hypnotic-sliver: Hi, I’m a denial slut and just found the Anal Only April challenge. I’m thinking of participating but I don’t have a partner and don’t want to have to wash up toys every day so I was wondering if you had suggestions of solo activities to keep stimulation fresh and interesting the whole month. BTW I’m already on no touch for my clit unless it’s thundering outside. Lucky for me for this challenge my ass is the one place a vibrator feels good to me. Anywhere else the overestimulation is painful.

The need to wash one’s toys is a fairly small price to pay for the fun and pleasure of being anal only, so I would encourage not letting that get in the way of trying it.

I’d suggest starting with what you already enjoy in terms of anal stimulation—your vibrator, perhaps—and working up from there with an assortment of fingering, dildoing, and butt plug wear. Different people like different things with anal, so you could either explore a variety to see what you like, or if you already know, pursue those things. Some want depth, some want girth, some want a mix, and some just want to fuck their ass in a certain way that gives them a lot of pleasure.

This may not have been a very helpful response, and I apologize if not, but if you have any additional questions I’d be happy to follow up with another response.

Anonymous: So I want to go over into either exclusive or mostly anal, but my fiance is reluctant to, because he doesn’t want it to lose the “specialness” or the leverage he has (as a punishment/reward, depending on the day). What are some ways I can convince him?

Anal is inherently a special act, and becoming anal only doesn’t change that. Speaking personally, I found vaginal sex to get boring and bland quite quickly, but after many years of being anal only I’ve never gotten tired of or bored with it. If it’s what you prefer and enjoy much more, it doesn’t stop being special.

Since it sounds like anal is what you prefer and want exclusively, anal as a punishment doesn’t make too much sense for you. Perhaps the threat of vaginal would be a better form of leverage. It doesn’t necessarily ever need to be followed through with, but since you don’t want any vaginal, it can be an effective means of leverage to avoid getting fucked vaginally.

As far as actual punishment, there are all sorts of options that don’t need to involve vaginal sex. Spanking, or pussy slapping for increased sensitivity, clit denial (if your plan to be anal only doesn’t already include this as a default), clit numbing, temporarily going oral only, etc. are all viable options.

Rather than making a permanent commitment to anal only right now, why not try it out together for a month or two and then decide from there once you’ve seen how it is in practice? Anal Only April is coming up soon, it can be a good opportunity to participate in an anal only challenge along with a lot of other people, and to show him how much fun being anal only can be.

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alwaysanalblog: I’ve never understood this attitude that more of a good thing somehow diminishes it. I hope it is not too late for her as this is a huge incompatibility if they are to be married. Plenty more fish in the sea and most wouldn’t be so foolish as to turn down anal only.

Anonymous: I really like the idea of Anal Only April and we’re going to try it! I’ve wanted to go anal only before but this was a really good excuse to ask my boyfriend if we could try it as a challenge and he agreed! We’re going to try it with no pussy or clit for the entire month (I can cum from anal pretty easily) and my goal anyway is to stay with just anal after too if all goes well but we’ll see what he thinks at the end of the month. Wish me luck!

Fantastic to hear, and exactly what the anal only challenge months like Anal Only April and No Pussy November are intended for—something to inspire people to actually go ahead and try committing to anal only for a month and see how it really is for themselves. It can also be an opportunity for someone who already knows or thinks it’s what they want to explore it together with their partner and see if they want to get on board with the idea as well.

Of course, any month can (and should) be an anal only month, and someone need not wait for one of these events if they and/or their partner is eager to try it, but it can be fun and drive a lot of enthusiasm and participation when lots of people are taking the same challenge together.

Good luck, have fun, and show your partner just how great being anal only can be!

Anonymous: My husband reintroduced me to anal sex a few months ago after I’d had bad experiences when I was younger. He did it right and I love it now. I’ve even had my first orgasm without my clit through anal. We saw the advertisement for Anal Only April and we’re going to do it (we’ve actually started already!) but we’re wondering if you recommend going without my clit for the month for someone so new to anal.

Congratulations for your discovery of how great anal can and should be, and for deciding to commit to Anal Only April (with a head start, no less!).

If you can already orgasm from anal without clitoral stimulation, then yes, I definitely encourage you to try Anal Only April without any and just focus on pure anal stimulation and pleasure. The absence of clit stimulation for an extended period will shift your arousal and pleasure centers further towards anal for you, and you’ll likely find it getting easier and easier to orgasm from just anal. If by the end of the month you’re finding it hard to continue without it, you might continue with anal only but add your clit back into the mix.

Have fun!

Anonymous: So I’ve talked to my gf about doing anal only April. She seems on board but is a little apprehensive. Any tips?

Talk through any of her concerns well before you seriously consider doing it. Ask her if there’s anything she is worried about. Make sure she knows you want it to be fun and enjoyable for the both of you and that you’re willing to do what it takes to ensure that. It should be a fun, sexy challenge to try together, not something either partner pushes on another.

If she has specific concerns, try to work through them together. If you don’t have all the answers, feel free to ask here.

Announcing a brand new Anal Only Challenge month! To balance out No Pussy November, we’re adding Anal Only April as another opportunity to introduce yourself or your partner to the anal only lifestyle.

The best way to see what anal only is all about is to dive right into it for at least a month and stay committed to no vaginal sex during that time. This provides you with a clear focus on anal pleasure and gives you time to work out the kinks and develop a routine that works for you. Many people find by the end of a month or two that they really enjoy being anal only and want to stay that way.

