Anonymous: I’ve heard talk about this “lifestyle” but didn’t think about it much. Now I have a boyfriend who wants to do “only anal”. It can feel good for me, but all the time? He says it’s the normal progression for when u get this serious. I can see how it can be more intimate but can it really work for bf/gf? And why do you strongly encourage people to do so?

It absolutely can work for a couple, and there are a lot of boyfriends/girlfriends as well as married couples out there who are anal only together. However, you should do it because you both want to, or at least both want to try it. It’s never something that should be forced or pressured if one partner is uninterested. Encouragement, expressing a desire to do it, and asking a partner to try it is fine, but not unwanted pressure.

I encourage people to go anal only for many reasons, some of which you’ve already touched on:

• It’s more intimate. It’s most people’s most private part of their body, and not only sharing it with your partner but making that sharing of it the primary part of your sex life together is a very loving and intimate expression of your trust and connection.
• It feels better. Anal sex has the potential to be a lot more pleasurable than vaginal, and doing it very regularly or replacing vaginal with it in order to focus on anal pleasure is a great way to get into the right rhythm and routine for it to feel great and always be warmed up and ready for it.
• It’s natural birth control. What’s not to love about that?
• It’s sexier. Anal sex is very aesthetically pleasing and there’s just something absolutely beautiful about the visual side of it. Beyond that, though, it’s also a very sexy idea for a lot of people, the idea of focusing on anal instead of vaginal appeals to many in a sexy way.
• It’s a shift away from reproductive urges driving sex to a focus purely on mutual pleasure and intimacy. Sex is rarely about procreation, yet people keep using the vagina despite anal having other benefits. Since anal done right feels better, shifting away from vaginal to just anal offers a lot for this mindset.

I’d encourage you to give it a try with your boyfriend. You don’t have to commit to it long term just yet—try it for a month or two and see how it goes from there. Most people find after a month of anal only that their concerns about it were a bit overblown and that they don’t actually miss vaginal sex, and it’s easy to just keep going.

Either way, good luck!

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alwaysanalblog: I don’t think the boyfriend is trying to force her, rather it is perhaps his clumsy way of trying to take the relationship to the next level. It shows a sense of commitment from him, since it is a natural progression to want more pleasure and intimacy for each other.

And if I have read this correctly they are both still young and so obviously procreational sex is far from their minds and the lifestyle helps them enormously in this regard.

Kudos to her for giving anal only obvious consideration and not dismissing out of hand. Better access to information has limited the powers of our out of date moral guardians.

I also wish them the best of luck.

Anonymous: That’s the plan! If we both still love it like we do so far we’re going full time anal only! I think it’s pretty much guaranteed tbh and I’m really excited, I’ve kind of fantasized about it for a long time but I was embarrassed to ask for it until now and I think he’s really into it too, so we probably should have done it before, but at least we’re doing it now! It’s so good! Thank you so much for your blog and inspiring everyone to try this.

Excellent to hear! I kind of figured as much, since in my experience when someone tries anal only and starts raving about how much better it is, there’s a pretty good chance they’re anal only to stay at that point. Good luck!

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alwaysanalblog: It’s also an enormous sense of freedom to throw off the chains of stifling sexual conformity – AKA vaginal (procreative) sex. No longer doing what you are told to do, but instead with your natural inclinations and what feels best.

I don’t doubt at all that he’s really into it. He probably was as equally embarrassed to ask for what he wanted most. However, while most men are quietly enthusiastic about anal, it seems to be the women who are most vocal once they’ve tried anal.

Anonymous: Checking in with Anal Only April! We’ve been doing it for a week and a half and it’s been really, really good! We decided to not use my clit at all this month unless it got too hard to continue, but I really like not using it. It can be kinda frustrating and hard sometimes and I still have to remember not to touch it, but it makes me a lot hornier without it and even just this far I’m cumming a lot harder than when I always rub my clit. It’s really true that it’s just better without it.

That’s great you’re having a good time with it! Enjoying and exploring is what it’s all about. Since you’re already seeing the benefits of being anal only and avoiding playing with your clit, it’s really likely that it’s going to keep getting easier throughout the month and you likely won’t miss either your pussy or clit much by the end of the month. If that ends up being the case, I strongly suggest just continuing as you have been and not returning to vaginal.

