger toys to be able to do anal fisting or double anal. The possibilities are endless for exploring new things as part of the anal only lifestyle. If you already enjoy double anal, consider trying making April a double anal only month—whether with two partners every time, or with a partner and a dildo, or two dildos.
Over the next week, get your plans in order, get your partner (if any) on board, and if you haven’t had anal sex yet or for a while, start working on training so that by the time Anal Only April begins, you’re ready to dive in!
If you decide to take part, let us know! Share your plans, ask any questions, and keep us updated as you start exploring the anal only lifestyle!
Jeremy and Anna: So she got into anal cuz she saw me playing with my toy and when she got comfortable she started using the toy on me and she would ask questions like doesn’t it hurt and what does it feel like for me and I would tell her.
One day I asked her do you want me to try it on you and she said sure so I took things slow just starting with a finger and we continued to mix some anal play into our mix and then about 3 months ago now I asked her if she would try an anal only month and I told her if it was to hard she didn’t have to keep doing it and through that month she tried clitoral denial and then after that month she went back to using her clit but has been anal only.
Now this month she is trying clitoral denial for my birthday present plus she has been wanting to try it lately so far she’s struggling but making it maybe you could give her some encouragement to stay on track and to keep her goal in mind thanks for your blog it’s great
That’s great that she was open-minded about not only doing anal play with you but also about going anal only herself.
If she needs clit stimulation in order to enjoy being anal only, then that’s a perfectly reasonable compromise, but since she wants to try eliminating clit stimulation as well, then I definitely encourage sticking with that goal and getting to where it’s entirely unnecessary for her. It can definitely be hard at first, if she’s been very used to using her clit to masturbate and orgasm up to this point, but keeping the goal of pure anal pleasure in mind and sticking with the routine of not using her clit for increasingly longer amounts of time will help it keep getting easier. You can continue to help her as well by encouraging and praising her and telling her how sexy you find it that she wants to give up her clit and be totally anal only.
If it’s hard to resist during masturbation/sex, you can use a topical anesthetic cream like Orajel applied in a small amount directly to the clit to temporarily numb sensation and eliminate the temptation to rub it. This only lasts an hour or two, but can be helpful if the urge is hard to resist at times.
Evan: I asked my girlfriend to go completely anal only with no clit or pussy stimulation and she said she’d do it if I did it too so I said sure I like anal penetration anyways and she said she would go as long as I can go so any tips to keep way from touching my penis so she won’t touch her clit?
Sounds like a fun and interesting challenge to try together!
For one, you could always try to play together as much as possible so you can hold each other accountable and remind each other not to touch. Otherwise you can check in with each other daily and talk about it to help keep reinforcing it for the both of you.
A physical chastity device is probably your best bet if you have a hard time with the self control side of things. You can get cheap chastity cages on eBay for considerably less than the high-end ones available, though of course fitment and comfort may not be as good as with high end or custom ones.
Anonymous: I was trying to figure out what to get my bf for V-day when I found your post about giving a gift of anal only. We’ve done anal pretty much since we started dating so we both love it and I’ve wanted to go anal only for a while but was kind of too shy to ask him before. Your post gave me the push I needed and after we had dinner and headed to our bedroom I told him to put it in my ass, and as he lubed me up and slipped inside, I told him that I loved him and that my gift to him was a month of just anal, no pussy.
He got very excited, I could feel his cock get even harder inside me, and we fucked really hard and fast until I had cum twice and he had cum deep inside me. When he pulled out, I got up and sucked his cock clean, something we had done occasionally before but not often, but I wanted to get used to doing it often if we were going to only do anal now. It was really sexy to do it because I wanted to do it and he groaned and told me he loved me.
We’re a couple weeks into being anal only now and it’s been everything I hoped for. He keeps telling me how much he’s enjoying it too, so I really hope that after the month we can stay AO for good.
I’m glad to have inspired you to do what’s right for you and what you’ve wanted to do for a long time, and that your boyfriend seems to be enjoying it as much as you! Stick with it, continue exploring it further together, and I’m sure neither of you will ever want to go back to vaginal sex.
Still looking for a last-minute Valentine’s Day gift to give your boyfriend? If you aren’t already anal only together, why not go anal only for him? Whether it’s for the day, for a week, or for a month, tell him you want him to have anal sex with you as often as he wants without doing vaginal at all.
And if you are already anal only, this could be the opportunity to introduce something new, like clitoral denial, long-term butt plug wear, or working up to double anal, fisting or larger anal toy use into your routine.
And if by the end of your day, week, or month of anal only, you find that you really enjoyed it, just keep going with it! A trial period like this is a great way to discover that you actually prefer being anal only.
Lucky: I want to share this with you because I am very excited! I suggested to my wife that we went only anal for a few months as you say, she agreed! She didn’t even hesitate or question, she just said it doesn’t matter, it sounds interesting. We start from the first day of the year, at least until April.
Congratulations! I’m guessing you both already enjoy anal together for her to agree so quickly to the idea, and that also suggests that she likes anal a lot or even prefers it. Going anal only may have been something she was already interested in, even.
Anal Only April begins April 1, so you should probably at least go until that’s over. But, if you’re still doing anal only together after three months, there’s a good chance that you aren’t going back to vaginal anyway and will be staying with anal only for good.