Sound like a fun thing to try? In advance of April, start talking with your partner if you have one and get them on board with the idea, then start to prepare your (or your partner’s) ass so it’s ready and eagerly awaiting its use as a complete substitute for vaginal sex. If you don’t have a partner but would like to participate, you can challenge yourself to change your solo play habits to be anal only or to work on developing or improving your ability to orgasm from just anal.

For those who are already anal only, of course, every month is an anal only month. Anal Only April and No Pussy November, however, offer an opportunity to revisit the idea, celebrate how much you enjoy being anal only, and consider if there is anything new you’d like to add to your anal only routine. If you regularly engage in clitoral stimulation, for example, you could challenge yourself to stop that and focus on pure anal pleasure and orgasms instead. If ass to mouth isn’t something you do but would like to try, you could start incorporating that regularly. Starting to wear a butt plug regularly is an option if you don’t already do so. Larger toys, fisting, depth play, double anal… the possibilities are endless.

If you’re planning on participating, we’d love to hear from you what your plans are, and we’d love to receive updates as you go through Anal Only April to see how it’s going. And you can always stop by the Anal Only Lifestyle forum and chat to talk with other anal only people, share your experiences, get ideas, ask questions, and get advice.

reguara: I do not have vaginal penetration since 2016. But i still touch my clit a lot. I feel now it is time to reduce that. I was wondering if stop masturbating While having my Ass fucked is a good start. Or you rather suggest another approach?

Congratulations for deciding to take the next step and work to stop using your clit.

If you often touch your clit outside of anal masturbation or sex, you could start by only allowing yourself clitoral stimulation while receiving anal penetration of some sort.

If you already only stimulate your clit during anal or you’d rather dive in with something a little more focused, I’d suggest warming up with light anal stimulation—rimming or external anal massage—rather than using your clit, and start practicing focusing on the sensations and pleasure points you can find from anal stimulation rather than distracting yourself and drowning them out with your clit. Focus on what feels good with anal and pursue pleasure and orgasms with anal only.

Starting out if you find yourself near an orgasm but unable to get over the edge, try a small amount of clitoral stimulation at the very end—just a light touch or two—to push yourself closer to the edge, but try to actually get over the edge with your ass. The more you do it, try to rely on your clit less. If you can already cum from anal, you should avoid using your clit in this situation.

Sometimes during the transition you might not reach orgasm. It’s a process of getting to that point, and it’s good to recognize that it’s okay to not orgasm every time while you’re working on moving away from your clit, and the increased arousal of having sex without an orgasm at the end can help make it more likely to figure out how to achieve more consistently in the future.

Anonymous: I did anal for my first time last night with my bf and oh my god why did I wait so long?? It felt sooo good and I came from it before he was done which I never do from vaginal! I told my bf we’re going to be doing a LOT more of this, and he couldn’t stop grinning. ? I kinda want to go anal only already but one step at a time right? Thank you for all the advice you post, it really helped a lot and I’m so glad I found it.

It’s always great to hear from people who read up on what to do to enjoy anal, follow the advice, and discover how great anal is as a result. Congratulations on the great experience, and enjoy your continued exploration of anal! If you’re already orgasming from it, it sounds like you’re very much naturally inclined to enjoy and likely prefer anal.

Unless you’re both really serious about wanting to go anal only, I would suggest focusing for now on being able to do it regularly, getting fully used to it without getting sore or injured, and gradually increase the frequency you do it—especially if you’re transitioning to anal from frequent vaginal. Once you can comfortably do it 3 or more times a week, then consider going anal only for a month or two as a trial period to see how you enjoy it.

Anonymous: So, I have a bit of a problem. My fiancee really likes to have vaginal sex, but my ass has always felt more like my pussy to me than my actual vagina. I want to get him to try going anal only with me, but he likes the idea of pregnancy-risk too much to want anal sex exclusively. Do you have any advice for a girl who loves anal but has a partner that wants vaginal? Do you think there’s any way I can wean him off of vaginal? He’s told me that he still likes for me to beg to be bred even during anal

Sorry for taking a little while to get around to responding to you, I’ve been considering my response for a while.

First, if you haven’t already, I think you should express to him just how much you prefer anal and that it feels more natural and enjoyable to you than vaginal and that you’d like to at least do it more often. Not everyone gets on board to go anal only from the get-go, but getting there over time is often possible, even if just by gradually increasing the frequency that you do anal until it becomes your new default.

It’s not quite the same, but perhaps a concession to his pregnancy risk fetish could be to treat him cumming in your ass as if he’s impregnating you—especially as you note he likes you begging for him to breed you even during anal. You can also do things like pushing out his cum and letting it run down across your pussy after.

A lot of anal only people treat the vagina as only for impregnation and the ass for sex and pleasure.

Can you get him on board with trying AO for a month? A lot of people have all sorts of reasons they don’t want to be AO before they seriously try it, and a lot of those reasons go away after a month or so of actually doing it.

A somewhat rambling and perhaps not very helpful response, but I do hope you’re able to work out a way for anal only to work for you, whether by showing him that it really is better, or by coming up with a compromise that works for the both of you.

I decided my wife would go AO about 11 days ago and we’d do it for 4 weeks and see how she handles it, she’s desperate to get her pussy fucked but she’s a really good sub and is really starting to make the most of AO, luckily for her she loves anal and orgasms from it a lot but the next couple of weeks could get interesting

Thanks for sharing! A month challenge of anal only is a fantastic way to introduce a partner to it, and the fact she loves anal and has lots of orgasms from it is an excellent sign that being AO might be right for her.

It’s not uncommon for her to have vaginal urges at first, but it gets easier with practice. By the end of your 4 weeks, she may have a somewhat different opinion about being AO and might even want to keep trying it.