Anonymous: I did it! I made it all the way through anal only april! It was hard at first but this past week I kind of stopped missing my pussy so much and I feel like I really found the appeal of being just anal only. I don’t know for how long, but I’m going to keep going and see how things go from here. There’s a part of me that really craves staying anal only now that I’m a month into it, but I don’t think I’m to the point of fully committing to that yet. We’ll see!

Congratulations, and well done!

Everyone has a different way of becoming anal only, some knowing pretty quickly that it’s what they want and starting to identify as AO indefinitely, while others ease into it without a long term commitment, but over time find it’s how they want to stay. Do what makes you comfortable and if after a few more months of anal only you find yourself still enjoying it and having fun and wanting more, then keep doing it.

Anal Only April 2018 is over! Congratulations to all those who participated! Hopefully you had a wonderful time—and if you really enjoyed yourself, why not consider keeping the anal only streak going and not returning to vaginal sex? Let us know your experiences, what you plan on doing going forward, and any questions you might have. If you didn’t have a chance to participate in Anal Only April, consider doing your own month long anal only challenge anyway—or if you want to participate in a big group event, No Pussy November will be coming up later in the year.

Anonymous: Congrats to the anon lady yesterday. Anal every day is amazing and her husband so damn lucky!!! And I’ll bet that he really appreciates her efforts not to touch her pussy. Well done to her for making him so happy and learning for herself there is a much better way to have sex!!!

Indeed! It’s always wonderful to hear people’s anal only success stories, isn’t it?

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alwaysanalblog: A great story. I think we need as many people as possible to come forward and show that there is a better way to have sex. Bonus points for not touching the pussy! It’s hard at first I know, but well worth it in the end. And it also shows how committed the women is, which as anon points out is very much appreciated.

Anonymous: I’m the anon who surprised her husband for easter at the beginning of the month. I’m happy to report that not only have we gone anal only for the whole month, but we’ve actually had sex every single day this month when before we never had sex this often. He hasn’t touched my pussy, and with his help I haven’t either except out of necessity. At the beginning of the month I was looking forward to vaginal again, but now I really want to keep this going especially if it means having sex more often.

Thanks for following up! I’m glad to hear Anal Only April has gone very well for you and that you not only stuck with it all month but that it’s has noticeable benefits for your sex life.

You should definitely just stay anal only and enjoy the continued benefits!

selftraininglittlegirl: For all of April I havent had sex, as a personal abstinence challenge, the chastity belt has helped with that on occasion.  

During May I was considering keeping my pussy closed off, but opening up my ass for sex, what do you guys think?

Anonymous: My girl and I decided to try anal only April. She wasn’t sure at first but we’re only a week in and she’s already wearing a plug to work sometimes. I don’t think we’ll ever go back.

That’s great! If you’re both already this into it and don’t think you’ll go back, it just keeps getting better, so you’re probably really going to love it by the end of the month.

Anonymous: My Dom wants me to go anal only for a while so I can learn to cum from anal… but idk how to cum from anal. Any suggestions?

He has the right idea. Focusing just on anal for a while and avoiding other means of orgasm like vaginal sex and clitoral stimulation will not only increase your arousal and make you more sensitive, it also forces you and your body to learn to orgasm from different means, and if you’re concentrating on a lot of anal during that time, it can help to start unlock that ability. Just explore anal and start to pay attention to what feels particularly good with it and while seems like it might lead to an orgasm if you keep doing that, and let it build. Don’t be too frustrated with it if it doesn’t always happen every time or if it starts to build but doesn’t go anywhere at first. Just keep trying and enjoy the process. You’ll get there.

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alwaysanalblog: I second that advice, with would add: don’t ‘try’ too hard. Enjoy the moment and the feelings. Since you are a sub, you should be stimulating the mental side as much as you can. Think about your doms enjoyment and pleasure and how it makes you feel to give yourself so completely to him.

Far too often people underestimate the power of their imagination and fantasies.